Vicki Gunvalson is writing a very passionate blog about her former friend Tamra Judge this week. Vicki says she is hurt by all of the toxic behavior and lists facts with links, claiming the rumors about Tamra’s husband Eddie were already out there in 2011. Read Vicki’s explanation of the drama below.
“Itâ€™s been incredible having Steve in my life and my familyâ€™s life. Heâ€™s a calm sense of balance in my life and just a class act man. It was so nice coming home after work to Steve taking care of the boys so well and cooking for us. Having a glass of wine already poured for me shows me how much he cares for me, and he knows a great glass of wine always helps me to relax after my long day at the office.
I love watching Steve play with the boys like he does. He is patient with them, and little Owen is usually attached at the hip to him which brings me so much joy. Steve is a natural when it comes to children, and the boys really adore him.
We are fortunate to live so close to Briana, and on the night that she works her 12-hour shift at the hospital, we are there to babysit the kids for her. Itâ€™s a win-win for everyone.
Iâ€™m glad that Meghan invited me to the Sip-N-See to see Aspen and to put aside our differences from the past. She is a beautiful little baby, and I am so happy for them. Lord knows we are never going to forget our conflict, but I believe time heals and hopefully that is happening here with us. I donâ€™t necessarily agree with everything she did, but now that time has gone by I can reflect on what I did wrong as well.
Shopping at the baby clothing store was interesting to say the least. There was a mother in there with her child, who obviously had a very bad smelling dirty diaper who shopped like there was no issue at all. It was the most rancid disgusting smell we have ever smelled and was at the point I almost had to leave the store. It was crazy to us she didnâ€™t excuse herself, change the diaper and come back in to shop. Wow!
Now onto Tamra for a moment. Tamra plays â€œpsychiatristâ€ to all of us, which as Kelly pointed out last year at the reunion she is unqualified to do.Â Â She does this for the mere fact to attempt to position herself as IF she is above everybody else. She is quick to say, â€œKelly fights dirty,â€ but Kelly hits you where it hurts, impulsive and in the heat of the moment, whereas Tamra has shown time and time again her viciousness is premeditated and calculated. A few examples of the depths Tamra sinks toâ€¦ calling me â€œold ladyâ€ at the reunion, saying she is â€œbetter than me,â€ calling her bestie, Shannon, â€œHannibal Lecterâ€ during her interviews, criticizing Shannon for eating and drinking too much, giving me a t-shirt at Shannonâ€™s fitness competition celebration that said I was convicted of lying, and this week telling Meghan and Shannon I am the sh** on the bottom of her shoes. She obviously â€œthinksâ€ she is better than me which she is not. She acts superior among us women when she is not. Talk about delusional!
Now onto Tamra and Shannon! I am going to try my best to be as diplomatic and classy as possible, but these women are out of line. Tamra has this idea in her head that Iâ€™m this evil person, and that I go around making up lies which I donâ€™t. She canâ€™t get off my ex-boyfriend’s name, and is stuck in a relationship of mine that ended over two years ago, which had nothing to do with her.Â I am the one who was damaged, I am the one who was lied to, I am the one who supported him financially, and I am the one who was hurt. Why canâ€™t she ever see it out of anyone elseâ€™s eyes but her own? She got involved in my relationship when in fact, that is her entire â€œbeefâ€ with me is that she doesnâ€™t want anyone in her family or her relationship. Â Such a hypocrite.
Hereâ€™s the facts once and for all:
- I was not the first one to repeat or reveal the rumor about Eddieâ€™s past of being gay. Let me make this very clear to all of you: I donâ€™t care one way or the other about his past relationships. Tamra is the one that should be discussing this with her husband, not lashing out at me for discussing it with my friend. My question is why does she keep directing her anger towards me? Just so you know, before I had that private conversation with Kelly about Eddie, it was already widely reported in the public domain his â€œunorthodoxâ€ relationship with a gay man that adopted him as an adult. Kelly would have eventually found out about it herself sooner or later without me. Notice this date of 2011 on google where Tamra discusses it prior to their marriage.
- Tamra should address these rumors with her husband head on and move on from it. If Tamra wants to get upset with me for discussing it privately with Kelly (off camera) then thatâ€™s on her. I canâ€™t control what has been said about him, nor do I care!
- Tamra is stuck in the past regarding my ex-boyfriend, and Iâ€™m tired of every time she opens her mouth about me she calls me a LIAR. â€œHeâ€ has already revealed in multiple interviews that I was never in on a scam! Furthermore, a scammer benefits from the scam. What did I ever benefit from this so called scam? NOTHING! Now I ask the question why do Tamra and Shannon continue to bring up a relationship that ended over two years ago?Â I wasnâ€™t married to him, I wasn’t engaged, and I was the one who was scammed! I personally think itâ€™s a way for them to deflect off their own families back onto me so no one focuses on them. Iâ€™m going to sit back and watch Karma do its job with them because it always does. I think itâ€™s completely disrespectful to Steve that she would continue to talk about my ex. Iâ€™m not talking about Simon, so why is she so hung up on a past relationship of mine? Can you say â€œDEFLECTION?â€ Very clearly in this public statement â€œheâ€ made after we broke up, that I was NOT in any scam. Now move on!
- Hearing Tamraâ€™s filthy mouth is so classless, and Iâ€™m tired of her continuing to talk crap about me. She continues to try and influence my friends that Iâ€™m a bad person. Just wait, Shannon, itâ€™s only a matter of time before she turns on you too. For her to call me a bitch, a victim, scum and dirt under her feet is so classless. Who talks that way about someone? And what exactly did I do to deserve this? Did I maliciously go out to hurt her? No, last year I simply had a conversation with Kelly about why is it ok for her to talk crap about other people, but sheâ€™s off limits Â Itâ€™s not right.
Tamra and Shannon want to continue the conversation on â€œwhat I have done to them,â€ and if I started the list I would be here all day long writing it. They know what they have done, and itâ€™s not pretty. Tamra is notorious for hurting people and getting other ladies to side against each other so she feels powerful. Itâ€™s a game she has been playing for years, and Iâ€™m not playing it any longer. Tamra is notorious for kicking someone when they are down, which I have no desire to do to her.
The conclusion of my blog this week is Iâ€™m hurt by all this toxic behavior and negativity by Shannon and Tamra. I am in a really good place with my family and my relationship with Steve, and I donâ€™t want it to be influenced by their negativity anymore. I have no desire to stoop to Tamraâ€™s level by name calling her, but I wish she would once and for all rise above her anger and show her children and the world what itâ€™s like to be â€œkind,â€ forgiving and loving.”
Watch the clip from the episode below.
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