Vicki Gunvalson Says Tamra Doesn’t Understand How It Feels To Be Ganged Up On, It’s Never Happened To Her!


Vicki Gunvalson is opening up about the dinner the women had at Tamra’s fitness studio on The Real Housewives of Orange County. Vicki takes to her Bravo Blog to say she felt Gretchen acted immature, and to make it known the way Alexis was treated was not okay in her eyes. Vicki points out that nobody has ganged up on Tamra yet, so she doesn’t know how it feels.

Vicki writes, “Given the fact that we all have been friends, I thought the right thing to do was to ask Tamra if Alexis could come to her party. I didn’t know all the reasons why Tamra and Alexis were at odds; I just felt it was a good reason to bring Alexis with me to be my “girl date.” I didn’t want to go by myself because I felt like I really didn’t have an anchor or friend there. Everything was so new with Tamra and me, and I really didn’t know how she would treat me in front of Gretchen. I just didn’t want to be put in an awkward situation with them so I was a little apprehensive on going.

I think Tamra thinks that she has to choose who to talk to or what side to be on, which I don’t want for her. That’s not my position. I don’t care if she and Gretchen are friends -– I just have no desire to be around Gretchen and want to stay away from her as much as possible. I wanted to be as cordial as I could be, but I wasn’t going to let Gretchen demean me and walk all over me like she has in the past. I’m over it!

Leading up to the party, I was not aware of the reasons why Heather, Gretchen, and Tamra were upset with Alexis. I guess I chose to not to know because it’s usually very petty and meaningless and will blow over. I think once these girls get older, they will realize we have to pick our battles and act like ladies. To constantly be looking for reasons to break someone down is just so exhausting and downright mean. I hate it and don’t want to be around it anymore. Life is too short for it and I am doing my best to learn from other people so I don’t do it myself either.

Gretchen’s comment about me saying “my baby” when I was referring to Troy was just stupid. My grandson is our families baby and if I used the word “my baby,” it was nothing short of a play on words. I know very clearly it’s not MY BABY and for her to snicker and make fun of me is just childish. She has NEVER been a mother, much less a grandmother, and has no idea the love that one has for a child until you become a mother. She acts all high and mighty, calling people out whenever she feels like it — but to me it’s just ignorant and stupid. She knows how it felt when SHE was in the “hot” seat a few years ago and now she’s doing it to everyone else.

I really dislike how Alexis was treated at the party. Alexis went in with nothing but good intentions, to show Tamra that in spite of their differences she is supporting her gym. That speaks volumes to me. Alexis said to Tamra several times at the dinner table that she would be more than happy to discuss their differences one-on-one and asked that they not to do it in front of everyone. However Tamra just wouldn’t let it go. It makes me really sad for Alexis. No one has yet to gang up on Tamra, so I really don’t think Tamra understands how it feels. I truly hope she never experiences it because it stinks! Whether it’s the word “bully,” or “ganged up on,” or “verbally attacked,” or whatever word these women want to use — it’s just not nice! However you want to slice and dice it up — it’s just plain mean and I wish it would stop.

Poor Lydia! She had no clue what she got herself into by coming to Tamra’s gym. I could tell when we walked in that it was going to be an awkward evening and we probably should have just turned around and went to dinner by ourselves. I think all the conflict was stemming from issues last year that weren’t resolved. It was too new, too raw, and there were too many people around to make a smooth evening with all the bad blood that had happened.”

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