Tamra Judge’s Daughter Sidney Barney Speaks Out About Relationship With Her Mom

Tamra Judge has opened up about her estranged relationship with her daughter Sidney Barney on The Real Housewives of Orange County. Judge even shared how she recently attended her daughter’s graduation.

She posted the following photo on Instagram, writing, “So many things to be proud of this month. Our family has come a long way and I couldn’t be happier. Simon and I are so proud of these amazing, smart, funny,beautiful & crazy kids. Congrats Sidney your smile lightens up the room and your future is so bright. #gaveituptojesus #2017 #family.”

However, Sidney is not happy about the post. She took to Facebook to tell viewers her side of the story in a post.

Sidney wrote, “I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publically as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show. For starters, I did not move out when my parents got a divorce nor did I chose my fathers side in the divorce. My parents separated in 2010, I moved out of my mother’s house in 2013. Me leaving has nothing to do with the divorce, it has to do with the living conditions at my mothers house and the way she treated me and still treats me today. In regards to choosing sides, I actually chose my mothers side when my parents separated. This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parents arguments. She even called us Simon or “mini Simon” when we did something bad or told us that we were “acting like your father”. This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic.”

She continued, “The reasons I left my mothers house are that she was neglectful (leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely), she constantly put herself first and the biggest reason was that she was mentally and emotionally abusive. She was no mother to me. This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment. I have explained this to her numerous times in court, in therapy, and when we would meet up that the ONLY reason I am not living with her is because she continues to do the things that pushed me out of her house, like talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few.”

“I went to therapy with my mother for 3 years. I was forced by the courts and my father to try to mend the relationship with my mother. Unfortunately my mother is unable to recognize that she is in the wrong and continues to put blame on everything else. If she would have put the effort into actually working on our relationship, instead of talking and crying about how much she “misses me” on the show and wishes things were different she wouldn’t have missed my entire high school career.”

She also talked about Tamra being at her graduation. “My father has pushed me to have a relationship with my mother forcing me to go meet her in and out of therapy. He even forced me to let her come to my graduation because it was a milestone. When I told my mother that she could come I gave her a few conditions. All I asked was that she remains cordial with my father and my stepmom and to not post anything about my graduation, anywhere. Not even two weeks after I graduated she posted a photo of me and shared it with her one million followers knowing that it would get picked up by the press. The one thing I asked and have been asking for 4 years now has been to not talk about me because I don’t want to be in the spotlight. But Again breaking her promises as per usual, she puts herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me. If she really wanted a relationship she would keep her promises and recognize that it is no one elses fault but hers that I do not want her in my life.”

“Although I do not want to be in the public eye, I felt the need to clear these lies up and set the record straight in hopes that it will straighten my mom out so that she is held accountable and is forced to do the right thing. My mom has been portraying the innocent erased mother whose daughter was estranged from her due to divorce and an evil ex husband when in actuality she is the sole reason why I do not want her in my life and will not have a relationship with her. Instead of playing the innocent erased mother character, she could’ve been trying to actually fix our relationship and change her ways. However the character keeps her relevant, and is her only storyline. Why would she actually try to get me back? Without the estrangements she is no longer pitied and talked about and her fame and fortune go down the tubes.”

Thoughts on Sidney’s statement?

Photo Credit: Bravo

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  • timhun

    It looks like Tamra has chosen fame over her daughter. That’s sad.

  • noladiva2013

    I agree with the daughter. When your relationship with a loved one is that fragile, you should go out of your way to accommodate their wishes and not do anything to antagonize the person. I can understand Tamra wanting to celebrate being a part of the graduation but Sydney’s wishes should have been priority one. Tamra should have been content enough to have those pictures sitting on a mantel in the privacy of her home.

  • Miss M

    Jesus H. Tamara. Your daughter seems to have spelled it out for you. Why can you not abide by these fair and reasonable conditions set by your precious daughter! It seems to me as if you’re almost deliberately sabotaging things to stay stuck. Your daughter obviously doesn’t want to be in the public eye as you do. I don’t know the whole story who does really but I do appreciate your path Tamara, and how you’ve grown. Now sit down with yourself and look yourself in the heart of who you want to be, and rise above. You may even want to consider another job. I know I would give anything to even have a daughter. You gotta wake up woman before it’s truly too late. Rooting for you and Sydney.

  • Rain

    Tamra is wrong , plain and simple

  • Watching in Ohio

    Tamra chose to “do Tamra” when she left Simon for Eddie! She can deny it all she wants but everyone “knew”! Look.. the kids knew he was a good Dad and even Ryan his stepson stated he was”glad” Simon cared enough about him to be tough on him! Gotta respect this man who fought for his kids when Tamra dumped him! I don’t doubt Tamra loves her kids but she loves herself “more”! She went thru a rough patch when her ex needed her/money became tight and she bailed on him for a life with a newer younger model! I don’t think Simon was the monster or the problem in the relationship.. Tamra just “outgrew him and wanted the benefits of her 15 min of fame” that RHOOC brought her! Misery loves company Ickster (Vicky) was screwing around w Brooks at the time so she didn’t help matters by interfering in Tamras marriage! Tamra STILL doesn’t get it! Her daughter knows what her mother did and WHY! She laid it OUT in this response that she never felt like a priority in her mother’s life! Plain and simple she is angry at her! That is not Simons fault that is her mother’s fault and her total inability to accept responsibility ! Smart young lady! She must take after Simon because she’s not the fame whore her mama is! If Tamra has truly had a born again experience perhaps she should examine herself to see “what Jesus would do”!

    • starr

      So right, Ohio.

  • Bon Vivant

    I knew those scenes of her filming with that “organization” for shunned divorced parents was a farce. Tamra’s entire “Sydney Storyline” feels exploitive to viewers. I can’t imagine what it’s like to actually be the daughter who has to live it. I’ve always seen Tamra as a foxy little minx who plays the Housewives game well; she’s very cunning, and particularly guileful at concealing her trickery and methods for her end goals. But to do that to your own children is horrible.

    • Rain

      I can see exactly what you mean . And yes , she absolutely is a pro at playing the HW game. I am one of the few that believed her new found religious awakening. But she needs to STOP and let her daughter lead a quiet peaceful life . I don’t understand why she keeps doing it

      Spot on as usual Bon V xoxo ❤️

    • starr

      Bon, I agree with both Rain & yourself. My thinking exactly.

  • Cin

    Tamra is a piece of ..

  • 80s gal

    tamra made it seem that Sidney was finally coming around yet simon had to force her daughter to invite her mom? tamra, improve your relationship with your daughter by respecting her wishes. she may come around without being forced to interact with you. I don’t agree that Simon was a decent husband to Tamra. he was very controlling and would tell her she was acting sleazy by the way she dressed and acted yet simon cheated on her? so who is the sleaze, Simon? and what about your girlfriend Simon? she’s definately no virgin Mary. Eddie seems like a MUCH better man compared to Simon. she made the right choice leaving Simon. she seems more at ease in her life. when she was married to Simon she seemed very uncomfortable around him like she had to watch her every move in case it upset simon.

  • Heather

    I have been somewhat angry with Sidney for being estranged from her mother. My mother died young and I would do almost anything to have a mom again. I like all of us have only heard Tamra’s side so I thought Sidney must be some kind of brat to do this to her. This letter really makes me sad. I pray they can come back together one day. Life s so precious and so short. Until then I hope Tamra honors Sidney’s wishes and stops talking about her in front of the world.

  • OverTheDrama

    Sidney appears to be a very intelligent young lady, which is amazing considering that she was raised by a gold digging fame whore like Tamara Judge. Sidney exposed a few of her Mothers dirty little secrets.I feel confident in saying that Ms. Sidney could write a book and it would be on the best sellers list before it even went to print.

  • LaLa 111

    I agree. I’ve been saying it for years that if she truly cared and wanted to be with her daughter she would leave the show.