Tamra Judge’s Daughter Sidney Barney Speaks Out About Her Relationship With Her Mom

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After part one of The Real Housewives of Orange County aired, Tamra Judge’s oldest daughter Sidney is allegedly reacting to what her mom said about her and the custody battle through a post on her Facebook page.

“I watched the reunion show last night and I am disappointed,” she wrote. “I try not to talk about personal family matters with my friends, but I was made aware that my mother was talking about me and discussing our personal family matters on the show again. At this point I think it is necessary to tell the truth since she does not know how to tell the truth.”

The 17-year old continued, “The reason I do not live with my mother is not because of my dad, it is because she is mentally/verbally abusive and not a mother to me. When I told my mother that I didn’t want to live with her anymore I asked only a few things from her. For the past two years I’ve been asking her to stop treating me badly, to stop doing embarrassing and talking about me on the show, and to not use my siblings and I as storylines. Clearly she hasn’t followed through with anything that would have made me go back to her house. After telling her this for two years in consoling, she still hasn’t recognized that these problems are between her and I and continues to make this about my father and her.”

She concluded, “If she really wanted me back in her life she would have taken responsibility and changed two years ago when I told the first time what was causing our relationship to suffer. Obviously, I am just another storyline that feeds her fame and her wallet. Now you’re using Spencer as a storyline, I hope he realizes it before the damage is done.”

Tamra sent out a tweet directed to her daughter, writing, “I love you more than you know.”

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  • One Rotten Egg

    Word! Hopefully, if this really is Sydney, she set the record straight from her perspective!

    • smh

      It will only be a matter of time for Spencer and Sophia, as they get older and wiser, to realize what a trashy, poor example of a mother that they have. It is inevitable..

  • Sally

    I think this is just so very sad! I’m not commenting anymore I have said I don’t like kids, yes she still is one in so many ways, on these blogs. I don’t think this. Should be here! That’s just me!1

    • Sally

      Typos! Scrap . should not Should scrap 1 at end!

    • Roxanne

      I agree. The fact that a child & parent relationship plays out on social media is just very sad. No judgement on this child or parent but it should not be fodder for blogs.

      • Sally

        I’m glad I’m not the only one!

  • CassyJ

    I do not like Tamera, never have and probably never will. I will however say she has never used her kids as storylines. The only times her kids were even in the show were when they were swimming or playing in the background at a party. She never truly talked about them except things like “oh my kids do that too”. This is a very fishy story and what her daughter said truly doesn’t make sense. She didnt use her son for a story line either. Just said “he won’t speak to his dad now, it is very sad”. That’s not using him as a storyline. Using someone as a storyline is Lisa R. Constantly talking about Kim or Megan using Brooks and Shannon because she had nothing of her own to talk about. A mom speaking to other moms about being a mom is normal mother behavior. Things like “my kids won’t clean up their room and Eddie isn’t used to having kids around” is not using them as a story line.

    • Sally

      😀

      • Anonymous

        You are so right..and this has Simon written all over it. With his control issues I have no doubt he tried to turn all the kids against their mother for his own selfish reasons

    • Anonymous

      I completely agree. Sad that Sidney feels this way, but that isn’t what happened.

    • Karen’

      I agree with your assessment, and I also don’t think Sidney wrote that statement- it sounds like a lawyer did.

      • Sally

        I don’t believe she wrote it either! I have never heard a 16/17 year old sound like that!!

      • Bon Vivant

        It would depend on how well the child was educated. If Sydney is one of those children who’s had schooling in an academically competitive or college preparatory institution, by 9th grade she will have learned how to write a thesis, format cross responses to written statements, and complete a blue book exam (a hand written essay response to a question posed by your teacher/professor in which the student is reqired to fill a small, 10-20 paged blue notebook with cohesive writing, over a 3 hour written exam). It’s not out of the realm of possibility that the wrote those few paragraphs herself…still, I think it’s all a horrible thing to be playing out publicly…

    • starr

      I agree with you, CassyJ

    • Sally

      Cassy, I used your recipe today, I had to change it a bit as I couldn’t get the dough but I used filo pastry, will definitely make it again thank you!

      • CassyJ

        Oh I bet that was really good too. Your welcome dear.

        • Sally

          Cassy, you know I really like you don’t you? Also I loved the recipe! Here in bonnie Scotland if anyone says ‘your welcome dear’ it’s usually to a very old person! So cheers I know we joke here about, thanks to MilkyV, being 89 but I’m not there yet!!! I’m typing this with a cross between a grimace and a smile on my face. Shame there isn’t an emoji for that! 😛 that’s the closest I could find! Xo

          • CassyJ

            Oh my, that was not my intent at all. Here you’re welcome we say to everyone after thank you. So what do y’all say in your neck of the woods? I know the jokes about being 89, as you girls are no where near old. I am so sorry for this. Let me also say if anyone is old it would be me after working 4 12’s in a row and am moving incredibly stuff like an 89 year old.

            • That’s right, you work those RN shifts of 4 12’s and 3 off. I would think that wouldn’t be as good as just regular 8 hr, 5 days a week. Just out of curiosity, why do they schedule nurses that way? I would think with the emergent nature of your job, that after so many hours of difficult high stress, higher thinking and physical work, your mind would not feel refreshed enough to make the quick decisions etc. that are necessary in your line of work. Absolutely no insult intended, just a hard thing even if one is accustomed to it.

              • CassyJ

                I have started a reply to you at least 5 times…..dang kids act like I’m supposed to pay attention to them and do motherly things. Who do they think I am…,oh wait never mine. Haha. You are very accurate in your thoughts. It can be dangerous and I normally don’t work 4, some nurses do and I used to and after a while your body just get used to working that. However for me I have to be careful because I would work 7 days a week because I love it, but those kiddos who I mentioned earlier need me as much if not more than those patients. So my new rule is 3 12’s. However a girl called me Saturday night because she went into labor and knows I would cover it for her and that being a pretty good excuse I did. I will always take a shift for someone who’s kiddo is sick or has a game or school play. And most of the time they will do the same for me. But I do agree we should be more careful of our time and energy when working. However it is kind of like anything else, you say no or call in sick and there may be some back lash from admin. Ya know.

    • Jake

      Agreed, Tamra used her religion this season, she’s kept her private issues with her kids and ex, and come on, it’s supposed to be a reality show, aren’t they supposed to talk about their kids and divorces if something’s going on? If the kid allowed her mom in her life to some extent, there wouldn’t be so much drama around it and the issue would go away

  • VaNonna

    Good for Sidney. Tamara has been an embarrassment to her children with her antics. Children can be cruel for any reason but when you have a parent acting like a fool on tv, I’m sure that makes it even worse. Both Tamara and Simon have used these children during their battles in social media instead of putting their children first and thinking about how it will affect them when posted on social media.

    • smh

      I agree.. and Tamra went and bragged about having CRABS!!

  • Milivanili

    Wow, what an asshle of a child. If she trully hated being a storyline, then why drag this shit to Facebook knowing it will go further to media… Tamra is no gold, I am sure she is mentally unstable, but I can imagine her children are just as cookoo….

    • Sally

      There is one asshole here and it’s you!

      • Milivanili

        Oh no, you went there… seriously. the people who are the quietest are the worst in person, so I wonder how horrible of a person you must be…

        • Anonymous

          Really really nasty!

          • Sally

            That was me, Sally this morning, I forgot to sign on After an update!

        • Sally

          Maybe I am one of the quietest but I can be really nasty when assholes like you call kids/teenagers assholes! Asshole!

          • QUIET!! Someone called you “quiet” hahaha

            • Sally

              What are trying to say!!!!! I’m very quiet and demure! Sometimes!!! When I’m asleep!!!

              • I laughed so hard when read that I just HAD to share!! 😎

    • Andrew

      She’s allowed to respond and express her feelings. Tamra does it all the time. She’s not an asshole. If anyone is an asshole, it would be you.

      • Milivanili

        I am an asshole and so is that child, plus you are probably an asshole too. Like being an asshole is so rare, geeze Andrew get that dick out of your mouth…

        • Wow.

          And you eat with that mouth? gross

        • GIGICAT

          Oh Mili – have you finished your Anger Management classes yet?

          • Bueller

            Asshole and dick talk before noon. This site is awesome!

            • Sally

              Hahaha!

          • Sally

            After initially being really cross, I enjoyed getting it all off my chest!!! Did me the world of good!

      • Sally

        Andrew, correct only one Asshole n this site!

        • Sally

          Typos correct, n s/b on!
          😀

          • Remember not to feed the trolls:) hehe

            • Sally

              You have to give them a snack now and again!

              • GIGICAT

                LOL!!

            • Yes, I forget sometimes with the vulgar things they say.

        • smh

          Don’t feed into the trolls.. if you comment, it just spurs them on.. Especially when their name is Milivanili.. that has loser written all over it.. Focus on how Tamra bragged about having CRABS two seasons ago..

          • Sally

            Two points here, I rarely respond to trolls but calling a 16yr old an asshole is way beyond my toleration levels. MillyV is a self confessed troll but there are limits for me!
            Secondly why should I focus on a disease/infection given to a woman by a man. You have mentioned this a few times as is your right but not something I choose to do!

            • smh

              I choose to because I think that it reflects how gross she is..

    • naynay

      I can’t believe somebody just called a child an asshole. I just hope your not a parent.

      • Milivanili

        Yes, a child can be an asshole. Seriously, get over yourself. The fact is that she should not use FB to deal with her mother, makes her no better than the person she is trying not to become.
        Oh and don’t think you are a great parent. Nobody is. Get over your bloody self.

      • Sally

        Naynay she is just an asshole, the biggest self confessed troll asshole I have ever ‘seen’! Ignorant asshole as well!

        • naynay

          Sally,
          I’m floored, children should be off limits. A little compassion for a teenager who’s parents have gone through a nasty public divorce. What bothers me about this is Simon telling his daughter that her mom has ruined his life.

          • Sally

            Naynay, Milli only does it for a rise. Kids are my trigger, I couldn’t care less what she says about the housewives or me for that matter. Yes I agree, Simpn is a bitter ridiculous late middle age man!

            • Sally

              Simon!

        • Lisa

          HA HA HA HA ROTFL!!! You tell her Sally!

          • Sally

            Xoxo

            • Lisa

              😉

  • Judge Judy

    Tamra shouldn’t have gone crying on Part One of the reunion about it, giving only her own version of events.

    This is so common when one or both divorced parents insist on using a child as a pawn in their mess.

    Now Sidney herself has said this is NOT about her father, it is because she doesn’t like how her mother treats her. I believe her.

    • starr

      I do too, Judge. I’m sure Sydney was affected by what she saw & clearly became upset all over again with her mother. I would believe her. Hopefully,they both can be counseled again in the near future. I also feel with Tamara, her heart, as a mother, aches for her child. But stating her pain on national TV when her daughter asked her not to, only adds more to the already painful wound.

      • What I wonder is if Sydney was the one who wrote ANY of it, from the beginning. This has been in the press since they started on this show. I think, aside from the fact that she loves her child, she has had a lot of really bad press and social media commentary. Once your life is out there, the very little she has said on housewives just sets the record straight for her. If Sydney and Simpleton can go all over twitter and anywhere for years and bash her, she has the right to defend herself. She has used maybe 5 minutes of airtime to address this, and I hope God shows her the way

        • starr

          I agree 3D’s

      • Sydney is HOMELY – you can be jealous of your own mother……

  • Aunt Bee

    Mili got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.

    • GIGICAT

      Mili is the same one who called us all 89 years old a while back so I don’t him/her that seriously. Probably some sad creature with a lot of rage and hostility gurgling at the surface.

      • Sally

        One creature or one of many? She did us a favour the 89 has stuck, I love it!

    • Millive has no one IN the bed is maybe the problem.

  • Aunt Bee

    I think the real a$$hole here is Simon and he probably to the girl what to write.

    • Sally

      Aunt Bee, I hVe just seen this after writing same!

      • Sally

        Aunt Bee, I have just put my glasses on! Have not hVe!

    • I love it that even tho you are not a Tamra fan, you are so fair about this.

  • Janine

    Tamra is not perfect, but honestly everyone needs to let her be who she is. She is fun and outgoing and want to enjoy life. Sidney, like her dad, Simon, needs to accept her for her good qualities and let her be her own person. She is a mom and seems to be a good one! Although, honestly, the story line was almost never about her kids which contradicts what Sidney is saying. Sidney, I am sure there are things we don’t know and you have your side and I am sure those issues are valid. Relationships with daughters and moms can be very complex and I know because I am the mom of 2 girls. However, Know this . . . You are your mom’s world! She would die for you and couldn’t love anyone more! When we become moms we are no longer what matters. What matters is that our kids our healthy, loved and happy! I know that your mom was not perfect because none of us can be, but remember your mom is a person too who has flaws and was going through her own issues while trying to be a great mom! I believe that both moms and daughters learn and grow together. We don’t always know the right thing to do or say or how to fix something, but for sure we try our best! I hope that you both can accept that neither of you are perfect and you both are learning how to be better and can find a way to mend the most important relationship you will every know!

    • CassyJ

      I completely want to plagiarize your words and text, email, write a letter, carrier pigeon then to my daughter. They were beautiful.

    • Sally

      That is so lovely! You must be a lovely mum! My Daughter is now 30 and we have come out of the other side, she is sweet and beautiful and I think we both accept each other’s faults and love each other! So again very well said!

    • Lisa

      Well said Janine. Lovely words.

  • Peaches

    When Sydney said her mom should have changed….that’s when I realized this poor child doesn’t understand that you cannot change anyone. That person has to want to change themselves. I ‘hear’ a lot of Simon in her response. I do not believe for one moment that a 16/17 year old child wrote that. It’s sad that Sydney is being used as a pawn in her dad’s mission to get back at Tamra. Sydney will always have relationship problems due to his powerful influence in her life. I was impressed with Tamra’s response. She continues to love her despite being made out to be a horrible person. That shows me that Tamra is truly working on herself and not fighting back to prove them wrong. Simon and Sydney need to forgive for themselves. The anger, angst and hatred they are harboring is so unhealthy for their own lives.

    • That’s how I knew it was Simpleton who guided those words. He was always saying “make a change, make a change” He did not like Tamra. He wanted her for the beautiful sexy woman she was, but he thought he could have that all to himself. Her son had problems since he was little, and he married her because he thought he could keep the sexy and absolutely change her, who SHE IS. If anything, it made her more rooted in the behavior, because as people we fight against being disliked for who we are. She hasn’t ever whored around either. She has hardly mentioned the kids in the 8 seasons of the show. She wouldn’t have a job if she wasn’t beautiful and vivacious. He, Simon, is a cruel little person. Small minded and hateful. His children will suffer because of it.

      • Totally Agree- Simon should just SHUT-UP and not try to be involved as a HOUSEWIFE he he

      • Sally

        Agree totally 😀 😀

    • Lisa

      Well said Peaches.

  • naynay

    Peaches,
    I have to agree with everything you said.she’s probably a daddy’s girl and he is taking advantage of that. Simon’s doing this because this will hurt her, like Tamara hurt him! This dude needs to move on get over it.

    • She is quite homely and cant say much better for SIMON – I would say they would love the fame -except the viewers figured him out and as far as the daughter- she needs to have Mommy help her with some styling tips. Maybe Terry Dubrow could help—

  • sidewinderVX

    I could see how she could find Tamra embarrassing, most kinds are embarrassed by their parents, and most kids don’t see what their parents do when they go out to parties.

    If Tamra is using her kids for a storyline, she’s not doing a very good job at it, since she never mentions her kids on the show.

    • Thank you, sidewinder, she has mentioned them maybe 5 times in the whole series. I am so glad to see that you feel this way. It is always the facts that get in the way of people who want to tell a sad story.

  • GIGICAT

    I think Tamra needs to stop talking about her kids on camera. They don’t like it when she does it and she’s just stirring the pot. Simon is a wanna-be, never had a long-lasting job and God only knows what he told those kids. We all saw the real Simon years ago and he hasn’t changed I’m sure.

    • I think she is on a reality show. She has said very little on the actual show, but it has been all over the press and twitter, FGSakes, and she wanted to set the record straight. I think Simpleton wrote that, or made Sydney do it. Like I said way before this came out, he is doing something that is going to mess up her relationships for the rest of her life. When your relationship with your same sex parent is damaged, it affects everything in your life. Anger is easier to express than pain, but causes way more damage. And honestly, Tamra hasn’t done that many embarrassing things. This is her job, and not unlike any actress, her life is now public domain, and she has the right to live her life and comment on her life since everyone else seems to feel free to do so. Especially those with the ability to hurt her, like Simpleton. He has shown some seriously frightening characteristics on the show, and if that’s what he decided was acceptable to do on camera, I can just imagine what he is like to live with. That little girl will look for that controlling, disapproving, unkind man to be in her life. It doesn’t bode well for her. I feel like Tamra was given a lifeline to God, and that is what is going to save that relationship.

  • Queenie

    Well, I’m in the minority here, I always liked Simon and saw him as someone who was just trying to keep his immature, crass, loud-mouth of a wife from making a spectacle of herself and disgracing their family. I feel for Sydney. Being a teenager is hard enough, especially these days. It must be humiliating to have to face her classmates, after her mother is shown running around topless, screaming f—, every other word and talking about her sex life on nationwide TV every week.

    • starr

      Queenie, you said it all for us. Great Job.

    • I think you have Tamra confused with Brandy Glanville.

    • I saw him as verbal and MAYBE even physical abusive- he wants to CONTROL and he should have known prior to marrying Tamra she has her own mind …………..

      • gigis, you weren’t called a TROLL for having a differing opinion. It was for saying everyone but you should get a hobby. Designed to belittle others. Shows you are the one who needs something, and that you were, that day anyway, speaking like a TROLL!

  • gigis

    Wow not too long ago I was called out by these regular commenters as a troll, unhappy
    person just because I spoke my mind…. good to see that another commentor is giving it
    back to them!!!

    • I also have been called a Troll – I got thick skin- the PC in the country is sad and if you don’t follow everyone elses view your a troll -Opinions are allowed…..

      • CassyJ

        I don’t think having a different opinion is what makes someone call someone a troll….it is how people address others. You and I can disagree on many things and I wouldn’t think you or I were a troll, now when we disagree and I call you an uneducated idiot or address you in anyway which involves disrespect harsh hateful words and name calling that would make me a troll.

    • You weren’t called a troll because you spoke your mind. You were called out for directing what you hoped would be belittling comments to all of the regular commentators.

  • The last person I want near my family is Tamra.. good for Simon! keep your kids away from her,look what her son turned out to be ,,,,, she’s nuts

    • CassyJ

      Her son turned out to be a hard working 30 year old father of 4, raising 3 that aren’t his. If you are speaking of the whole story about domestic abuse. That was total crap as no charges were filed. If he should have been charged the state would have done it as women no longer can decide not to press charges in domestic abuse cases. If there is evidence of abuse the state investigates and will file charges. If not then there aren’t any filed.

  • Jtm

    I am very disappointed by some of these comments. When I was 17 years old, I went though something very similar with my mother. We do not know what was going on in that house. A 17 year old girl is a sentient being- and I believe that she possesses the capacity to make a decision that is what is best for her mental health. My mother was also verbally abusive towards me (because I was so much like my father). Although I know that many of her words came from a place of pain and depression, that did not change the fact that it made me feel horrible about myself and made the decision to live with my father. We should not judge Sidney or write her off as immature. These are real things that happen to people. A few years later, my mother has been through professional counseling and our relationship has improved a lot. I call her every few days or so. What made the difference for us also was allowing us time to heal and make decisions privately. I think it’s absolutely disgraceful that Tamra put this on TV. Sidney’s pain is absolutely real and for her to write it off as being manipulated by Simon is flat out insulting to a 17 year old girl who is certainly capable of discerning what is a healthy and unhealthy home life. I hope that time will heal them. But in the mean time, leave this poor young girl alone and let her come back to Tamra on her terms.

    • The problem with that is that Simpleton started it, Not Tamra. He has been harrassing her from the day she left him. Using the kids against her even when they were married. So, altho I am sorry you had an abusive Mom, am glad it has improved, he is the one who is abusive. Every single person close to that situation says Tamra doesn’t speak to them in the manner that Simpleton does. I feel like it has been going on for so long she felt like she had to defend herself. God will show her the way.

      • Jtm

        in either case, it’s important not to put the blame on Sidney. I think that’s the main point I was trying to make. I understand what you’re saying though.

        • Yes, it absolutely shouldn’t be put on her, and no one should be calling her any names, she is a minor. Especially since she likely didn’t write that. And even if she had, she is a child. Thanks, Jtm.

      • Sally

        😀

      • Lisa

        I agree. He is bitter and it clearly is harming Tamra’s children.

      • getreal

        I don’t think Simon started anything. Tamra talked about Sidney on the reunion show, which she didn’t have to do. If you hear anything from Simon, its usually in response to something Tamra said.
        I also wonder why Andy C. even asked Tamra about it at all. Did she ask him to make it a topic? or is Bravo more interested in keeping this kind of dysfunction going in her life? No doubt that Bravo loves to screw with their “stars”.

        • It’s called reality. She has maybe used 5 minutes talking about this. It is what is going on in her life, and I doubt very seriously Simpleton doesn’t brainwash those kids since day one. He showed how good he is at it on the show.

          • getreal

            Then on the flip side of that reality card, the Judge handling the case decided that Simon is not alienating Sidney against her mom. That’s just what Tamra wants you to think.

            • CassyJ

              Well she said the judge said the child was 17 and could make her own decisions, not that he was not guilty of that. That is actually two different things.

              • getreal

                Yes, that’s what Tamra said. And she conveniently left out the part where the judge saw no parental alienation on Simon’s part. That’s what Tamra does, she tells you half of the story to get sympathy.

  • patricia

    Can’t stand Tamar. I don’t believe she has changes 1 bit. Can’t stand Heather either. I use to like Shannon, but not so sure anymore.

  • Tamra is foul mouthed BUT she didn’t take money from Simon and she is trying to support her family -That said she is a bit of a trouble stirrer

  • Lisa

    Not going to weigh in as if I know anything about this very private and very tragic situation. I wasnt there. I do pray with all my heart that healing comes to this family. I’d do anything to have my mom back and I hate to see a mother and child estranged. May God help bring them back together.

    • Sally

      Lisa, This is spot on and I agree making comments about the relationship is not right. I hated when I had an argument with my daughter, I cannot imagine this situation whatever it is. I just wish they would see each other and forgiveness on all sides!

  • Coochie-Coochie

    Some people should be banned from reproducing

  • Carl

    This had to be wrote by Simon. I have watched the show from the beginning. After Simon and her divorced the kids pretty much were never on the show except Ryan. So I think this is a BS Simon thing. Or Sydney is a lieing little bitch! Most Tamra ever would say was how stressed she was etc. because Simon was so vengeful and made it hard to pick up the kids. At on point the was a protection order all with Simon. He is a sour vengeful little bitch that has done everything to harass Tamar using the kids to do it. I believe this was wrote and posted by Simon!!!

  • lori

    Family drama plyed out on social media says a lot for these people. Immature in my book.

  • River

    Aw toothpick, yawl, get over it! No bleeding hearts for a Facebook post and no gross descriptive words. Milli and Sally, get a Blog.

    • Sally

      I thought this was a blog or am I missing something?

  • Joy Rengaw

    No way a 17 year old wrote those comments. Sounds like Simon or a lawyer talking. I was told once to say goodbye to your daughters at 15 and say hello to them at 25. I didnt but I know what they meant . how true lol

  • Zep

    Simon, is that you? I am not Team Tamra but am 100% convinced this is not the ‘voice’ or ‘style’ of a 17 year old OC girl.

    • The Countess of Hootersville

      Style in the OC ?…you gotta be kidding

      There may be lots of money in the OC, but little or no class….money can’t buy you class, you know

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