Siggy Flicker Talks About Disciplining Her Children

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Siggy Flicker is talking about the challenge of being the disciplinarian to her children in her blog this week. Flicker says her and her kids made a huge breakthrough and talks about why her values are so important.

“Missing Italy, but it feels so good to be back in Jersey! Michael and I are settled back into our daily lives, feeling refreshed and renewed, and my Sophie came home from camp this weekend. Despite the crazy heat and humidity we’ve been experiencing in the Garden State, LIFE IS GOOD!

This week’s episode of RHONJ was an emotional one for me to watch. Not only did I cry watching my interaction with my children, it was difficult for me to see my puffy face on TV — OMG, I looked like the Elephant Man! It took a while for the swelling to go down after my facelift, and I’m thankful that’s all over with. Now, let’s move on to more important things …

I think that my kids and I made a huge breakthrough during our trip to the diner. I’ve been really doing my best to tone down the talking and listen more to what Josh and Sophie have to say. However, there certainly won’t be any caving on my end when it comes to my parenting beliefs and doling out some tough love when necessary.

Even though my ex-husband, Mark, and I get along very well (in case you didn’t already know, he was the Best Man in my wedding to Michael), being divorced parents isn’t easy. I’m sure many single moms can relate to the fact that, since the kids spend the majority of their time in my home, I find myself being the main disciplinarian and the one who gets to do most of the parental “dirty work.” Mark wants to enjoy the time he has with them, so there aren’t chores and many rules at his home, which I honestly can’t blame him for. Because of this, I find myself often being the “bad guy.” If that’s the way it has to be for now, so be it. Here’s hoping one day Josh and Sophie will understand where I’m coming from and appreciate everything that I’ve done for them.

When my children are parents one day, l have confidence that that they’ll understand why I’ve taken phones away and prohibited them from doing certain things they think are “cool” at this age. To me, a good education is the most important thing; hanging out with your friends and knowing what they’re doing every second of each day is NOT going to get them into a good college. I want my children to be independent and not rely on anyone else for money or security; making schoolwork a priority is the key to making this happen. Being a parent is finding the fine line between letting our kids figure things out for themselves, but also not wanting them to make the same “mistakes” we’ve made along the way. I’m still learning; we’re always learning.”

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  • Stacey

    Siggy, you seem like a nice enough person, but Christ on a cracker…you just can’t shut up. Not for one second. You’re all yapping, endless nagging, all output. You don’t listen, don’t empathize, don’t let the other person express themselves. It’s all directive, controlling behavior from you. You’re not a mother to your kids, you’re a freaking job.

    • Anonymous

      I know! Siggy talks so dang much and is so loud and obnoxious, she makes me nervous. She doesn’t listen.
      Is she a self-proclaimed “relationship expert”? What degrees does she hold? I really wonder how she can claim to be an expert when her first marriage failed and she needs her 16 year old son to explain what a relationship between a mother and her children should be like.
      Plus, some of the things she says to her kids are bizarre/creepy. What kind of mother lies in bed with her16 year old son and says, “You came out of my body. I’m obsessed with you.” In my opinion, something isn’t quite right there.
      I hope Siggy will be off the show next season.

      • This seems to be the “norm” for all these women. They cut each other off, butt into conversations and once they start talking, they have diahrrea of the mouth. At least Siggy has some common sense, but I’m not sure about going out to lunch wrapped up like a mummy and drinking lobster bisque through a straw. These women sure don ‘t mind spending big $$$$s on plastic surgery. And they are all under 50 except for Caroline Manzo. I had plastic surgery for medical issues, not to improve my looks. It isn’t something to take lightly. It comes with risks and it is NOT covered by insurance, even if it is for health reasons! I do appreciate the fact that Siggy does discipline her kids, teaches them values and tries to find out what they are up to. I applaud her for this. I’ll reserve final judgement after the season is over! I don’t get what value Dolores brings to the party. She is trying to become financially independent as a gym owner, but goes and gets a butt lift???!!! Are you effin kidding me!??

  • Nancy

    Siggy they will appreciate what Ur doing for them once they become adults. My kids have & it feets great. Ur a great Mom. All Moms have a moment when we dictate to our kids bc we want to make sure that they stay focused.The important thing is to establish open communication. U have those parents that give their kids too much rope & they finally lose focus. They don’t want to deal with the kids bc they R not a priority in their selfish lives. I felt for U but I’ve been there too. They try to con U comparing us to a relative, etc. They work on our guilt bc we’re working Moms but this too shall pass. Those kids R your life & if U continue doing what Ur doing while U lend an ear, U guys R going to be just fine! P.S. they R great kids! Peace!

    • Anonymous

      All I see is Siggy driving her kids away because she doesn’t listen to anything they (or anyone else) has to say!

  • Anonymous

    Who the hell is Siggy to go into Dolores’ house and give orders to her contractors? Is Flicker for real?

  • Anonymous

    Really liked how Siggy’s dad stood up for his grandson (“Forget the phone!”) by pointing out he’s a good kid, gets good grades, etc.
    Enough with threatening to take the kids’ phones away, taking them, breaking them and being such an obnoxious NAG.
    What an idiotic threat, telling Joshua he’ll “never see the inside of a car” if he doesn’t hand over his phone.
    Siggy seems clueless when it comes to communicating with her children & parenting.
    Joshua is a really nice kid; so respectful to his airhead of a mother.
    I bet Joshua & Sophie are counting the days until their 18th birthdays! They should go live with their father ASAP as in NOW.

  • Anonymous

    What kind of example is Siggy setting for her daughter by throwing her phone out of frustration and cracking the screen?

  • viewer

    WTF is Siggy’s problem? The way she argued with her son about the kind of fries he wanted and not wanting to take his jacket off bc he was comfortable was ridiculous!
    Then she has the nerve to tell her daughter that HE argues with her about everything! I don’t see how those kids can stand her or why they would live with her. She is “sMOTHERing” them.