Siggy Flicker is talking about the challenge of being the disciplinarian to her children in her blog this week. Flicker says her and her kids made a huge breakthrough and talks about why her values are so important.
“Missing Italy, but it feels so good to be back in Jersey! Michael and I are settled back into our daily lives, feeling refreshed and renewed, and my Sophie came home from camp this weekend. Despite the crazy heat and humidity weâ€™ve been experiencing in the Garden State, LIFE IS GOOD!
This weekâ€™s episode of RHONJ was an emotional one for me to watch. Not only did I cry watching my interaction with my children, it was difficult for me to see my puffy face on TV — OMG, I looked like the Elephant Man! It took a while for the swelling to go down after my facelift, and Iâ€™m thankful thatâ€™s all over with. Now, letâ€™s move on to more important things â€¦
I think that my kids and I made a huge breakthrough during our trip to the diner. Iâ€™ve been really doing my best to tone down the talking and listen more to what Josh and Sophie have to say. However, there certainly wonâ€™t be any caving on my end when it comes to my parenting beliefs and doling out some tough love when necessary.
Even though my ex-husband, Mark, and I get along very well (in case you didnâ€™t already know, he was the Best Man in my wedding to Michael), being divorced parents isnâ€™t easy. Iâ€™m sure many single moms can relate to the fact that, since the kids spend the majority of their time in my home, I find myself being the main disciplinarian and the one who gets to do most of the parental â€œdirty work.â€ Mark wants to enjoy the time he has with them, so there arenâ€™t chores and many rules at his home, which I honestly canâ€™t blame him for. Because of this, I find myself often being the â€œbad guy.â€ If thatâ€™s the way it has to be for now, so be it. Hereâ€™s hoping one day Josh and Sophie will understand where Iâ€™m coming from and appreciate everything that Iâ€™ve done for them.
When my children are parents one day, l have confidence that that theyâ€™ll understand why Iâ€™ve taken phones away and prohibited them from doing certain things they think are â€œcoolâ€ at this age. To me, a good education is the most important thing; hanging out with your friends and knowing what theyâ€™re doing every second of each day is NOT going to get them into a good college. I want my children to be independent and not rely on anyone else for money or security; making schoolwork a priority is the key to making this happen. Being a parent is finding the fine line between letting our kids figure things out for themselves, but also not wanting them to make the same â€œmistakesâ€ weâ€™ve made along the way. Iâ€™m still learning; weâ€™re always learning.”
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