Siggy Flicker is taking to her blog to discuss this week’s episode of the RHONJ from a relationship expert’s point of view. She also reveals why she was so sensitive to what went on and reveals why she wanted to get out of there.
“Lâ€™Shana Tova, my friends! For those of you non-Jews, thatâ€™s a Happy New Year to you! On this day and every day, Iâ€™m thankful for the health and happiness blessed upon my family and myself â€“- two things that money just cannot buy. Itâ€™s rather fitting that this episode airs during Rosh Hashanah -â€“ itâ€™s a new year and a new outlook on this whole situation for me. Iâ€™m officially done trying to fix what doesnâ€™t want to be fixed. I joined RHONJ with the best intentions; I wanted to bring peace, not to be thrown into the middle of a war zone that doesnâ€™t have an ending in sight. With each episode that passes, Iâ€™m slowly realizing that this entire scenario just may not be â€œfixable.â€
This â€œshowdown in Stoweâ€ has been years in the making. Thereâ€™s been a lot of backstabbing, a lot of hurt, and a lot of ugly words thrown around. Mix that with a group of people who have a difficult time letting go of the past and moving forward and you have a recipe for disaster. These relationships remind me of Joe Gorga on a pair of cross-country skis â€“- theyâ€™re all over the place, but going nowhere!
In order for a relationship to work — whether itâ€™s a romantic relationship, friendship, whatever -â€“ all parties involved must WANT to make it work. All of my clients that Iâ€™ve found success with over the years have had one major thing in common: Theyâ€™ve wanted to make things better. Both parties here, no matter what theyâ€™ve said in the past, are not cooperating, which leads me to believe that they really donâ€™t want to reconcile and move on.
Never before in my life have I ever wished I wasnâ€™t a relationship expert. I LOVE WHAT I DO! During this whole toxic trip, I wanted nothing more than to crawl out of my body and be someone else. I think one of the reasons Iâ€™ve been so successful in my career helping others is that Iâ€™m an extremely empathetic person, hence, all the tears; Iâ€™m very in tune with other peopleâ€™s feelings. During this trip, I felt like I got my ass kicked â€“- all of the drama sucked the life right out of me. I didnâ€™t deal well with drama when I was 16, and I sure as hell donâ€™t have any desire to deal with it now that I have teenagers myself. Grown women threatening each other? No thank you.”
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