Siggy Flicker Explains Why Vermont Was So Emotional For Her

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Siggy Flicker is taking to her blog to discuss this week’s episode of the RHONJ from a relationship expert’s point of view. She also reveals why she was so sensitive to what went on and reveals why she wanted to get out of there.

“L’Shana Tova, my friends! For those of you non-Jews, that’s a Happy New Year to you! On this day and every day, I’m thankful for the health and happiness blessed upon my family and myself –- two things that money just cannot buy. It’s rather fitting that this episode airs during Rosh Hashanah -– it’s a new year and a new outlook on this whole situation for me. I’m officially done trying to fix what doesn’t want to be fixed. I joined RHONJ with the best intentions; I wanted to bring peace, not to be thrown into the middle of a war zone that doesn’t have an ending in sight. With each episode that passes, I’m slowly realizing that this entire scenario just may not be “fixable.”

This “showdown in Stowe” has been years in the making. There’s been a lot of backstabbing, a lot of hurt, and a lot of ugly words thrown around. Mix that with a group of people who have a difficult time letting go of the past and moving forward and you have a recipe for disaster. These relationships remind me of Joe Gorga on a pair of cross-country skis –- they’re all over the place, but going nowhere!

In order for a relationship to work — whether it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, whatever -– all parties involved must WANT to make it work. All of my clients that I’ve found success with over the years have had one major thing in common: They’ve wanted to make things better. Both parties here, no matter what they’ve said in the past, are not cooperating, which leads me to believe that they really don’t want to reconcile and move on.

Never before in my life have I ever wished I wasn’t a relationship expert. I LOVE WHAT I DO! During this whole toxic trip, I wanted nothing more than to crawl out of my body and be someone else. I think one of the reasons I’ve been so successful in my career helping others is that I’m an extremely empathetic person, hence, all the tears; I’m very in tune with other people’s feelings. During this trip, I felt like I got my ass kicked –- all of the drama sucked the life right out of me. I didn’t deal well with drama when I was 16, and I sure as hell don’t have any desire to deal with it now that I have teenagers myself. Grown women threatening each other? No thank you.”

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  • Stacey

    Hmmm, what exactly are Siggy’s credentials for her declaration of being a “relationship expert”? I’m referencing education, degrees, supervised coursework, etc., not the fact that she’s written a book about it, or bills herself as one. I think Siggy is a very well meaning woman, and seems like a lot of fun, but she’s more drama than everyone else combined. Sig, girl, none of the issues between Teresa, Melissa, Jacqueline and their relatives are any of your business. You keep shoving your nose in everyone’s business because “you CARE so much”. Well, maybe, stop. It’s not welcomed. And while you’re at it, maybe stop shouting every word you say. You’re a bit exhausting.

  • Miss Moneypenny

    Lol Stacy I’m hating to admit this but I think you’re right. Dammit! I really really like Siggy as a personality, she’s sweet and cares. But she maybe caring more than necessary and it is getting tiring to see her cry every scene she’s in with these women. What’s the point of her being on the show if she’s constantly phaklemt!

  • Siggy made it about her because cameras were on.

  • Bon Vivant

    Siggy was my comic relief for this episode. Poor thing and her admitted menopausal crying with the quips made me laugh out loud here and there. I like her.