Shannon Beador Reveals More Problems in Her Marriage, Admits She’s Lonely

On this week’s episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County, Shannon Beador had a breakthrough about her rocky marriage to her husband David. Beador told her best friend Tamra Judge that she wasn’t going to let her problems with David affect how she feels about herself anymore.

Viewers know all about Shannon’s marital issues, because she has revealed that David has become distant since her weight-gain, which started reminding her of the last time he pulled away from her and had an affair.

“I can’t have a relationship be the focus of my happiness,” Shannon told Tamra during a major talk. “I kind of have lost track of myself though this. Either the relationship is going to improve, or the relationship isn’t. I cannot let it affect my happiness.”

“I’ve been having some issues with David and I’m not looking for pity, I’m not trying to throw a pity party for myself and I’m not trying to play the victim. I’m just sad,” Shannon Tamra. “Things are so detached right now, it makes me think about the affair more. I just feel sad and lonely.”

“A lot of the time I get sad,” Beador continued. “I’m just devastated of the state that we’re in right now. I just thought we were in a place that we could never go back. And now, we’re just roommates.”

Shannon explained how her weight-gain has put a strain on her marriage.

“With all the weight gain, I don’t know how it happened,” Shannon said. “I feel so… I mean, I don’t want to cry, but I just feel so sh*tty about myself. When I look in the mirror, I don’t even recognize myself, and I know that David is just disgusted with the whole thing. I don’t like what I see, at least I can justify in my head. ‘This is why David is growing apart from you, because look at you.’ ”

Tamra showed support and concern for her friend.

“It just breaks my heart to see you like this,” she told Shannon. “I know you’re going through a lot of sh*t. But Sometimes you got to go though the sh*t to get to the other side. And when you get through this sh*t, it’s going to be golden, I promise you.”

Judge also said that when she was married to her ex-husband, Simon Barney, she would lash out at others because she was unhappy. She said she sees the same pattern happening with Shannon.

“It’s coming out in other ways. And I’m seriously concerned. I’m worried about you,’” Tamra told her friend. “When I was unhappy in my marriage, I lashed out. I was miserable and I wanted everybody to know.”

The ladies are getting ready to go on a trip to Iceland (it’s going to be crazy) and this seemed to improve Shannon’s outlook on things.

“I talk to you every single day, and I swear you cry once a day. Maybe you need a little time away from David right now,” Tamra added.

Shannon agreed.

“I have to say, times like that when I do go away I think [David] realizes how I keep the family together. So I hope he realizes,” Shannon said. “And if he doesn’t, well there’s nothing I can do.”

What did you think of this week’s episode of RHOC? Let’s talk about it.

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  • watching in ohio

    Why are they all like ostriches sticking their head in the sand.. she’s got a substance abuse problem.. she’s in denal.. she won’t take responsibility..she lives alone on the island of “woe is me”! First step..accountability!

  • Sugar Mama

    Shannon will be in divorce court soon. The sooner the better for her and her kids.

  • Rain

    Please please divorce David !!! Set yourself free Shannon ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • Minx

      Yes!!! For all of our Sakes!!
      I can not take another Season of this drama..

      • Rain

        I love Shannon but she should exit the show , seriously!!!

        • Minx

          I hate to say this but, Yes! It is time for her to go. Her mental health is declining rapidly.
          She is really losing her mind. She has become one of those Friends that everyone gets tired of placating.
          Peggy & Lydia have a tag-team baiting Shannon game going on but Shannon allows herself to get baited.
          She is at the point where she doesn’t even realize that her behaviour is unaccpectable..
          Seriously, this isn’t fun to watch. Iceland sounds like a shyte storm..

          • Rain

            These shows are a joke now and an excercise in women bullying other women

            But yes she should go

            • Minx

              Yes! Women bullying other Women..
              Just get out the Mud, the Bikini’s and put the Ladies into the ring..
              It is getting bad..

          • Rochelle Barozzi

            I totally agree.

            • Minx

              Right?
              This isn’t even entertaining..
              This is sad and uncomfortable to watch..

              • Rochelle Barozzi

                Very uncomfortable. She is falling apart before our eyes. 🙁

        • cat62

          Agree – she is a neurotic nightmare,

        • Cin

          omg…. she is giving the rest of us anxiety!!!! lol

  • Minx

    I developed a migraine after watching this episode.
    I have been a Shannon fan for a long time and I completely understand she is going through a great deal but come on, this is unwatchable.
    I don’t am not a NJ & ATL because of Yelling and Major Loudness..
    Watching Shannon implode is not entertaining for me. The thing is that this Anger/ Impolding Drama is becoming commonplace for Shannon and I doubt she recognizes that this is offensive to, others..
    I do not look forward to Iceland.

    • Deborah Brenner

      I so agree, Minx! It pains me to watch Shannon go downhill, because I do think she’s a good person. I really hope she follows her own advice and looks for happiness in herself, not expect her husband to provide it. The irony to me is that he would respect her more and she might even get back the relationship she remembers. And I think it’s HORRIBLE the way Lydia and Peggy have continued to bait her.

      • Minx

        Exactly!
        Peggy & Lydia are awful..
        They ate both so transparent!

        • cat62

          They are really both just working on my last nerve

          • Minx

            Right?
            Lydia with her Tweety Bird Eyes playing innocent Christian Girl and Peggy with I don’t understand English but I have a degree in English Lit from UCLA.
            Please!

            • wickertable

              I need to see Peggy’s degree! I don’t believe for a NY second she EVER attended a university, much less UCLA!

              • Minx

                Right?
                UCLA has a highly competitive English Program..
                Unless, of course Peggy also has a degree in the Dramatic Arts..

    • Violetsnlillies

      Exactly why I stopped watching this franchise. Too much negativity.

      • Minx

        I generally stick with BH & NY.

        • Violetsnlillies

          Me too. I also watch RHOCheshire and it’s my new favorite!

    • Cin

      I don’t watch ATL or NJ. Too much nasty going on. Shannon should move to NJ Houswives – I think she would fit right in with the ladies. The 3 that I watch – OC, BH and NY – that’s all I can handle – lol.

  • wickertable

    Wow, when they did that flashback of Shannon, after the affair, she was so skinny! David cheated on you then Shannon, you were skinny!!! I’m sure your weight gain hasn’t helped your current situation, but it’s not the root cause. Your marriage has never been good. IIRC, the first domestic situation where David was arrested, the twins had not even been born yet. I think the oldest one was under 2yrs. old. A bad marriage shouldn’t be a life sentence.

    • cat62

      Good words of advice.

  • cat62

    Paaaleeaaasssse…David has already checked out – do you not see the way he looks at her? He cannot stand her. Do you think he really cares if “I have to say, times like that when I do go away I think [David] realizes how I keep the family together. So I hope he realizes,”??? Uh…he obviously doesn’t care about the family. He is waiting for the season to end and he will be moving along. I guarantee you this.

    • Minx

      You are right. David has absolutely no expression, other than disgust when he looks at Shannon..
      Gawd, it is so obvious. I wonder why she refuses to, see it?

      • Michelle

        Cat, Minx I hope that’s not true. I’m not convinced that Shannon’s weight is making him feel disgusted. I think the both of them have such a hard time communicating that they put walls up cause it’s easier than figuring it out. They still haven’t figured out the affair and how to get over it or move on. I wouldn’t be surprised if they file for divorce. It’s easier than figuring it out.

        • Minx

          Unfortunately, they are not happy and haven’t been for a long time ( based upon everything We have witnessed from the very beginning).
          I think after the affair they made an effort to work through those issues in therapy and then more than likely after the wedding renewal they stopped.
          Now, it is obvious that they are completely miserable and toxic for each other.
          Sometimes divorce is healthy for everyone..

          • Michelle

            Oh they are definitely miserable and they don’t know how to make it all better either.

            Renewals are just another way of trying to convince yourself you got it together and patting yourself on the back that you can make it. It’s like putting your spouses/significant others name in tattoo on your body. It’s the kiss of death.

  • cat62

    David Beador, cheating on her with another woman. “I thought I was in love with her, yes,” David told host Andy Cohen in the no-holds-barred special, before dropping another bomb.
    “Heather [Dubrow] knew about it and she didn’t say anything,” David revealed of Shannon’s costar and pal. “It’s the ultimate girl code,” Shannon said of Heather’s discretion, adding that she didn’t even tell her husband, plastic surgeon and Botched star Terry. “She kept it to herself. And I am very appreciative of that. When you have information like that, especially in our small town, you can really hurt people.” David said that he “suspected” Heather knew about his eight-month long affair because “they had mutual friends.”

  • cat62
  • cat62

    crack me up

  • wickertable

    OMgosh, I know. The look on his face was just priceless! He had not one ounce of concern or interest. It was so funny.

    • Minx

      D)-
      Do they have stores in Iceland?
      S) No, you go to the Village and trade furs…
      Oh Gawd, this was priceless..
      Meanwhile Shannon is drowning in drool wanting to grab the chip bag and lick the crumbs out it and David is crunching away ignoring her..

  • Cin

    takes two ,, My thoughts – the marriage is over. Both of them are weird. Shannon is a freak show – I don’t have much of an opinion about David cuz he is not highlighted that much. But Shannon – omg – from the beginning this women screeches, non forgiving, zero tolerance . . . . . . . her behavior is not pretty at the moment.

  • DaysofWineandRoses

    I know she wanted to show herself, her family, and the world a marriage can bounce back after betrayal…but maybe a month or two back when I listened to a Shannon interview on a podcast where she described turning to magic spells to get David back after the physically separated in the wake of his affair, I knew it was not going to bode well. There are times in life where you simply cannot go against the natural course of things and you have to learn to release them and let them go. Shannon is not ready to heal her marriage with David, because she ‘s not ready to heal herself . She is a very broken individual and the reconciliation she is trying to force with David never had a chance of working because she has so many shattered pieces to repair within her own soul. There’s simply no way to put one before.

    • Daisy

      Beautifully said , and magic spells ? I don’t even know how to respond

      • DaysofWineandRoses

        Yes, spells. The one that brought him back within three days of the last time he moved out I’m actually very familiar with from my younger days being interested in the supernatural (20 years ago or so.) Apparently her Feng Shui lady instructed her on what to do: I recognized what she described I immediately from witchcraft spell books I had in my early-mid twenties… when I was young, emotionally stunted, with control issues and very, very dark impulses. Beyond Shannon needing to fix herself before she can constructively tend to her marriage, she also needs to learn that you can’t have a so-called Christian marriage, expect it to be a reflection of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and expect it to bear fruit, yet serve “two masters”..

        Look at how everything is manifesting in her life: she keeps going against the natural order of things and trying to force a square peg into a round hole, and it’s killing her. Sure, the material wealth is still there, but it’s certainly not shielding her from the pain she has within and all the things she admitted in a previous episode she’s carrying from the example of her parents’ marriage in her childhood. She is self-sabotaging and killing her own spirit, her own marriage, any chance of what her daughters have to learn healthy love and communication between couples from their parents, and possibly any friendships she has left…and she sublimates and deflects from getting to her own root issues by looking to Vicki, blaming David’s choice to evolve into a healthier lifestyle, this random decision to open a health restaurant with the owner of Z Pizza, suffocating Tamra with her co-dependency ( a person , btw, whom anyone with a shred of discernment wouldn’t trust or lean on as far as they could pick her up and throw her). This is all to HER detriment. I feel badly for her that she doesn’t see that. However frustrating an individual she is to watch on TV this season, though, I do wish her recovery, a renewed heart and renewed sense of purpose for her life.

        • Daisy

          I have to say that you’re very interesting . I don’t know anything about spells or anything like that . If I did I would have been doing some stuff in my younger days for sure . As far as Tamra goes I couldn’t agree more . I’m just waiting for the blow up between them . Sad but true

          • DaysofWineandRoses

            In all sincerity, I believe that Tamara, while not particularly book smart, is a very sly, wiley little fox, and has done nothing but use Shannon as an ally to advance her way through the chessboard that is Housewives for the past 2 seasons. We’ve already seen her do it to every other wife while she plays the push-pull game with Vicki over the last 10 years. Shannon, in her codependent weakness is invested into Tamra with everything she’s got in her heart and soul, but little Tam-Tam? She’s only invested insofar as to what bolsters and strengthens her position on the show as a veteran central character, a position she shares (like it or not) with Victoria Gunvalson. Without the strength in numbers Tamra & Shannon had with Heather as part of the Anti-Vicki Trifecta, the power shift in the show is pretty clear with the addition of 3 new show members and Meghan maintaining a neutral role as she hopscotches from side to side as is convenient. I see Tamra slowly but surely making her way to a workable peace with Vicki down the road, if for no other reason than to ease the pain of production, and show herself as not just a veteran, but a good “team player” for the decision makers at the production company that creates this show and the network that distributes it. Remember, Tamra is the least wealthy of the women, and is relying on that gym for future income which is only doing fair amounts of business. She wants that yearly check and I believe she’ll do whatever is necessary to keep it…especially if it means taking the show into another twist or turn and disposing of yet another housewife.

            • Daisy

              Once again you’re absolutely correct . Tamra is a sly fox, no doubt . I don’t understand how any of the other women can trust her at all . Oh well, she can be good entertainment at times

    • Starr

      Absolutely spot on.

  • Daisy

    Girl , who the hell even knows anymore

  • Daisy

    Exactly . It’s like the twilight zone but not as entertaining

    • Rain

      Like your worst nightmares all rolled up into one

      • Daisy

        Are you watching ahs

  • Daisy

    It really is and totally goes with our conversation

  • Daisy

    My hubby is actually watching also

  • Daisy

    There’s a few things but not many. He loves got thanks again for that

  • Starr

    Poor Shannon. Wish she’d love herself first & not depend on a most disconnected relationship to give her the happiness & contentment she is so desperately seeking.
    David cant take much more of her neediness, screeching, out of control hysteria, so he’s emotionally gone. Even Tamara is losing patience. Personally, I lost it the very first season she came on. Everyone of the women are running from her as well as she’s abused every situation making mountains out of molehills. One has to pity that lost soul.
    She’s in dire need of help, but she needs to want it, no one can do it for her.

  • cat62

    LOL – she is also married I heard.

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