RHOC Season 12 Reunion Part 1 Recap

Part one of The Real Housewives of Orange County reunion aired Monday night and a lot went down in just one episode.

Shannon Beador announced that she had been separated from her husband David since September. Shannon explained that David was the one who made the decision to end their marriage of 17 years.

When asked about a time she knew her marriage was over, Shannon explained: “We went on a trip to Hawaii which I kind of hoped would bring us back together, but he left the trip early. And when I came home, he said, ‘We’re done,’ ” Shannon told reunion host Andy Cohen.

But Shannon acknowledges that things were not working in her marriage. “I did have a conversation with him at the beginning of the summer that I just couldn’t keep living this way,” Shannon said. “For months he lived in the separate end of the house. It was like I was living with a stranger.”

But that doesn’t mean their separation was easy. The couple have been married for 17-years. “I said to David when he told me it was over, ‘What happened? We had a couple of amazing years.’ And he goes, ‘We had a couple good months,’ ” Shannon said, wiping away tears. “It was just a knife in the heart.”

“We’ve agreed for the benefit of our daughters to be amicable,” Shannon said. “It was always a tradition to go to Sunday night dinner so we meet him for dinner on Sunday nights. And we still go to the USC games and take the kids. Which is hard but it’s for the benefit of them.”

What did you think of part one of the reunion?

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  • Minx

    Shannon seems so much more centered and taking acountability for her actions.
    Her needing Hormone Therapy and living in a house divided had to be Hell.
    Lydiot? I, just can’t.
    That is all I can say..
    I have Pies in the oven &. Bread Dough Rising..
    Can’t wait for the Drama to unfold next week!

  • UnrealHousewife57

    I appreciate that Shannon is wounded, but letting David think she’d take him back is the worst thing she can do. She still has him in her Twitter header and avatar. Cut him out. Acting pathetic and sad is not the way to go. That’s not attractive. She said last night that the first time she sees him dating another woman it will kill her. Stop! Stop saying things like that. Stop being pathetic. Be the strong, independent woman you need to be. THAT is the example you should be giving your daughters. I know it’s been 17 years, but grovelling will not gain any respect from him. He’s not worth it. I’d stop the Sunday dinners too. Make new family traditions that don’t include him. He chose to leave, I’d refuse to be his friend. No need to badmouth him, but no need to provide him with the comfort of a family when it’s convenient for him. I’d be dropping the girls off and doing my own thing for a few hours.

    • Shawn Dudley-Mcclure

      She is pathetic. He does not want her. Had he not ended the marriage, she would still be there with him

    • Frank Van Der Heijden

      You cannot erase the fact that the girls are also his daughters and he has the right to see them, so you cannot cut him off completely….family it’s a fluid concept these days, and turning the girls against him would not be healthy for the girls, so Shannon should think about it before she decides to take any action and use the girls as a weapon against him

      • UnrealHousewife57

        When did I ever say anything about using the girls as a weapon or turning them against him? He ended their family. Shannon doesn’t have to spend time with him. Let him be a father without her having to spend time with him. She’s not obligated to be his friend. They co-parent. The end.

        • UnrealHousewife57

          I reread my comment and my statement was not clear. I didn’t mean stop the dinners and cut David out of their life, but if I were Shannon I wouldn’t be attending. She and her girls need to make new traditions and memories with her new reality. What David chooses to do with his daughters and his new dynamic is up to him. Attend the children’s functions of course, but no need for awkward and painful pretend-y dinners with him. The ones they filmed when they were together were painful enough.

  • cat62

    David checked out a long time ago – he was very manipulative and while his behavior may not have been physical – it was still abusive. I understand there are two sides to each relationship and Shannon had her share in it too but – he is just such a cold-hearted man. He has no warmth in his eyes at all – even when he looks at his kids there is nothing behind those eyes. You can see glimpses of Shannon being a good person when she lets her guard down. I am sure after living the way she has for so long it effected her self worth – her paranoia – her combativeness and her happiness. I hope she gets it all back. I hope he gets help.

  • Margaret A. Luttrell

    The words of David saying they had a couple of good months out of 17 years was so hurtful and insensitive. It makes him appear to be cruel and emotionally insensitive.

    • Minx

      I just want to Bitch-Slap ,David. Such cruel and unnecassary words!
      I, bet he never stopped, cheating.
      Team, Shannon!

      • Rain

        Very cruel

    • cat62

      He is definitely cruel. After 17 years you had a few good months? Really? I find that hard to believe. He is one of those guys who wants him woman submissive and will do or say anything to make sure she has no self worth. It abusive. It didn’t take David long to go right back to being miserable after the renewal. He was clearly using all of those Spartan races and gym days training to avoid spending any time at home. The handwriting was on the wall.

      • It not only shows how cruel he is, but stupid too. Who stays when they’ve had a few months out of seventeen effing years? And it’s not for the kids. Kids do better when their parents are happy, not miserable and constantly bickering. Shannon had her things too, yes, that is for real. Her obsession with the 9 lemons, really? Now that was just stupid. I’m all for feng shui within the household and garden. It isn’t zen when it becomes a nucleus for arguments and belittling. Their entire dynamic was messed up. That was so apparent from the very first show that I am surprised they stayed married as long as they did. Of course neither should ever say a demeaning word about the other parent during or after the divorce. Ever. And, any step-parents that come along will do well to remember whose kids the girls are.

    • UnrealHousewife57

      To be fair, I don’t think he meant the marriage, I think he means since the vow renewal, but what do I know?

      • Heather

        I agree thats what he meant. Still cruel.

    • bluebell

      I agree.

  • Starr

    I’m re-watching the reunion now. Peaceful really. Dont know what’ll happen with part 2.
    There was sadness & empathy, especially for Shannon. She obviously still loves David, in time she’ll strengthen. Maybe the “Real” Shannon will surface & Maybe, just maybe, I might like her.
    Looking closely, Vicki’s aged & Tamara’s face is hard, no longer a soft look to her.
    I really hope peace reigns for that group.

    • Heather

      Looks like part 2 the gloves come off. I actually liked seeing them be cordial to each other. It never lasts long.

      • Starr

        So true Heather, guess it was wishful thinking.

  • cat62

    Beador Construction brings in $13 million a year – Shannon is worth $20 million. Wonder if she will have to pay him alimony?

    • Rain

      I think they agreed to be amicable

      • cat62

        I sure hope so – no need to make a bad situation worse by being an A$$hole.

        • Rain

          I agree . He’s already exposed as a cheater so that doesn’t bode well in his favor

    • Heather

      David would be a real prick to ask anything of Shannon after what hes done, the cheating, remarrying her and then abandoning her…IN fairness to him tho she said he has been very generous.

    • Jennifer McGee

      How is Shannon worth $20 million?

      • wickertable

        Family money.

  • UnrealHousewife57

    Lydia is one nasty-ass “Christian”. Who died and put her in charge? She’s rude and obnoxious. I hope the others let her have it. Good for Meghan for going after her right out of the gate.

    • Heather

      I hate how she’s treated Shannon during the worst time of Shannon’s life. Shocking.

      • UnrealHousewife57

        Yes, like “I said it to your face” makes it okay to attack a woman who is obviously emotionally stressed. Where was her fairy dust all season?

        • Rain

          She was like a child , ‘I said it to your face ‘ repeating it over and over

          • Heather

            Right like that makes it better. She really bombed this year tying to be relevant.

    • Sugar Mama

      That little bug eyed woman child needs a time out! She seems so entitled and smarmy

  • Heather

    I felt so much compassion and respect for Shannon watching the reunion. God bless her and her girls.

  • UnrealHousewife57

    Oh, I’ll give her time. She should have taken the time to get over the affair but she rushed to a “Everything’s forgiven, we’re better than ever.”. Her behavior her first season was over the top because of the affair. This past season has been a disaster for her and she deflected to Vicki (I know, hard to believe I’m giving Vicki any slack but fair is fair) I want to see the fun Shannon full time. I love when she’s passionate about things, but not when she’s emotional. She’s very intelligent, IMO and I can’t wait to see the healed and healthy Shannon.

  • Sugar Mama
  • Heather

    Thanks darling 🙂

  • Sunshine

    You are NEVER disrespectful of another’s beliefs. We have seen many friends hurt and treated dismissively by others due to their lifestyle( for lack of a better word). We both take discrimination in all forms seriously, and to use religion as an excuse for judging? Believe me, I get the paradox by being judgemental of her, she irks me , I’m human.
    My ancestor was burned at the stake during the Marian persecutions, as was his uncle by marriage. His wife’s uncle was the first translator of the Bible into English. Maybe it gives me some cred, Ha!

  • UnrealHousewife57

    You have to be more than a follower, according to Lydia. You have to believe that she and only she is an authority. What are her credentials? What theology studies has she completed? Her pomposity is so hypocritical.

    • It reminds me of the priests in the catholic school I was forced to attend. They said only they could read the Bible. What hogwash. But, I do know a Christian woman who is Catholic. She taught me that those hypocrites do not define all of those who believe in Catholicism. Jesus taught us to treat all others in the way we would like to be treated. Pretty simple when it comes right down to it. God will judge when it is time, it is not our job.

  • wickertable

    I wish everyone here a happy Thanksgiving! I’ve got to get off my butt and start my cleaning/baking. Sometimes having everyone here gets exhausting!! Everyone brings a dish, which is helpful, but 20 people is a lot of extra cooking. I’m anal about cleaning, especially for the holidays, so when everyone leaves, I need to clean again, ugg. I hate that about me, lol. Anyway, we all have fun so that’s all that matters!!!! Enjoy all!

  • Amanda Bates Barnette

    Seems like Shannon gets a pass for all of her behaviors. Had a problem with every single housewive on that show. Uninvited to Meghan’s party and Vicki went and hung out with her yet Vicki is unforgivable bc she actually told the truth about your husband to Kelly privately? I just don’t understand why she’s allowed so many passes. Her next maniac episode will be blamed on a hang nail I guess.

    • Starr

      As much as my heart bled for Shannon’s obvious pain at the reunion, she really got every pass since season one & I dont believe there should be passes for obnoxious behavior because she’s going through a very rough time, not acceptable.

    • bluebell

      I agree. Shannon looks at Vicki with such hatred. She doesn’t realize she is drinking the poison and hopes Vicki will die. Forgiveness frees you. If Shannon can’t/won’t forgive Vicki, can you imagine how she deals with David when cameras are not there?

    • Cin

      she’s obnoxious… no passes here.

  • Frank Van Der Heijden

    I wish David could tell his side of the story, everybody piles on him, yet nobody knows what really what going on between them. If it’s true that David cheated it’s also truth that people cheat for a reason. If David were happy in his marriage he would have not been looking for extra-curricular activities, and it takes two to make a marriage happy. When a man cheats he’s a monster, he’s the scum of the Earth and deserve to burn at the stake, yet when a woman cheats then it was because she was confused, depressed, was seduced, or she was not listened to….or it was a stage in her “journey”….etc etc etc

    • Starr

      Agree. There are 3 sides to every story, yours, mine & God’s truth.

      • DindiSue

        well said and sooooo true

        Happy Thanksgiving ALL bloggers

    • UnrealHousewife57

      Once again, blaming the victim. It’s HER fault he strayed. Nothing Shannon did made him stick his dick in another woman. He chose that all by himself. And women who cheat don’t get a free pass from me either. The married woman he was screwing is a dirt-bag too.

      • Heather

        I hope you are joking or at least have had a head injury to explain your comments. LOL

    • Cin

      Frank has been cheated on.

  • UnrealHousewife57

    Well, unfortunately, that seems to be a prevailing philosophy. If men screw up it must somehow be that a woman drove them to it. Such B.S.

  • Heather

    Happy thanksgiving to you sweet Rain! Love and kisses back! xoxoxo

  • UnrealHousewife57

    That’s okay. I’m a very patient person. If I have to spell it out multiple times I will.

  • UnrealHousewife57

    You make it sound like I’m bothered by Frank’s comments. Believe me, I’m not, but I don’t hold women to a higher or lower standard.

  • Aunt Bee

    Thanks for saying that Rain. I too like Shannon so much and want her to have some happiness.

  • bluebell

    So sorry to hear of a family breaking up. Praying for all of them. I don’t care for David, but if Shannon holds a grudge like she did with Vicki, can’t imagine what she did with David. During the reunion, she looked at Vicki with pure hate. She makes herself miserable. It’s like drinking poison & expecting the other person to die.

  • Stuart Cooper

    Agree, I found Lydia to be disgusting in this reunion. She called Shannon out for not replying to a text/ wanting to meet up while the show was airing. Not only was Shannon going through a very tough time, but once she saw Lydia confessionals why would she want to spend time with Lydia. For someone who says they are a christian and turns to god, the lack of empathy and support she showed to Shannon was disgusting. Shannon was clearly in pain all season and then the revelation at the reunion Lydia didn’t seem to care. “said it to your face” does not make it OK.

    I agreed with Meghan calling her out on her comments regarding the Psychic and Drag Queens. Saying ” I don’t know how I feel about Drag Queens as they are not in the bible” was a nasty thing to say. As Meghan said whether its in the bible or not she should be treating human beings with respect.

    Looks like things turn even nastier between Shannon and Lydia next week. I am surprised its only a two part reunion. They brushed over the battle between Kelly and Shannon at the start of the season and them starting a friendship very quickly.

  • When I found out my first husband cheated, the knife to the heart let all the love I had for him seep out, and the wound closed up and healed. I left him, took my kids and started a new life here. We’d been together 11 years. I’ve now been married to my second husband 32 years, and exclusive since 1981. He walked my married Daughters down the aisle, he has been their Dad since they were 1, 3 and 5. He’s their only real Dad. I didn’t even grieve the loss of my first husband’s love, as it was tainted. Many losses since have shown me what true loss is, and a cheating husband was more freedom from a lie than a loss for me. But, as you so rightly said, Rain, we all heal and deal in our own way and in our own time.

  • Wow, you were cooking 3 days ago, wish I’d been here on the day. I mean, you are always witty, but this was one of your really good days. Love ya, Rain.

  • bluebell

    I notice Shannon said that David said, “we’re done.” Wonder what to caused David to leave Hawaii & later make that comment?