Melissa Gorga is taking to her Bravo Blog to explain why she is coming off like a “hard ass” this season. She says it’s because she can’t be fake anymore and pretend like everyone is getting along. She says Joe Gorga charged Joe Giudice because there were years of anger, resentment and frustration that came out. Melissa also slams Teresa for her writing in her last blog that Melissa is lucky she has kept quiet about the things she does know about her past.
Melissa writes, “WhenÂ TeresaÂ went out and told her husband what her brother called her, Joe Guidice came flying into the ballroom yelling and aggressive. Ten years of hurt and anger in my husband just exploded. He had reached his breaking point. Joe Giudice immediately demanded an apology when his wife was called â€œscum.â€ I wonder how he would have reacted if his wife were called, say, â€œstripper,â€ â€œcheater,â€ â€œskank ass beotch,â€ or â€œhorsey face.â€ How about if he were called â€œpussy whippedâ€ or that he â€œtook it up the a– with a strap on?â€ Joe said one word — one syllable — to his sister, right to her face, not behind her back or using other people to speak for him, and look at what happened?
The fight was about anger, frustration, and resentment. We held it in for so long that eventually we just broke down and couldnâ€™t take it anymore. What Joe was trying to explain to his family is that when you speak negatively about his wife, it is disrespecting him. From the past few seasons, I think itâ€™s clear that neither Teresa nor her husband will ever understand that.
When the brawl started, I just reacted and jumped in to break them apart. Iâ€™d jump in front of a moving train for my husband and kids. If my family is threatened in any way, you couldnâ€™t drag me away. Watching the fight last night, I think I confirmed my take on marriage. Itâ€™s about love, honesty, passion, respect, and loyalty. Loyalty means you stand by your man and defend him in a fight. You donâ€™t take off and blame others later.
Even though Joe Giudice might have deserved to get slapped for the things heâ€™d said about me, I really wasnâ€™t trying to hurt him. I just wanted to get them off of each other. Itâ€™s pure instinct to try to help your loved ones when you feel like they may be in danger. I was in Mama Bear mode. The claws came out. I might be small, but I can and will do anything to protect my husband from people who tried to do him harm, physically and emotionally.
Immediately after the fight, Joe was devastated.Â He knew that his sister and her husband would spin the fight their way and he was upset he let it get that far.Â He was right. Teresa told Joe that she was the one that had to go in there and break up the fight! Really? She wasnâ€™t there! Whatever her excuse will be, the fact is she ran in the opposite direction when her husband and brother were trying to kill each other.
It was agony to watch my husband cry. Joe is a passionate, sensitive man. He really felt destroyed over what just happened. The suffering had to stop. I was desperate to separate him from the source of the pain and get out of there.
After the fight, Teresa came to our room. She asked to talk, and Joe said â€œno.â€ She then asked me to leave my husband alone with her. I said â€œno.â€ I know my husband and we all needed to cool down. Iâ€™d say we should have slept on it, but Joe and I didnâ€™t sleep a wink that night. We were too upset. Joe was a wreck. He could barely speak and I was shaken up watching him.
Now I know that while we were crying, devastated, and embarrassed over in the other room, nothing but giggles and Fabellini toasts. The Giudices must have felt like what just happened was no big deal. They were having sexy time in the hot tub. Hey, whatever floats your boat. I wonder what Filomena â€œtoo much boobieâ€ Giudice would say about her son and daughter-in-lawâ€™s Jacuzzi action and his â€œIâ€™m going to jerk offâ€?
The next morning we felt more done with trying to repair our relationship with Teresa then we ever had. I said some not nice things about Teresaâ€™s brands. I â€œeggmitâ€ it. Sheâ€™d thrown mud on my projects for years, especially my singing — her rendition of â€œOn Displayâ€ at the reunion was unforgettable. Multiple times she said I lip sync and even my nieces have repeated it. As Iâ€™ve said before, tit for tat will not get us anywhere. Two wrongs donâ€™t make a right. When I am wrong, I say Iâ€™m wrong.
I know Iâ€™m being a bit of a hard ass this season, but I just canâ€™t be fake. Watching your husband so upset would make any women see red. I toughened up for him. He needed to be strong for our family, and I needed to be strong to back him up. At this point, I was beyond fed up. I had lost hope and believed that the nonsense was never going to end.
As you can see, I might have had the right idea. Just last week in her blog, Teresa outright threatened us saying I am â€œvery, very lucky that [sheâ€™s] keeping quiet about the things [she] does knowâ€ about me and my marriage. I thought we are supposed to be in a better place?Â This is exactly why I didnâ€™t want to just put on a fake smile and pretend that we could snap our fingers and the animosity would disappear. Teresa can threaten me all she likes. All day long, or all night in the hot tub. In fact, I beg her to write in her blog what she â€œhas.â€ What lie is up her sleeve? Iâ€™m dying to know. Do share with us all, Teresa. Itâ€™s been open season on me for a while. You might as well bring it out. Iâ€™ve been called everything under the sun. What else you got? I canâ€™t wait to hear directly from you, not others.
Obviously, Iâ€™ve had to toughen up for a reason. I thought staying at the castle and more talking would only make things worse. It would take a miracle to change my mind, and turn things around. Maybe that miracle is Dr. V.Â She was very pretty and didnâ€™t look like a saint, but God worked in mysterious ways.”
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