Meghan Edmonds: I Still Lost My Baby Boy


Meghan Edmonds is taking to her blog this week to ask viewers to not undermine her pain because she still lost a baby in this week’s episode of the RHOC.

“I honestly couldn’t watch the scene when I was in tears. It was just too hard to relive that moment and it brought back too many emotions. As expected, everyone has had different views and opinions on how I reacted to the news of just one baby instead of two, but knowing that two genetically perfect embryos were transferred and only one survived was really hard for me. Of course I am beyond excited and grateful for my baby girl to arrive in a couple months, but the loss of (what I now know was) the boy felt – and was and is – so real. People have said that I should be grateful I have one healthy baby and I want everyone to know that I am, but please don’t undermine my pain because I still lost my baby boy, no matter how early. And anyone who has undergone IVF knows that our embryos are our babies. And yes, Jimmy and I have had early success with IVF, we are pregnant with a healthy baby, and we can afford the treatments we underwent. We have a lot to be grateful for. But at the end of the day it doesn’t make our loss disappear.

I was overwhelmed with emotions and Jim was, too. He was so upset. Even at the next appointment, he asked them to please look again for our other baby – it broke my heart. I’d wake up crying and fall asleep crying and we had to take some time to grieve. I’m now seven months pregnant and I’m currently decorating my baby girl’s nursery and couldn’t be more excited to meet her!

I’m excited for everyone to see the opening of K.Hall Designs on next week’s episode! Brian and Ashley did such an incredible job setting up the entire store in only two weeks. It’s also been great to see some of the ladies wearing my Hashtag Hats throughout the season. Thanks Tamra and Kelly! The #classyaf and #coolmom hats are perfect for you both!”

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55 Replies to “Meghan Edmonds: I Still Lost My Baby Boy”

  1. I can barely watch this show anymore, but this story is of course very sad. Depending on your religious and scientific beliefs about conception, she had a baby boy in there that didn’t make it. I did catch the episode where ( I think?) she was told that the boy embryo was high risk so this is a touchy situation. Overall, I would be devastated if I was implanted with two babies and one didn’t make it into fruition, so I would imagine she would be even moreso. It has to be bittersweet to be so excited about her baby girl coming, but knowing that her baby boy didn’t make it.

        1. She’s growing on me too this season. I can’t believe people are so heartless as to question her grief. Loss and pain are the same in anyone’s language.

    1. It is a deep sadness when life is lost. I lost my baby son at 5 months, and to this day I grieve for him. People who say stupid things when someone is grieving should STFU. Things like she was talking about. Just say how sorry you are. Bring some food. Send flowers. Write a beautiful card without the “she/he is at peace now. ” Or “you still have your baby girl” She KNOWS THAT ALREADY. Allow the people who have lost someone to say those things if they wish. This might sound presumptuous, but I know what I am talking about being that I lost my Daughter when she was only 27. Some of the things people say might seem comforting, but they are not. I was at the deli in the grocery one day, and I had been crying ad told the lady why, she said “if my Daughter died I wouldn’t be able to stand up!” As if she could possibly know the grief, and what she would do or not do, IOW, hers would be worse than mine. God, I almost threw the food at her. My family was at the house, my other children and some of my siblings were still in town, and we needed food. DUH. Stupid bitch. As if I would need to explain anything to anyone. Think carefully before you say anything is my motto.

      1. My darling 3Ds!!! Your post brought tears to my eyes. Very well said. I often shudder when some people tell me they ‘can imagine ‘ my pain !! I had a woman even tell me she lost her dog so she knows what it’s like to lose family ! Did she mean well? Maybe ! But seriously just shut up . I deleted my FAcebook because people were constantly posting pics they found of John John and they thought ‘I would love to see them’. NO I WOULD NOT LOVE TO SEE THEM ‘ he is not a puppy that I lost. sigh! I acknowledge that grief is different from person to person but please don’t pretend you can relate to someone else’s pain, especially with the loss of a child’ . Did those people wake up screaming at night for weeks on end? Did they wander barefoot at night like a demented crazy person ? Do they have ONE day when they didn’t choke up at least once and hope that maybe you’re in nightmare and maybe you’ll wake up?! Hm, I’m guessing no they didn’t ,so how can you tell me you ‘know what I’m going through’? A co worker asked me a month ago ‘how long did it take you to overcome your grief’ , I looked at her and said ‘any day now!’ …. speechless !

        On a lesser level, people talking about MS. It’s an odd disease that knocks you physically and emotionally . One day I’m skipping and singing, next 9 days I’m crying and motionless. So no , you don’t know !

        I do feel most times people mean well but there is no need to pretend that they relate . Sometimes the kindest thing is to say nothing at all! I love you my soul sisterxoxox ❤️❤️❤️❤️

        1. Rain, you have just brought me to tears thinking of you still grieving. Of course you still do! No one can possibly know if they haven’t been through it themselves. I feel so much for you and 3D, I just can’t imagine the grief. Also with the MS any one that doesn’t understand tell them to go boil their heids! A good old Scottish saying meaning f off!

        2. Rain, & 3 D, thank you for sharing.
          Believe people do mean well, sometimes it’s awkward for people to say anything, cause they don’t want to upset the grieving one. People stumble over their words.
          Rain, my love, you never get over it, you just learn how to go on. Lost my sibling last year,& now I’m an only child. My very wise Mother is the one , who mentioned that you never get over it, just learn HOW to move forward.
          Hope that each day is brighter for you both.

          1. Southern I am so very sorry you lost a sibling. You do just learn to live with tragedies like this. You don’t get over them and it’s silly when people expect you to. All you can do is learn to cope. Just as 3D and Rain have had to live with losing a child. Life can be very unfair at times. Xxoo

          2. Sorry for your loss plaid . It’s sad and I’m sure harder and sadder for your poor mother. My heartfelt condolences xoxo

            1. Sorry for your loss Plaid. It’s sad and I’m sure it’s harder and sadder for your poor mother. My heartfelt condolences xoxo

            2. Sorry for your loss plaid. It’s sad and I’m sure sadder and harder for your poor mother. My heartfelt condolences xoxox

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          3. Southern Plaid, I am deeply sorry that you lost a sibling, your only one too. My kids tell me that was another one of the millions of hard things in their grief, my middle child said she used to be a baby sister and have a baby sister, now she only is a baby sister, and that in itself was hard. It made me think of her saying that when you shared you are now an only child, and I am so sorry. It changes everything in the whole world, doesn’t it?

        3. It really makes the saying “without our health, we have less” Our heart, mind & soul remains, but the temple we live in, our body, is injured and sick. I always appreciated simply “I am so sorry” and if they were close, some cooked food. I do not know what MS is like at all, and I pray, for real, for your peace and comfort. My response last time was “I got up off of my knees, & I have peeked out from behind the blinding grief, & can see some of the world again.” For me, I am able to live with the pain, that is really the only difference, when for years I thought surely it would kill me. I love you, Rain, and hold you in my heart. oxoxoxox

          1. Thank you my sweet fiend. Oh yes, we all learn to live with the hand we are dealt. Is it difficult and painful, yes!! But you wake up, put your big girl panties on and you move on. We are WOMEN and we are strong and we deal , that just how God made us. And as mothers, we put our pain aside and make sure everyone around us is still ok first and foremost. As I said, most people mean well and I appreciate that ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

            1. Rain, you are an amazing lady, and I am honoured to call you my friend! I can’t say anymore about your grief that I haven’t already said but love you Sweetie xxxooo

            2. Suze,you’re a wonderful woman and an amazing would. The honor and privilege is mine ❤️❤️❤️❤️

          2. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ There are no words I haven’t already said but you are a beautiful strong woman and I know you are just living with the grief. Xoxoxxo

  2. I don’t know how to really feel about this. Having done fertility treatment and hormone therapy and have had an actual miscarriage, this rubbed me the wrong way. My husband and I had been trying for a year and when we finally gave up, the last round took.
    You are given multiple embryos in hopes that one or both will take, thus the high multiple birth rate amongst IVF. The doctors had a joke calling it putting your eggs into one basket, but they always made it clear…it might not or will all take. I have twins on both sides of my family and he and I were a little overwhelmed with the prospect of multiples, but we’d be grateful either way. We knew the high risk situation and still proceeded.
    We’ve actually been pregnant and lost it at 16 weeks. It wasn’t an embryo that didn’t take, but a pregnancy that happened that I got attached to. Thankfully, we are pregnant now… I’m being monitored closely and I’m doing everything they tell me to.
    So for me, it was a little grating to watch. Going through multiple treatments and having them either not take or losing the child itself, was a horrible year to fight through. But you get pregnant, God bless you for it, on your first try and you’re upset that you “lost your baby boy”? I felt as if she was a little spoiled girl who only got one pony instead of two. I know Jimmy brought his sperm out the ice box for her at the threat of divorce and she knew she had a shot to take. Maybe she thought she had to make it count hoping for a boy and a girl.
    It just seemed like she didn’t understand the process or expected it to be different for her. I felt for her in that moment, but it bothered me nonetheless.

    1. Oh congratulations. I am so very pleased for you, wonderful wonderful news Xoxoxoxox
      I lost one at the same stage as Meghan (not through fertility treatment), I was upset but it isn’t a miscarriage that is so different.

        1. Thank you! It’s been a long road, but we are here. They always caution you that all or none can take. I just felt like in her head maybe she made plans for twins without giving much credence to what the doctors told her. I felt for her, but I also shook my head knowing that they thoroughly explain this step by step in the whole process. The female embryo was stronger and had attached which is why she got the positive test and saw it on the first ultrasound. They filled her basket the best they could.

          1. Oh wow Geminigirl in my haste I didn’t read that you’re expecting! Congratulations I’m so very happy for you and your husband! How blessed you are! You’ll be a great mom ♥️

    2. Congrats Geminigirl and may God bless you a beautiful and healthy child!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ You will be a great mommy

      As for Meghan, I think she knows she will only have this one chance to be pregnant because Jim made it clear he doesn’t want any, so she wanted both embryos to take. That’s just my guess
      Congrats again xoxo

      1. That’s exactly what I was thinking. I think in her head she had this perfect idea and it was broken with reality. But…they tell you the same thing time and time again.

    3. I am so sorry to hear what you went through Geminigirl. I think a lot of us have been there! I know I have (hence all the cats). God bless you with this pregnancy. Maybe you shouldn’t be watching this show… you DON’T need your blood pressure rising! I’m so glad you have a healthy pregnancy this time. As for Meghan, she needs to stop crying over what she didn’t get and be thankful for what she got.

      1. Bahahaha my husband says the same thing. He says those shows give him a headache. I’m just happy we got this far, but it’s draining. I felt for her in that moment, but I was like I know they explained everything step by step of what could potentially happen.

        1. Congratulations Gemingirl, God has a plan for all us..that’s why when we try to make our own plan..he laughs 😀 I think you hit the nail on the head with Meghan, I think she was told the risks but not fully understood.

          1. I hope I don’t get my head bitten off for this one, but I feel like Megan is used to getting what she wants and this was a humbling moment for her that she really needed.

            1. No one should bite your head off , you are entitled to your feelings and thoughts. You have always been respectful of other posters and that’s how we all try to conduct ourselves here. We can disagree but still show respect and compassion. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  3. Congrats Gemini Girl. You’re going to be a great mommy!

    For Megan, everyone reacts differently and her pain is real. I’m happy that she is enjoying her pregnancy as she should. It was a nice change to see Jimmy with her.

  4. It is hers, if I have the IVF system correct, the SPERM had been frozen, the eggs from her body extracted & exactly as if the egg was fertilized with sperm directly from his body into hers, it is her baby and his baby, THEN THEIR biological child was replanted back inside her body. No life begins as “a blob” of anything. If “something” starts as a blob, it remains a blob. The baby boy was a baby boy from the moment of fertilization, with a soul and a Mom and a Dad. It is the loss of a LIFE, a very new, very young life.

  5. A ‘blob’ ??? You have the sensitivity of a brick my friend. Even if it was a blob, it’s HER blob and she’s entitled to mourn it. Why does that bother you so much ??

    1. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️,representing just a few of the hearts of the children that started in an odd way into this life, For example the one who was “in utero” actually in the mom’s stomach, and was born surgically of course, healthy, and remains healthy today! And of course, representing the beautiful heart you share with us here, thank you, Rain.

      1. Wow I don’t know how I missed this! A blob indeed, obviously it has never happened to her. It is a baby and their baby as you and other have said from the very beginning!

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