Lydia McLaughlin On Tamra Barney’s Softer Side! Why She Wanted Alexis To Make Up With Tamra!


Lydia McLaughlin is taking to her Bravo Blog to discuss why she wanted Alexis Bellino to sit down and try to mend things with Tamra Barney. Lydia explains she had seen a softer side to Tamra, and she didn’t think Tamra would yell and scream at Alexis if they met for an intimate coffee.

Lydia writes, “At this point in the season, I feel like I have figured out my place amongst the woman. I spent a weekend with them in the wine country, and have hung out with each enough to feel bonded and close to most of them. I have my own true relationship and friendship with them. Therefore, when Alexis and I meet for coffee, I feel comfortable bringing up the idea of making amends. I know Tamra yelled and hurt Alexis, but I also have seen a softer side to Tamra.

On the ride up to LA for Heather’s Hot In Cleveland episode, Tamra was caring and sweet. Now, I understand that may be hard for some fans to hear, but from my experience, I felt like she was a genuine, understanding person. I have seen another side to her from the CUT party. A softer side that she showed with her mother this episode. I’ve started to think perhaps my “role” in this whole group of woman is to be a peacemaker and help everyone get along. Maybe Alexis and Tamra could put their past behind them and move on. I know it is not good to hold onto such negativity and so I wanted to encourage Alexis to talk to Tamra. I couldn’t picture Tamra yelling and cussing at Alexis if we all met for coffee in the middle of the day and had a real heart to heart.

There is a lot of good going on in everyones’ lives and friends are there to celebrate the good times and the bad. I didn’t want Alexis missing out on that. I enjoy having her around and felt it would be nice if everyone could make up. I know that’s a big mountain to climb so I figured, one step at a time. Tamra seems like a good first step. From the sneak peak of next week’s episode, you see us all meeting to talk. You will have to tune in to see how it all unfolds. . .Are my instincts right?

My mom and I have a very close relationship. I say this many times on the show, but she is the most important person to me outside my boys. We talk every day. When there is something bad in my life, I call my mom. When there is something good, I call my mom. She is free-spirited and fun. She is all about joy and laughter and happily every after. How can you not love my mother!?!

However, when I talk to my mom about pot, her free spirit seems to feel caged and she gets very defensive. I’ve noticed that having this conversation with her in the public eye has made this a very controversial subject. People seem to be on one side of the fence or the other. The pot supporters out there condemn me for drinking alcohol while opposing my Mom’s pot use. Conversely, I have heard from many fans who admire my Mom’s and my transparency and say that my concerns have validated their own feelings in their own lives. All you can do is stay true to your convictions and who you are.

As you can see in this episode, I have a conversation with Doug that opens my eyes a little to my Mom’s point of view. At the end of the day, I love my Mother. I don’t love her pot habits, but I love her. I am in no way perfect. I’m sure there are many things that I do that bother her. The bottom line is, we are family and we will always be in each other’s lives. There is way more good then bad and I would never want to jeopardize our relationship. When you love someone, you love all of them. She has always been there for me and is an amazing mom and grandma. I am thankful for her in my life. I wouldn’t be who I am, or where I am, without my mom. Love, laughter, and happily ever after; just as she has engrained in me.”

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10 Replies to “Lydia McLaughlin On Tamra Barney’s Softer Side! Why She Wanted Alexis To Make Up With Tamra!”

  1. It’s not Alexis who should go hat in hand to Tamra, but the other way around. The viewers have all seen Tamra act like trash in every setting, with the whole group or just individuals.

    1. Right on! Tamra is the one who should seek Alexis and on her knees. Knowing what we all know about Alexis, she will forgive Tamra because Alexis is kind-hearted (and a dummy) yes, bless her little heart. LOL

  2. This child – yes, she is very inmature and should have watched all previous episodes of this show – is talking about Tamra like she knows her. This is a reality show. However, Tamra’s trashy, ugly behavior appears to be real and IF she is “acting” shame on her for doing this crap on nat’l tv for her kids to see and be teesed. Sadly, I think the real Tamra is a spoiled brat who has always been jealous, hateful, and bitter. She never owns her behavior-ever. She is the perpetual victim. From her parents, Simon, other women – she is just a loser. She slept her way to everything she has and trying to rehab her image won’t work. She has zero believability and Lydia just needs to get a clue. She is boring, too much storyline about her mom and pot. She can’t pick up a cookbook and feed her own little family. She is rich and has beautiful kids and a great husband – so why the hell is she on a reality show. Please child – take a seat.

  3. Tamra has no reason to apologize to that idiot. Alexis needs serious therapy and a lesson in truthful criticism.

  4. This better be the last we hear about her mom; her story line is dumb. As far as Tamra, I won’t believe her “change” until I see actions over the next several seasons. Your character isn’t defined by your past, but by your current actions. Simon found a white trash damsel in distress and he tried to help her change, but the trailer trash will always prevail. She and Bethenney should buddy up and continue to portray themselves as victims of their childhood and parents.

  5. Even after Tamra tries to blame others for her poor behavior (boo hoo, I wasn’t told I was loved growing up…..honey, alot of us weren’t told we were loved and we don’t act like a demon that you are.) I found her vile and her excuses discusting. She threw her poor mother under the bus on national TV, How low is that!~!!!! Tamra needs a large dose of humility and reality that she could find in a third world country, or hospitals or with the homeless. Her anger feeds her ego because she always feels justified in doing it. Sweetie, NO ONE deserves your dripping sarcasum, bullying, foul-mouthed, hateful persona of Tamra Baloney. Grow up and try to find some decency if it is even possible for you.

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