Lydia McLaughlin Felt Like Shannon Beador Was Attacking Her

Lydia McLaughlin is sharing her thoughts about meeting Shannon Beador in her blog. Lydia explains her side of what happened with Shannon and Tamra Judge and says she was only trying to help.

“On the other hand, Ava’s birthday party obviously didn’t go as I hoped and meeting Shannon for the first time was basically the opposite of my first time with Peggy. I was really excited to meet Shannon. Tamra is a good friend of mine and she said great things about Shannon. Believe it or not, but I brought up Vicki to Tamra and Shannon because I was trying to help! I didn’t want to be shady and not tell them about getting drinks with Vicki. I was trying to tell them: “Hey I got drinks with Vicki. She is hurt. You guys are hurt… let’s all move on.” But I didn’t get to finish my train of thought. Shannon just heard me say, “She is just like Vicki.” And obviously took great offense to that. However, I feel I didn’t say that. She is seeing my words as hurtful but that wasn’t what I was even trying to say! I was trying to explain that they are alike because they both are hurt. Vicki shared with me how Shannon’s kids use to call her Aunt Vicki and how she feels a sense of loss and got hurt as well. I wasn’t trying to take sides but was trying to let them see that everyone is hurt. Shannon can disagree with that, but there is a way to communicate with people, and the way Shannon was talking to me was combative and erratic.

I wasn’t around the last few years, I didn’t watch RHOC and I really haven’t kept up with drama. I didn’t know all that had transpired besides what my friends told me. I love Tamra and Vicki. I like them getting along. In my mind I was trying to go on the road of forgiveness by bringing her up, but the opposite happened.

Please remember that I had never met Shannon. I had no clue how “expressive” she is. I felt like she was attacking me, and for something I feIt didn’t even say. However, Shannon wouldn’t let me explain myself. She was fixated on me saying she’s just like Vicki but I didn’t say that. She didn’t let me finish my thought. They are alike in that they both have been hurt by each other. Hurt is hurt. I am not condoning what either party has done, nor will I understand the pain the families have endured. I was really trying to help the whole situation but felt like I was misunderstood and was never given the opportunity to explain myself. I was trying to remain calm but was quite frustrated. Shannon just stormed off and I went home really upset that day.

Perhaps you may feel this is a “new side of me,” but this side has always been there. I am a strong woman and when I feel someone doesn’t understand me, I like to talk about it. I really don’t like conflict and drama. I was raised by Judy Stirling, so fairy dust, confetti, and love has always surrounded me. I felt like Shannon flipped out about me bringing up Vicki but you can see on my face how blown away I was at her reaction towards me. I don’t understand her and have never had anyone I just met talk to me in the tone or intensity she did that day. I wanted to explain myself, but when I realized a resolution wasn’t happening, I just didn’t want to be fake and meet up again for dinner a few days later. On a positive note, I’m so glad you all got to see my mom again. She is so important to me in my life and I love that she just wants to add to the world a little more sparkle wherever she goes…”

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  • Shirley

    Ever heard the phrase “it’s not what you say, its how you say it”? After all the conflict with Shannon and Vicky, a statement like “you’re just like Vicky” and “woa, we’re not going to get along”… who cares. You came after her fairy dust and all!

    • Rain

      Yes Shirley yes!! I’m disappointed in Lydia

  • starr

    Good folks Lydia & her mom. Salt of the earth. Shannon never gives anyone a chance to finish a sentence, she gets on her high horse, screaming like a mad witch & as always, walks away screeching, “I’m done, I’m done”. She loves the sound of her own voice, that’s for sure & therefore hears only that. She is one frustrated, bitter, resentful mess. Poor David has to pay for his crime for the rest of his life which I am now convinced she drove him to. Lydia should keep far away from this person, she’ll only drag her down.

    • Dallas


  • Bon Vivant

    If Shannon would have just let Lydia finish her thought, she would have realized that Lydia was trying to draw a parallel between the pain each woman is feeling. But Shannon’s completely unhinged this season. It’s really a pity, because she can be so endearing as a tv personality when she’s not emotionally burdened…and she still delivers in her confessionals this season, at least…but she is in a dark, masochistic, victimization place, and she is bringing the show down with her energy. She needs to do a lot of work on whatever her personal demons are (as does David), and it’s just very alarming (or perhaps very telling) that she will not do this OFF of the show. Surely her identity as a Bravo Housewife is not worth subjecting herself and her family to this much emotional turmoil and strain.