Lydia McLaughlin Explains Why She Told Gretchen She Hurt Alexis!


Lydia McLaughlin is taking to her Bravo Blog to discuss the latest episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County. Lydia explains she had good intentions in telling Gretchen that Alexis was hurt by the loss of their friendship, and wanted to make sure Gretchen knew she was offering support by giving her the card for Grayson.

Lydia writes, “When we first arrived I gave Gretchen a card. I had only met her at the CUT party and that obviously wasn’t a great night for anyone. Tamra had told me Gretchen was going through a lot with Grayson, Slade’s son. I can’t imagine having a sick child and what that must be like to go through. I had my boys color a Get Well card for them. This was my way of letting her know we were praying for her and the whole family. I hadn’t “clicked” with Gretchen, and I thought this was a good way to show her a little of who I am by offering her support.

When the conversation at dinner that night started to revolve around Alexis again, I felt uncomfortable. I wanted to let Gretchen know that from my past conversations with Alexis, she seemed to be really hurt by Gretchen. Alexis never spoke ill of her, but there seems to be a real feeling of sadness — like she had lost a true friend. When Gretchen said she found that hard to believe, I just wanted to drop the conversation. I don’t know the ins and outs of their relationship and I didn’t want to speak on Alexis’ behalf in front of the whole table.

Heather and Terry’s fight seems to be rooted in deep issues they have with one another. It is good to see them be open and honest and transparent with their marriage. I think all marriages are full of hurt feelings and misunderstandings and that is what makes the love strong, selfless, and true in the end. Nobody is perfect, but if you can give love and accept love through that, imperfection can become a beautiful thing. I think they have both learned and grown from this experience. Heather was able to express herself and her wants from Terry, and I think he realized his shortcomings. Guest starring on Hot in Cleveland is an exciting opportunity for Heather. She is living out her dreams and when you are a mother, many times your dreams are put on hold. Being a mother I completely understand what she is talking about. At the end of the day, I think Terry is truly excited for her and supportive.

Once it is time to leave, Tamra and Vicki are obviously having tension. I just want to get home to my kids at this point. It has been a long weekend and was time for us to leave. I think it is best to have everything all out in the open. Tamra had been rolling her eyes and obviously annoyed at Vicki for her performance in Wines by Wives all weekend. Vicki seemed to notice, but not care. I was encouraging them both to talk about it, rather then talk to everyone else about it. Issues don’t get resolved by third parties. They didn’t want to talk about it so we eventually left. It was encouraging to see Tamra address her issues with anger and not being able to express herself a few days later to Eddie. Hopefully she can grow and I believe knowing there is an issue is the first step.”

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