Lisa Hochstein is taking to her Bravo Blog to talk about her fertility issues and how her and her husband, Lenny are dealing with it. Lisa says the idea of a surrogate upset her at first, and she explains why, but she also says she must remain positive and they will have a baby when the time is right.
Lisa writes, “This episode was a reminder of the struggle my husband and I are dealing with. We have been trying for years (as most of you know) to start a family. Unfortunately that hasn’t worked out. I’ve suffered a few miscarriages and failed IVF treatments. Each year we become increasingly frustrated as nothing seems to be working. Some days I try not to think about it at all, otherwise I would drive myself crazy. Other days I think that our timing is off and when God sees fit, it will happen. On a bad day I think to myself that maybe I’m not meant to have kids. I know thatâ€™s horrible and negative, but I’m human.
My husband thought that using a surrogate might be an option in helping us carry a baby to term. This really upset me at first. I always knew this was an option, but never wanted to be the one to bring it up. It was the last thing I wanted to think about or try. It upset me tremendously to think that someone else might have to carry my child. I had fears that my baby and I would not feel connected if I did not carry myself. I also had fears about what the surrogate would be doing, eating, inhaling, if she would be stressed, healthy, and safe. So many questions ran through my mind when I realized this may really happen. Not only did I have these fears, but I felt that I wasn’t doing my job as a woman. I felt like I failed my husband and my unborn child. I was very negative and upset with myself for a long time.
I have finally come to terms with my situation and have a positive outlook on everything. I have amazing family, friends, and a husband who supports me all the way. I know itâ€™s just a matter of time before we have a beautiful baby of our own. I’m willing to try anything at least once.
The girlsâ€™ night out at Baoli turned into a disaster, which was not my intention at all. I truly believed I was being a good friend in trying to get everyone together. Whether the other girls believe it or not, I was not trying to stir the pot. Contrary to these womenâ€™s beliefs, there are some good people out there like myself who really want the best for my friends. I understand the role of a friend, and I take it seriously. Adriana and Lea have a very long history and they are both very stubborn, which is why I felt they needed a mutual friend to help bring them together.
At this point both Lea and Adriana had not filled me in on their meeting at Leaâ€™s house. If I had known this, I would not have invited everyone to Baoli and would have gone about it differently. There were so many bits of information that I only discovered on this night at Baoli. Unfortunately I do not go digging into other peopleâ€™s business, so I did not know of an actual marriage certificate, about the meeting at Leaâ€™s, or any of this nonsense. Maybe if these girls were better friends they would have communicated this to me so none of this would have happened. Clearly I underestimated how upset they were with each other.”
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