Kenya Moore is taking to her blog this week to dish on her sit-down with NeNe, Cynthia and Porsha. Kenya discusses her apology to Porsha for what happened at last year’s reunion, but says Porsha’s acknowledgment is not an apology.
HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS
Happy Holidays everyone! I hope you all enjoy this time with your family and loved ones. Speaking of spending time together during the Holidays, I was taken aback to see Todd decide to spend Thanksgiving with his mother and Kandi with hers. In time, I hope they find peace and learn to not only tolerate each other but love each other as one family.
Can you believe Claudiaâ€™s grandmother is 90? She is sharp as a tack and full of energy! She seems like a ball of fire, and I can see where Claudia gets her charisma. I also appreciate her motherâ€™s talk about showing love versus saying it. Iâ€™ve always looked to the actions of a person rather than what they say. She clearly loves Claudia and wants her to have a baby soon. I can relate!
THE SET UP
Although NeNe has barely spoken to me this season, I wasnâ€™t surprised to learn that she invited her new BFF to drinks. I also wasnâ€™t shocked to see that despite it all, she still refuses to apologize for her violent actions. This is after NeNe, Phaedra, and Andy (to name a few) have all suggested she do so.
When you forgive someone it isnâ€™t for the other person, itâ€™s for YOU. The dichotomy of forgiveness doesnâ€™t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart. Although an acknowledgement is not an apology, you canâ€™t shame someone into remorse, contrition, or penitence. Some people like to stay stuck in hatred and only feed off negativity in order to continue to promote abhorrence for me. With that being said, I take full responsibility for my actions but do not require an apology in order to move on from this cycle of hate.
I look to my role models for advice. Some I know like my Aunt Lori, dearest friends, and family. My role models are not my â€œyes men.â€ They tell me when Iâ€™m wrong and advise me on how to be a bigger person in order to grow. From them, Iâ€™ve learned that when you stumble in life itâ€™s always a teachable moment. Itâ€™s not how you fall but itâ€™s how you get up.
And I look to the role models I donâ€™t know, like my favorite poet the late Dr. Maya Angelou, that I often read at my lowest points. I can count on her to uplift me and validate my existence with her prose and wisdom. May they inspire you as well.
â€œYou may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, Iâ€™ll rise. â€œ -Maya Angelou
May you all rise above the hate in 2015! Itâ€™s a new year with new beginnings. May you all continue to grow with me and love to love with no limits — even your haters.
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