Kenya Moore: An Acknowledgement Is Not An Apology


Kenya Moore is taking to her blog this week to dish on her sit-down with NeNe, Cynthia and Porsha. Kenya discusses her apology to Porsha for what happened at last year’s reunion, but says Porsha’s acknowledgment is not an apology.

Kenya writes:


Happy Holidays everyone! I hope you all enjoy this time with your family and loved ones. Speaking of spending time together during the Holidays, I was taken aback to see Todd decide to spend Thanksgiving with his mother and Kandi with hers. In time, I hope they find peace and learn to not only tolerate each other but love each other as one family.


Can you believe Claudia’s grandmother is 90? She is sharp as a tack and full of energy! She seems like a ball of fire, and I can see where Claudia gets her charisma. I also appreciate her mother’s talk about showing love versus saying it. I’ve always looked to the actions of a person rather than what they say. She clearly loves Claudia and wants her to have a baby soon. I can relate!


Although NeNe has barely spoken to me this season, I wasn’t surprised to learn that she invited her new BFF to drinks. I also wasn’t shocked to see that despite it all, she still refuses to apologize for her violent actions. This is after NeNe, Phaedra, and Andy (to name a few) have all suggested she do so.


When you forgive someone it isn’t for the other person, it’s for YOU. The dichotomy of forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart. Although an acknowledgement is not an apology, you can’t shame someone into remorse, contrition, or penitence. Some people like to stay stuck in hatred and only feed off negativity in order to continue to promote abhorrence for me. With that being said, I take full responsibility for my actions but do not require an apology in order to move on from this cycle of hate.

I look to my role models for advice. Some I know like my Aunt Lori, dearest friends, and family. My role models are not my “yes men.” They tell me when I’m wrong and advise me on how to be a bigger person in order to grow. From them, I’ve learned that when you stumble in life it’s always a teachable moment. It’s not how you fall but it’s how you get up.

And I look to the role models I don’t know, like my favorite poet the late Dr. Maya Angelou, that I often read at my lowest points. I can count on her to uplift me and validate my existence with her prose and wisdom. May they inspire you as well.

“You may shoot me with your words,

You may cut me with your eyes,

You may kill me with your hatefulness,

But still, like air, I’ll rise. “ -Maya Angelou

May you all rise above the hate in 2015! It’s a new year with new beginnings. May you all continue to grow with me and love to love with no limits — even your haters.

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15 Replies to “Kenya Moore: An Acknowledgement Is Not An Apology”

  1. Porsha didn’t apologize because Kenya got what she deserved. Brandy Granville summed it up perfectly when she told Andy that Kenya was a horrible person. I personally would have loved to see Porsha beat Kenya’s butt wose than she did.

    1. Kenya may be horrible person, but I believe only rapists and child molesters deserve beatings–not someone who merely acts stupid, or says dumb things to another.

    1. People should apologize if they are actually regretful about something. Telling someone to apologize is useless if they don’t really mean it. True forgiveness as well as true regret often takes time.

  2. Kenya, you give a great speech on forgiveness and apologies, yet throw shade every chance you get in your interviews. Mean girl.

    1. You’re right Shirley. Kenya has a gift of making you think she’s sincere but then when they interview she seems to take back all she mended before. All these women seem harsh and not one seems to know what forgiving someone really means. It’s like a game; who’s going to get one up on the other first. Let the past stay in the past and move forward. Please.

    2. It’s absolutely true that Kenya is a shady character that in 99.9 % of all situations takes pleasure in taking some sort of shot at someone. She is the type of person that can only feel elevated by stepping on the backs of others. But she is right (as painful as that is to admit) in this situation. An acknowledgement is not an apology, and even though Kenya goaded Porsha, Porsha should not have put her hands on Kenya. I actually put a lot of the blame on Andy for allowing Kenya to bully the other women with bullhorns and wands in their faces. It really was unacceptable. Kenya IS a horrible person and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that as beautiful as she is on the outside, she can’t find a man on this continent, or Africa that will marry her.

      1. Kenya is an ugly person inside and as shady as they come. She can preach all she wants on forgiveness and being the bigger person but that will not change the ugly demands that dwells inside of her.

  3. This blog was as phony as the hug and attempts to act as facillitator at that lunch. At least Poor-sha was honest in her lack of an apology. I mean really, preaching kindness and forgiveness while gossiping about where Kandi spent her holiday? Tacky whore, please.

  4. I like kenya. She’s bright and beautiful with great style. I have nothing in common with her, but at least she knows how to spell which is si refreshing for a housewife. If she weren’t around, rhoa would be such a dud right now.

  5. BTW- Cover your a** Kenya and keep your legs on the ground in public. You are a 42 year old woman in a restaurant. It’s pathetic how far you will go for a little attention. Get some dignity.

  6. Kenya shouldn’t have been screaming at Porsha through a bullhorn telling her she can’t spell. If someone did that to me, I’d have lost my temper too. So now Andy and others are shocked that it turned to violence? However if Kenya apologized then Porsha should’ve also I guess. But I’m not a Kenya fan anymore. I used to be though.

  7. Yassssss!! Well spoken, like the smart intelligent, classy woman that you are!! And still we rise above the HATE!!!! #teamtwirlallday

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