Kelly Dodd: Vicki, Meghan and I Will Not Cower to Bullies

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Kelly Dodd is taking to her blog to react to the season finale of the Real Housewives of Orange County. Dodd says it seems like her apology wasn’t good enough for Shannon Beador and tells viewers that she will not cower to bullies.

“This week’s episode focused on a party Shannon threw for Tamra to celebrate her winning her fitness competition. I am tempted to reflect on my experiences and lessons I learned over the course of the season, but as the reunion is coming up, I’ll save that for another time. Stay tuned for the reunion and my future blogs, as I’ll share my views on the season’s tumultuous events and my relationships with the other ladies.

As Shannon was quick to point out, her party, the CarbFest, was two weeks after we returned from Ireland, which for me was a traumatic experience. In the interim, I had met with Meghan and Vicki and discussed the ambush that I experienced on the bus trip from hell. As a result, I was on good terms with both of them. I also had spoken briefly to Tamra at her event, and we had traded texts, so at least we were communicating. I didn’t reach out to Shannon or Heather other than some small talk at the competition. I felt they owed me an apology. It was strange to hear Shannon complain that I didn’t reach out to her, since the phone lines run both ways.

I appreciated Tamra extending the invitation to her party through Shannon. I was apprehensive about going because the clique’s (Heather, Tamra, Shannon) bullying antics were still fresh in my mind. Knowing that Meghan and Vicki would be there as support helped convince me to attend. Still, while I was wished for the best, I was concerned about how everyone would get along. I was fearful of another ambush. I am pretty sure Vicki was too.

Meghan coming to our house to socialize for a little while and ride with us over the to party meant a lot to me. Meghan introduced me to this group of women and has been advising me along the way on how best to deal with them. From my perspective, neither Meghan nor Vicki has had a devious agenda against me. Unlike the mean girl clique. I was so happy for Meghan when I learned she is having a girl. Raising Jolie has been the best experience of my life, and I am excited for Meghan to experience that too.

The way I think about this week’s episode is in two parts. Each woman or couple getting ready for the party, then the turmoil that happened at the event.

Watching the episode, it’s clear to me that from the start, Shannon, Tamra and Heather were all in spin mode trying to rewrite history and distort or deflect their behavior. Tamra was focused on Vicki spreading rumors. Once again Tamra talked about killing somebody, in this case Vicki.

Shannon was trying to act indignant again about what she deemed Vicki’s lies. As you saw later, Vicki stood her ground and refused to be labeled a liar again.

Heather claims to have learned “who we (Vicki and I) are” based upon how we behaved on the bus. The truth is that it’s Heather that was exposed. The Fancy Pants façade fell away and Heather’s true self righteous, pretentious self is on full display. She then tells Terry that my belief that I was ganged up on was “a joke”.

So yes, the spin was in. I’ve seen this now several times from these mean girls. Try to set me up, then when I catch wind of their scheme and it blows up in their face, they deny, lie, deflect, call me crazy, repeat.

Regardless, I am an optimist and try not to hold grudges. As we entered the party I tried to put the clique’s antics out of my mind, hope for the best and try to have a good time. Another chance to mend fences, even if it meant I had to apologize again and again, just to keep the peace, when really I didn’t believe any apology was really owed.

Vicki and I were invited. Didn’t that mean we were welcome? I guess not. It didn’t take long for the clique to separate from the group, all the while making snarky comments about us. Quickly, Vicki and I began to feel we were being snubbed and alienated. I think it’s ironic that, at lunch with Shannon after the ’70s party, she felt she could call me out for a lack of etiquette, when one of the first rules of etiquette is to make your guests feel welcome. For those of you paying close attention, you’ll notice Michael and I brought some champagne as a gift and I was also holding a gift-wrapped package when I got out of the car. Notice though that went I greeted Shannon outside the package was gone. In case you’re wondering, what was in the package, it was the book Etiquette for Dummies. I decided at the last minute not to give it to her, but now I regret holding back.

Tamra, playing her usual mean girl, s*** disturber role, broke out her hateful “gifts” just to stir the pot. Mine was public drunkenness. Ironic since Meghan and I were the only sober ones on the bus. I had no choice but to be gracious and laugh it off.

When Tamra went inside to give Vicki her “gift”, it turned out we were all in the area around the living room bar. We had critical mass. It was about to blow up.

Almost from the start I could sense that we would eventually have to deal with the elephant in the room. For some reason, Tamra said I shouldn’t use that term. I think she meant in front of certain people. I am not sure whom Tamra was talking about. Of course, the elephant in the room was how we all acted and what was said on the bus ride from hell. Everything that afternoon seemed to be leading up to that.

For starters, apparently, Shannon felt I owed her an apology. Again! I have learned by now that Shannon creates her own false reality. She convinces herself that she did nothing wrong, never does anything wrong, and is always looking to place the blame on somebody else. Then she expects an apology from that person for some reason.

So, I did, despite my best judgment, apologize for the mean things I said to Shannon. It seemed my apology wasn’t good enough. It’s never good enough. I don’t know why I bother trying to keep the peace and move on when Shannon continues to hold a grudge.

Then, as expected, Heather, the puppet-master, self-appointed ringleader and chief interloper had to jump in and try to take control of the conversation. Heather broke out her lexicon and wanted to explain my algorithm. I am pretty sure they don’t teach algorithms in drama school. Sorry Heather, you’re not the only one married to a smart man. Then she started trying to play shrink again, telling me I’m insecure and having a mental breakdown. Enough with your self-righteousness! You are no more qualified to evaluate someone’s mental health than you are being a Michelin rated chef. Oh that’s right, you don’t cook.

Lastly, I have learned that these mean, cliquey women have at least one thing in common; they all have no reservations about confronting people. They like to get in your face and assert their self-perceived dominance. Just because you have the balls to confront somebody doesn’t mean your should. Especially since Vicki, Meghan and I will not cower to bullies.”

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  • Just like Vicki’s blog, it is spot on about the other girls and well thought out. AND…just like Vicki’s blog, I don’t believe she wrote it, nor does she take any responsibility for her own actions that led up to a couple of these incidents. Her and Vicki only stand a chance with public opinion at this point BECAUSE

  • ooopss..BECAUSE….these bitches were so conniving, self important and full of crap on the last few episodes. No one did themselves ANY favors on this show at all this season..except for Megan. Begone with the lot of them!!!

  • starr

    Everything Kelly said spoke truth. Whether she wrote it herself or not, is not the issue, these sick, sick women are the issue. So happy the season is over & hopefully, never to return.

    • patricia

      ITA!

    • Hi, Starr. I don’t agree about Kelly at all, but we all see it different. How are you, my friend? Good, I hope. I don’t care for anyone who says what they know will hurt most, then cry that they were “ganged up on.” A bunch of the ladies agreeing that you said something cruel, and then being collectively angry about it is not bullying or ganging up, IMO. It is simply a group who all believe what you just said was so far out of line as to be horrible and disgusting. As Shannon said on WWHL it wasn’t shown that she ordered for the entire table, went to the waiter because the shots were stingy, and the service was slow. Just like Gretchen, all those years ago, neither of them had to drink it. Viki bringing it up as though Tamra was in on it was just like what I have been saying for years, it’s always Viki when she has a tiff with Tamra that she says things to make Tamra look worse than she does all on her own, when Tamra knew nothing about it, but Viki trying to make it look like it was her. Her and Megan were alone all day together, and she came to the table from her room after freshening up from her day at the museum with Megan. Apparently it can be proven with a camera. If they all remain, & Tamra sticks to staying away from Viki, her life will become magically less troubled, on all fronts.

      • starr

        Hi 3 D’s, all’s well today, thank God. Sorry my dear friend, but this whole season upset me with the behavior of these grown women. Truly, I have felt sorry for Kelly, call me foolish, but that’s what happened.
        Hope all’s well in your world. I have literally been on the opposite side this season, but that’s okay as I just love being here with you guys–even if it’s agreeing to disagree.

        • Yes, it is hard to hold on to hope for any of them with this season. I have been a Tamra fan, but I am not a fan of anyone, really, this season. The body houses the soul, but she seems to be putting more energy into the house than the home. Of course, we would always like to keep our bodies healthy, and I am not a prude or jealous of her, but I really didn’t think she looked good, none of the women did in that competition. How could anyone think it looks nice to spray what they call a “tan” on their skin. Yuck, it smears off on everything that touches it. My sister is 74, and still turns heads everywhere she goes. She kind of glows with the way she carries herself, and her inner beauty truly does come through. No botox, or having her beautiful face ripped off and reattached after being stretched. She actually looks younger than Tamra, has a thriving business of her own, and surprise of all surprises, she eats food with fat and carbs but remains slender!!!!! Yes, too much energy for the way the outside looks, and not enough of looking inward.
          Megan was really the only one I enjoyed this year, and if I would have just stayed with it after I deleted the timer, I wouldn’t have seen the ugliness of this show. I will watch the reunion, and then I am done. I was all set to watch, saw the first 15 minutes on premier night, deleted the timer, and never thought much about it till I hurt my foot and got bored. Such a rare feeling for me, I went a little nuts and bought the season, ah well, all is well here too. ♥︎✩

        • mickeyfish

          I feel the same as you. I am on Kelly and Vicki’s side. I love Kelly on the show now and Vicki is still my favorite housewife!!

  • Kelly wants to. Blame her indignant,trash behavior on the cast.She can type or have typed all the words in Webster’s but the fact remains she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions.she provoked every situation she was in.PERIOD

    • Rain

      ITA Lisa xoxo

      • Suze☕️

        Me too Lisa and Rain xoxo

    • Bon Vivant

      She certainly didn’t provoke that situation in the hotel hallway or on the bus.

  • patricia

    Can’t stand Tamra, Heather, or Shannon. Someone on another site called them Pleather, Tamrat, & Shanut. I think those are good names for them & they live up to it.

  • GIGICAT

    The only thing Kelly and Vicki “cower” to the truth. I don’t think Meghan “cowers” to anything. She didn’t write this either. Both her and the POS liar had someone write theirs. The two of them are disgusting and belong on an episode of Judge Judy (trailer trash) or working on the side of the road picking up trash.

  • GIGICAT

    Humans are allowed to react to bad behavior ON THEIR OWN TIME. If Kelly screams obscenities, it doesn’t mean she’s gonna get repercussions from that immediately. It builds up over time. She’s been asking for it all season. She and the rest of that trailer park family need to move out of my neighborhood. Trash like that gets picked up on Wednesday.

  • Miss Moneypenny ☂️

    Kelly has impulse problems big time. It doesn’t help that she has a very sneering & adolescent attitude that grates against the nerves and she’s borderline narcissistic. Here come the tomatoes, that’s ok, I’ll make sauce, but these women did make up their minds (Meghan excluded) to dis and ridicule Kelly from the start in Ireland. If Tamara had kept walking to the bathroom in the bar and didn’t turn around & posture herself (lean in) like a mean girl ready to rip Kelly’s hair out of her head I think it would’ve been ok. But Kelly being Kelly isn’t going to back down from being confronted in a threatening way. Oh well, it was bound to happen, nobody likes the girl and who can blame them. I’m not defending Kelly btw because I don’t care for her, but she was taunted. Both Tamra and Kelly are too easily triggered, and it’s an even draw right there for me.

  • bluebird423

    It’s interesting how one views a situation but even more interesting when the one assessing the situation is a participant. I don’t think Kelly sees how dysfunctional she really is, and from her perspective, the problem is everyone else that dare hold her accountable for her juvinile behavior. I can’t believe a grown woman with a daughter of her own, who is beautiful and successful, would act this way on television!? Everyone has an opinion, but just because you have a silver tongue, and are good at spinning things around, doesn’t make you right or anymore likeable.

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