Kathy Wakile is taking to her Bravo Blog to discuss the equine therapy we saw on Sunday’s episode of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Kathy explains how the horse sensed who was being authentic and who was not. Kathy says she appreciated Rosie coming to her defense and the drum ceremony and at that moment she realized she needed to speak her mind. She also explains why Rich always makes jokes and admits that she is his sounding board sometimes.
Kathy writes, “ This journey of self discovery also included learning about one another. As my favorite cowboy, Wyatt Webb, helps us figure out, these exercises are not only about us as a group but each other as well, and understanding one another is the best way to sustain healthy, long-term relationships. To be there and experience each other’s vulnerable side; what makes you weak, what are your fears, what makes you feel triumphant. These were group exercises to help our family and circle of friends heal our hurts and mend our relationships.
As you’ll see, the effin horse proved to be smarter than all of us! He was smart enough to feel each of our energies and call B.S. on those that were not being authentic and were still holding back…letting your guard down is the first step of making progress.
Rosie’s experience was breaking my heart, and I just wanted to get up and hug her pain away. It was nice to see Chris, Jacqueline, Al, and then Caroline show their vulnerable sides, which the horse validated. Heck, even Joe Giudice got his guard down after a bit, and the horse heard. See, being real, honest, and true is something that is noticed more than anyone thinks!
As for Rich and I, Rich makes jokes; that’s one of the things I love most about him. His jokes have helped get us through some of the toughest times in our lives. Sometimes he makes jokes when he wants to ease the tension and other times when he doesn’t want to deal with something. There are some times, however, when he has a short fuse and unfortunately doesn’t use humor — he reacts to a situation by getting loud and, in the end, this hurts him as much as it hurts those on the receiving end. I become the sounding board and am the one to help calm the situation. When this happens I hurt for him, because I don’t want his goodness to be overshadowed by the outbursts and I want him to enjoy life more evenly. Patience in reacting and patience for life helps you to enjoy each moment in life and get the most from every experience. I know he’s aware of this and is working at it…another one of those things that I truly love about him!
Anyway, during the session with Wyatt, I was able to be calm and strong; the horse acknowledged it and felt that it was no problem for me, and that is the same way I am with anything life has to throw my way.
At the drum ceremony Rosie once again feels like she has to come to my defense. Of course I appreciate it, but she doesn’t realize that I let a lot of stuff go because I really don’t care for conflict, especially when it is not really a big deal in the big picture. Normally I might talk to Richie about it, but really I barely give those types of things a second thought. However, if someone brings it up — like in this case — I would say something about it. The bottom line is a rule of thumb I live by: do unto others as you want them to do unto you. One caveat though, you can’t express your feelings to people who don’t have the capacity to understand. Or don’t really care to understand.
So, after Rosie brought it up, I figured I needed to speak my mind and was glad that it was acknowledged by some. Others who missed it, like they did the horse…well…the universe has a funny way of keeping things in balance, and if you don’t see the signs or really listen when people are trying to help, then growth and change can never happen, and that is a real shame. Being open to learn more is what it is all about…even the Bradys in every episode come together as one!”
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