Kandi Burruss At Odds With Husband Todd Over Mama Drama

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This season on RHOA Kandi Burruss has been at odds with her fiancé Todd Tucker about their mama drama. Kandi cannot seem to keep to peace between her mother Joyce and Todd’s mother, who recently passed away, Miss Sharon.

After telling Todd that her mother refuses to apologize to Sharon for calling her a prostitute, Todd suggests that they spend the holidays separate from each other, much to Kandi’s dismay.

“I’ll go to New York Thanksgiving and we can do separate stuff,” Todd tells his wife, as they continue to remain divided about their mothers.

“It’s all a problem,” Todd tells Kandi. “It’s all a problem that your mother created. I’m not going to tell my mother to bite her tongue or stop having feelings about it. So, I don’t see it working.”

Watch the clip below.

Whose side are you on; Kandi or Todd? Sound off in our comments section!

Photo/Video Credit: Bravo

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40 Replies to “Kandi Burruss At Odds With Husband Todd Over Mama Drama”

  1. Just as Todd has a right to defend his mother, so does Kandi. At the end of the day, Kandi is right to stand by her mom–she can’t control her.

    1. Wow, that’s a no-brainer. Todd. Kandi’s mother, by any standard of civilized behavior, even undiscovered tribes in the Amazon is a nasty, rude, despicable person. By Kandi sticking up for her mother’s indefensible behavior, she is siding with her. Todd, on the other hand, has tried to be reasonable, forgiving and compromising, but Kandi never does the right thing. There should be no question whatsoever that if Kandi’s mother does not apologize she should be ignored until she does. And then she should be ignored until all of her awful, selfish behavior stops. If it doesn’t stop, then Kandi needs to choose between her mother and her husband. Or see her mother in private at the house that she bought her mother for which she is not the least but grateful. I don’t see Todd putting up with this much longer. By condoning Joyce’s behavior she is just as bad as if it was her behavior. I do not think Todd will put up with this much longer.

      1. I agree with everything you said gesslewf. I tried to say it but not as well as you. And this BS with Kandi not even having a key to her mother’s house – well meany mama let’s hope you never fall and need help and Kandi can’t get in to help you. Mama you are an ignorant, selfish, ungrateful witch with a capital B.

  2. I do agree they both have a right to take up for their Mothers but Kandi has a habit of walking away and not resolving anything. Kandi’s Mother, Mama Joyce seems to be a very disrespectful person. I know Kandi may not be able to control her but she also won’t stand up for herself or her husband and his Mother. What is wrong with her? Maybe this is why she hasn’t had any relationships for so long. Her Mother has had it in for Todd since day one.
    How can she defend a Mother who has spoken about her Mother in law in such a bad light? There shouldn’t be any of this going on between her and Kandi’s spouse or his family. Even if any of it were true I’d not think it was right to publicly humiliate anyone. And after what she did to Todd’s daughter in front of everyone is sick. I think it’s like she’s controlling behind the scenes. She doesn’t like anyone coming in to Kandi’s life that may change the dynamics between Kandi and her Mother.
    Kandi, if you want to have a happy marriage I think you and Todd need to go to a counselor. Please go before there is more water under the bridge.

    Todd side for me.

    1. Todd’s poor mother died without having received an apology from this vile creature for insulting her ferociously on national t.v. Can Todd ever forget that? I don’t think so.

      1. Kandi is married to her mother not to Todd. He’s just there to please her and give her a baby in her mind because she shows him no respect and no respect means no love.
        If I were Todd and had to listen to Kandi defend her mother’s sickening behavior I would just see the handwriting on the wall, not waste anymore time of my life and and leave. The more Kandi allows her mother to defile Todd and his family the bolder she gets. It will never end. Todd pack your bags and move on to a woman who has a normal mother and who stands up for what’s right not for her mother no matter what just because she’s her mother. That’s gangster behavior not wife behavior. Kandi is looking just as low as her mother lately.

        1. I couldn’t agree with you more, Moriah. I used to have A LOT of respect for Kandi. She pretty much stayed out of the petty BS between the other ladies. It makes me physically ill to see how Joyce (SOOO not calling her “mama”) continually disrespects Todd’s mother, Todd and NOW is manipulating Kandi with that BS story about taking meds to prevent an aneurysm! She is low down ghetto trash that needs to be put in her place. I would have told her that #1 She WILL apologize to Todd’s mom, #2 She WILL apologize to Todd and #3 She WILL apologize to Todd’s daughter. Joyce is rude, classless, greedy and tacky. When Kandi bought her that house I wanted to throw up! She already had a perfectly nice house, until her BF trashed it trying to “remodel” it. She’s disgusting and a leech.

      2. I heard that she died as well. What an awful thing for the last filming to be of her so upset by Mama Joyce’s remarks and gossip, by Kandi’s total disregard of her feelings. It’s disgraceful! I can’t imagine Todd just putting it all aside. It’s go to hurt him. I doubt mama Joyce will change in her attitude towards Todd even after the death of his Mother. Kandi, I’m ashamed of you! On top of it all you go to your Aunt’s house and repeat all that Todd’s Mother said…just making things worse. Kandi, you seem to get more and more like your Mother everyday!!! and that’s not good. Who are you married to? Your mean old Mother or Todd? You can defend her all you want…your Mother is a beast!!!!

  3. Did anyone notice kandi looking at todd with an irritated look on her face for support during the conversation with Sharon . Good on you todd for not caving like kandi does every time that hideous mamma Joyce opens her mouth and attacks . We get kandi she’s your mother but she still needs to be accountable for her actions and while u continue to condone her disgusting behaviour she will continue to carry on like a spoilt child . Time to cut the apron strings then just maybe she’ll appreciate u .

  4. Kandi has always been my favorite Atlanta Housewife, but Kandi’s near pathological support for her mother- no matter how low down and mean, no matter how hurtful and damaging that vicious woman is to Kandi and others- is getting on my last nerve. And then Kandi has the audacity to get upset when Miss Sharon FIGHTS BACK and says something Kandi doesn’t like about her Mama. Then Kandi goes over to her Aunties’ house with her nasty mom present and stirs the pot! I really think Todd made a major mistake marrying Kandi. I think anyone marrying Kandi us making a major mistake because Ksndi is putting a vicious and abusive woman who is hell-bent on destroying her relationships before her husband. Sorry Kandi- but that’s the truth.

    1. I totally agree with you Karen and well said. I think it’s nice of a daughter or son to love and respect their Mother but this is over the top. Especially when the Mother is as rude and crude as Mama Joyce.

  5. Mama Joyce is a greedy person. She doesn’t care if Kandi is happy, she just wants her daughters money. It’s very clear. Todd should move on, because that situation will never change. Peace out!

  6. I honestly don’t understand how Todd can stay with Kandi. Maybe it is just to complete the season or something. Clearly she does not deserve him. When he loves and respects his mom, now passed, and defends her against vile inexcusable remarks by her mother, Kandi sees that as wrong. Then she laughs in his face and in front of her mom and aunts about how little she respected his mom for standing up for herself. Todd’s mom did not look as young as Kandi’s…who probably had her in grade school, either. I loved my mom who passed away suddenly without warning one day, a month after she visited my brother, whose wife criticized her rudely and told her to get out of her kitchen, etc. My brother is divorced since…years later. You cannot get any more time, and now Kandi has to live, knowing she may have played a big role in why Todd’s mother is gone. Her reputation was ruined on national TV because her son met Kandi, loved her and married her, even after meeting Joyce, a self-centered egotistical money hungry, unloving woman. I see Joyce in Kandi’s daughter too, with that horrid face when Todd’s daughter came and her rude remarks to her. I see generations of ignorance, and Kandi is more guilty for permitting such behavior from everyone around her and disrespecting her own husband and his family. She will never have a man in he life, and her mom will milk her dry of her assets for the rest of her days, shunning anyone who comes in the way of her $$$.

  7. Kandi’s daughter is starting to display some of those characteristics with snarky comments. Todd needs to get out instead of letting anger and resentment build up. Let those women have their money and take it to the grave with them

  8. I’M SORRY, I LIKE CANDY, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO HER MOMMA AND THE WAY HER MOMMA ACTS, SHE IS UNBELIEVABLY IGNORANT….SHE JUST SITS BACK AND ALLOWS IT..IF I WERE TODD, I WOULD OFF BE GONE ALONG TIME AGO….YEAH IT’S HER MOM, BUT SHE HAS TO DRAW THE LINE, SHE ALLOWS HER MOM TO PASS THAT LINE EVERY TIME, WITH NO REPERCUSSIONS…SHE GINA END UP LOSING EVERY MAN SHES WITH IF CONTINUES TO TURN A BLIND EYE…

  9. I agree her daughter is starting to display some of that behavior, especially the comment she made to Todd’s daughter about college. I like Kandi also, but not holding her mother accountable for her disgusting actions is causing more problems. And I have noticed that Kandi has been telling all parties what the other parties are saying. Anyone with family arguments know that u don’t go tell each person what the other person is saying in anger. She buys her mother a house and her mother refuses to give her a key??? Lol who does that??

  10. Mama Joy needs to get some quality time with a man or at least get one of the items her daughter sells for those long lonely nights…just saying

    1. She has a boyfriend according to Kandi and her Aunts and Cousins. This woman is so cold there is no thawing her out! I doubt any man would be able to help her. She needs more than mortal in her life.

  11. What Kandi NEEDS to do is stand by Todd and maybe her Mother will realize her juvenile actions aren’t working and will stop her ridiculous behavior. Kandi needs to practice tough love with her Mother and then maybe meany mama will grow up. By Kandi allowing her mama to act this way she is only encouraging mama to be more outrageous.

    1. So true Aunt Bee. Joyce will not grow up as long as Kandi laughs and won’t put her foot down.. I think Kandi is just plain lazy ! She will drive 100 miles out of her way to avoid doing what ultimately must be done to correct this highly disfunctional family! As doctor Phil says….someone needs to be the hero here…Kandi’s daughter does not need to be around these terrible remarks and fighting. Don’t tell me she hasn’t heard it, of course she has.

  12. Kandi has shown what she is. Her mother’s daughter and the same can be said of Riley. Todd needs to run. Too much damage already. How can he ever respect Kandi after all that’s happened? Not just the deliberate pain Joyce and Kandi caused his own mother. Also the way Joyce and Kandi treated his daughter. Kandi is guilty of allowing Joyce to be so hateful. She could shut that nasty mother down. If she wanted to. By refusing to film show with her and cutting off communication until the time Joyce would trest Todd and his entire family with love and respect. Too bad the nasty waste of flesh is not capable. I blame Kandi as much as Joyce.
    I wish Bravo would fire them cuz its so ugly to watch those 2 continue to disrepect Todd’s dead mother.

  13. Joyce is an uncivilized product of our permissive You Tube society.Bravo spreads viruses like her and people like me wait for our weekly shot of ignorance.

  14. I really wish Kandi would read these comments and take them to heart. Todd is a good man. Her mother is a destructive woman. Kandi owes her nothing, after supporting her for years and having her mother sabotage every relationship Kandi has, only to keep the money flowing. Kandi also needs to stop with the nervous laugh. It’s why her mom never stops with the abusive mouth and keeps pushing the boundaries. We see her mom is unaffected by Kandi’s tears and heartbreak, as well. The only thing she’ll respond to is cutting off the cash.

    1. Right again DebBrenn – cutting off the money flow is probably the only thing mean mama will understand. But Kandi has been abused by this witch for so long I don’t think she knows how to respond. Let’s hope she will read these comments and learns from them.

  15. After Todd’s mom passed so suddenly, he would need the love of a good woman who is understanding and can empathize. It is hard to believe that Kandi is capable of such deep feelings, considering who raised her; a very immature “woman”, incapable of love, filled with hatred and criticism, more of a self centered, greedy child than an adult and certainly not a role model, caring for no one but herself. Todd must see now that Kandi may have been fun for the initial period, but deep down, she harbors a lot of loathsome traits that are so much like Joyce. How can he look at Kandi and Riley, without seeing Joyce…and to have to see Joyce as well…with that face and nasty mouth. She purposely did not smile, looking sour, in any wedding photos except the ones where Todd was missing. How can Kandi not only let it happen, but reward the ungrateful poor excuse for a mother with another ridiculously large home down the street…that mom won’t let her have a key to… Wake up Todd. I know you are hurting, but unless Kandi can change…doubtful….you can never be happy. Keep laughing Kandi…Your inability to feel for Todd or treat people with dignity and respect will have you laughing alone as you always were. Your mom only loves your money…clearly never loving anyone else but Herself.

    1. Some of you ladies express yourselves so well. You write what I am thinking but can’t put it into words so I feel like I must thank you for saying and writing such great words of wisdom. Thank you ladies – you know who you are.

  16. It is in very poor taste to ask readers to choose a side in an effort to fuel this drama when one of the main players is now deceased. Obviously, now that Sharon had passed, there is no choice to be made. There are only wounds in need of healing. Clearly, Kandi and Todd will have some residual issues to work through, and continuing to fuel this drama after Sharon had passed is cruel and disrespectful.

    As far as Kandi is concerned, I doubt she is even aware of the extent to which her mother has damaged her. Obviously, Joyce is one serious manipulative piece of work who is only concerned with her cash flow and is not concerned about Kandi and her welfare. (Kandi should retitle her play: “A Mother’s Love For My Money.”) But, Kandi is, apparently, BLIND when it comes to Joyce.

    By the way, what is an “amorism,” anyway?

  17. Joyce is horrible! Kandi needs to get her in line. Keep in mind Kandi you have the money! You have to power! You have the control! Whats your mean mommy gonna do? Stop talking to you and get a J.O.B.? I highly doubt that.

    She can bitch and threaten all she wants. She isnt going ANYWHERE.

    This is not fair to your husband. Get that mean, nasty woman in line. Before you lose Tod.

    TOD: If Kandi wont do this, dont walk, RUN! or your life will be hell. You already lost time with your mom. Thats enough. You deserve respect as a man, father and husband. If she wont give it, look elsewhere. Life is too short to be misserabl.

  18. I can’t stand Kandi’s mom. I adored my Mother… She made me feel like the most special person in the whole world! Unconditional love… Joyce shows unconditional love also… For Kandi’s money!! And I agree… Kandi’s daughter who has always seemed like such a great kid… Is starting to act like her grandmother… Entitled and rude! I don’t think I would be able to take any of Joyce’s crap anymore if I were Todd. I’d refuse to be in the same room w her!

  19. CANDY USE 2 BE MY FAVORITE, USE TO BE….NOW I SEE HER AS A 12 YR OLD LITTLE GIRL WHO IS AFRAID TO STAND UP TO HER MOTHER, AND IT DISGUSTS ME…CANDY DOESN’T DESERVE TODD, SHE DOESN’T DESERVE ANY MAN IN MY OPINION..I THINK HER MOM WANTS CANDYS MONEY TO HERSELF, THERE FOR NO MAN WILL EVER BE EXCEPTED IN HER EYES, THEY R TOO MUCH OF A THREAT…HER MOM IS A NASTY OLD LADY WHO THINKS SHE IS STILL YOUNG RUNNING THE STREETS TRYING TO BE ALL TOUGH, PLEASE!!!! WhAT A DISGRACEFUL EXCUSE OF A MOTHER JOYCE, U RAISED UR DAUGHTER JUST THE WAY U WANTED TO, PATHETIC, WIMPY AND VERY IMMATURE…CANDY ACTS VERY IMMATURE, I REALLY HOPE SHE REALIZES HOW SHE COMES ACROSS ON THIS SHOW TO THE WATCHERS, IGNORANT AND NO COMMON SENSE, I MEAN WHO THE FUCK DOES SHE AND HER MOM THINK THEY ARE?? TODD GET OUT, FIND SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATES U AND TRULY LOVES U, CAUSE IT AIN’T HER, SHE WON’T CHANGE…

  20. HAVEN’T WATCHED THE SHOW IN A COUPLE OF WEEKS, DIDN’T KNOW HIS MOTHER DIED, HOW DID SHE PASS?? CONDOLENCES TO U TODD

  21. Totally off subject but I need to vent somewhere. I get so frustrated watching Kandi bc I can’t understand a word she is saying. She’s a smart successful woman and she can’t speak proper English? Well, come to think of it, I don’t understans mama Joyce either. This is why parenting is so crucial.

    1. It frustrates me, too! I’ve noticed that myself, and I wonder how it doesn’t drive Todd crazy, since he speaks like an intelligent person. Kandi is a smart girl, but Kandi is not educated. She went to high school at least, but it sounds to me that the staff there did there best to get her to auditions, not make sure she mastered English. Her daughter has somehow learned to speak well, so maybe Kandi should be emulating her.

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