Heather Dubrow Says Twitter Haters Are Bullies & There Was No Excuse For Tamra’s Behavior At The Dinner Party!

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Heather Dubrow is taking to her Bravo Blog to discuss the controversial “bullying” episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County. Heather says Lydia was the voice of reason that evening, and Tamra’s behavior was out of line. Heather also explains she and her husband, Terry have spent a lot of time with Brooks and she has never witnessed any of the behavior Ryan was talking about with Billy, Vicki’s brother. Lastly, Heather talks about “haters” on Twitter and social media, and says they are in fact bullies.

Heather writes, “There is no excuse for Tamra’s behavior at the height of this party. She definitely was like a nuclear bomb ready to explode. I tried to diffuse her a bit — but you can see that had mixed results.

I thought Lydia was a true voice of reason. If you had been sitting at the dinner, as she was, you could see that everyone was trying to say their point of view. Alexis wasn’t allowing it. It’s very hard to have a conversation that way, heated or otherwise.
As far as my comment about being medicated for “rich girl” problems goes, I regret saying that. Mental health is a serious issue and people go on medications for all kinds of reasons.
I was just exasperated that this issue from Costa Rica — which had been discussed between Alexis and myself and had moved on from in my opinion — is still the focus of Alexis’ dialogue. At some point you need to stop blaming others and take responsibility for your own life and choices you make.

Despite the bad ending to the dinner, we did end up blessing the building. It was a nice moment and clearly worked because Tamra’s new gym C.U.T. Fitness is doing really well. Congrats Tamra!

Terry and I have also spent a lot of time with Brooks. He has always been fun, funny, gentlemanly and appropriate. Terry and I have never witnessed any of the behavior that Ryan was talking about. Vicki just wants to be happy and live her life. I wish everyone would let her.

Lastly, RHOC is a television show meant to entertain. An interesting part of the show is the interaction between the cast and viewers via social media. Twitter, Facebook and Instagram have become an intrinsic part of the show and so have viewers comments.
I am not a close-minded person, nor do I think I am always right. I freely apologize when wrong and make amends.
What I find so ironic is that the haters that find their way to the cast members social media are nothing more than cyber bullies. And yes, that is bullying. . .and cowardly. To hide behind a computer and an anonymous persona to spew hate at another person is despicable. I don’t care who is your least favorite out of the bunch. Tamra, Lydia, Alexis, Gretchen, Vicki and myself are all human beings with real lives and real families. You are all absolutely entitled to your opinions, and we are all happy to hear them — good or bad. Please be passionate, engage with us, give us your take on what happened — it’s part of our job. However, when I look at some of the comments on everyone’s blogs and there is such venom about our looks, families, and sometimes our religious beliefs I am in shock. That will receive the ultimate karma hit.”

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21 Replies to “Heather Dubrow Says Twitter Haters Are Bullies & There Was No Excuse For Tamra’s Behavior At The Dinner Party!”

  1. I wish Heather would elaborate on how she felt when Tamra threatened to kick her out of the party too. Why did she cower and retreat if she knew Tamra was handling the situation wrongly? Why didn’t she take a stand for what was right? As for her claims of “bullying” from fans…omg, the hypocrisy is mind boggling. How is it that when Heather feels “bullied” it’s valid and legitimate, but when Alexis feels “bullied” it isn’t? You only need to see the feedback for her blog to know that viewers are outraged by her double standard. Bad move Heather.

    1. I do not watch scenes with heather or tamra or gretchen anymore heather threw at alexis that she wasn’t bullied but she was in school how stupid is that she is a bully and that is that! she even bullies her husband and the little wimp runs after her just sickening!

  2. Heather needs to realize that even though it is sad that viewers do not like many things about these reality people, they get very passionate and write about many things and it isn’t always flattering. However – the blogs are a place viewers express their opinions and it may be far from nice – it is the only venue a viewer has to air their honest opinions. Some get very candid and such is life. Heather should not read nor scold people for their remarks. The sleaze factor that is parallel with reality tv will bring out the worst in people and viewers will comment accordingly. But to once again, accuse people of “hiding behind their computers as cowards” is an ignorant remark at best. People want to say what they feel. Is a viewer from South Dakota suppose to go somewhere in person to air their frustrations? Heather – just remember you are on REALITY tv show – mocked by many. Your ugliness, and your peers of the industry, will never escape ugly remarks no matter how much you arrogantly try to defend yourselves. This is life for you and this IS REALITY. Do not think you can temper or change people because you are in a position that only infuriates people more when you insult commenters – even when those commenters take it to levels that are sad and hurtful. This is real life – like it or literally leave it.

  3. Heather you maybe right but when you are on the outside looking in things look so different it did seem that tamara was over the top which is not a good look to others that follow her lead u come off mean at times also but that maybe just how you are I just feel alexis is always the highlight of everyone not being nice to her if vicki can be nice I think you ladies can also give it a try also…beauty fades when ugly surfaces just my thought…

  4. OK, so NOW Heather is a victim of bullying. Funny how the line in the sand changes according to whether she’s the victim or the perpetrator. I’ve seen no disparaging comments on her religion, and the comments made about her are about her behavior. which includes the nasty look she gets on her face. She apparently thinks it’s fine to conduct herself on TV the way she does, and that the show is designed to attract viewers by discussing their behavior. So how is it “bullying” of us to tell her in essence, “When everyone says you’re dead, it may be time to lay down.” We’re just giving her the same advice she gave Alexis, right? Her problem is her arrogance. She’s so used to controlling everyone in her environment there is no room for growth or self reflection. And if she’d like to invite me to say this in person, I’d be glad to. My name is published, and I’m not hiding behind anything.

      1. Thanks, DJ! Now if only Heather would step back from her Perch of Self Perceived Perfection and realize she may be up there erroneously we can all quit “bullying” her with our opinions!

    1. All the comments have been what I saw and felt about Heather Dubrow. I can’t stand her. She is arrogant and nasty! When she was attacking Alexis her face was mask of ugliness and evil. If she wants to call someone else bullies then she need to take a long hard look in the mirror. I also am not hiding behind a computer. If you want to hear what I have to say about you, here it is and I will say it to your face. I don’t like you, you think you are all that but let me tell you are not. Alexis is more real than you will ever be. And by the way take those ugly cheekbones out, you look like some kind of monster mask. With the pug nose, that’s just not working!

  5. Do these women watch themselves on TV. If they do they can’t seriously believe their behavior isnt bullying tactics. And why is it whenever a conversation is between 2 of the housewives the others feel a need to jump in. Alexis had every quiteright to tell Tamara to be quite, she wasn’t apart of the discussion. And Heather your behavior invites people to comment, I seriously tight you were going to be a class act on the show, goes to show how appearances can be deceiving.As far as Gretchen, I was always a fan until this season, what a disapppointment she has turned out to be. This kind of behavior out of grown women has left me no longer interested in watching.

  6. One no, Heather, those twitter haters are not bullies! They are simply giving you a list of your flaws for you to work on!…just like you gave Alexis a list of her flaws to work on, when you BULLIED her in Costa Rica! Boom!

  7. I AM ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT WHAT I WRITE HOWEVER IT IS BECAUSE I CAN NOT STAND IT WHEN PEOPLE ARE NOT HONEST. IF HEATHER TRULY THOUGHT TAMARA WAS ACTING OUT WHY DID SHE NOT SAY SOMETHING. I MEAN SOMETHING HELPFUL. IT LOOKED VERY MUCH TO ME LIKE SHE WAS GOING ALONG WITH TAMARA. THE CAMERA WAS THEIR AND OH MY,….. SHE DID NOT WANT TO LOOK BAD IN FRONT OF THE CAMERA. SHE THINKS SHE IS AUTHENTIC BUT SHE IS FULL OF CRAP TOO…. GO TO ALEXIS AND APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR BEHAVIOR WHEN YOU LAUGHED AT HER. BY THE WAY LAUGHING AT SOMEONE IS BULLYING AND IF I WAS ALEXIS I WOULD NOT WANT TO SPEAK TO YOU EITHER AND TAKE THE RISK OF BEING BULLIED AGAIN.

  8. I couldn’t agree more with Pinky and Deborah. The way that Tamra, Heather and Gretchen revelled in their malicious behaviour was utterly distateful, and disturbing. We do not need another sermon from this unevolved hypocrite. As I have had said previously, Bravo this is not acceptable drama for your show and I sincerely hope that you are paying close attention. The viewers are deeply concerned about the bullying of Alexis. She deserves a public apology. As for the three perpetrators in the ‘real world’ they would have been sacked.

  9. Heather listen up and very closely. You are a hypocrit!!!!!!!!!!!! Every single thing you have mentioned that is wrong with Alexis is exactly who you are. You met Lydia and the first thing you told her about Alexis is that she was wearing a fake ring. Really?!! Why is that an issue for you…That is how you judge people.? wearing a fake diamond makes you less than someone who wears a real one.? Moving on, your husband is such a nice fun loving happy man. He plays with the children and has better parenting skills then you do. Your Militant like and its very sad for your children. They are happy and laughing with him. You not so much. One last thought, you cannot be serious with this whole cyber bullying rant. Again, HYPOCRIT!

  10. hiding behind a computer? Really? Maybe she wants us to show up at her house and tell her what we think. I’ll bet we would all be charged with harassment. alexis has made it clear she has a real ring and wears a fake one sometimes. Who cares. That is more real to me than running around worrying about some one wearing a fake ring.Heather has real issues. I think she’s very jealous of Alexis. I bet you if her husband had fixed alexis’ nose it would be a different story. It’s all about the story, right Heather? Oh sorry…its really about the cover. You are the phony. Take a look in the mirror. Miss Piggy? Vicky? I think not. Look Baby Joker face, Vicky’s got nothin on u except more brains and direction.

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