Heather Dubrow Discusses Her Marriage To Terry & Says They Are In A Much Better Place!


Real Housewives of Orange County Star Heather Dubrow is taking to her Bravo Blog to explain the fight between she and her husband Terry on Monday’s episode. Heather explains she didn’t feel like Terry was supporting her. Heather explains she and Terry are in a much better place now, and discusses how they got through the rough patch.

Heather writes, “It’s so hard to watch this episode, especially after spending such an amazing day with my family yesterday. This all happened seven months ago, and it’s difficult to relive that challenging and upsetting time in my life and marriage.

My husband is wonderful and gives me so much. I am very grateful for the life we have created together.

However, during this period of time, I needed some support from him. I wasn’t getting it. After a while of trying to communicate and getting nowhere, I got frustrated and started lashing out at him.

I don’t have a switch off button. If something is upsetting me, it takes me time to get over it. Saying I’m sorry is a great way to start, but if its a pattern of behavior that’s not changing the words lose their meaning.

I just wanted support the way I’ve always supported Terry. “I want what I give.” This guest star role on Hot in Cleveland is only a five day job. It shouldn’t be such a big deal for Terry to help out. That night while getting dressed for dinner, I wanted to explain how I felt, yet still, he had to interrupt me to make a joke. Thus, proving my point and further frustrating me.

You should know that Terry and I talked a lot after this evening and got to a better healing place. It wasn’t completely over but we were heading in the right direction.

So, a weekend in Malibu sounded like just the ticket for us. A little time away from the kids to reconnect. . .

Brunch in Malibu: “You need to be what your PARTNER needs sometimes.” This statement is true for me at this time in our marriage, as I feel that’s what I’ve done for Terry, especially in the last few years.

I’m not someone who usually talks about my relationship in front of a group of people. I was surprised Terry brought it up at the table. You may think I’m still overreacting, but the fight that continued off-camera after our dinner at ZOV’S was very intense and hurtful.

I also don’t cross the line when I fight. I think it’s dangerous to do that in a relationship. Although I so appreciate that Terry was trying to protect me, I’m very embarrassed and still hurt and shocked that Terry had chosen to discuss this in front of a table of people. It brought back all of the emotions from our earlier fight that the audience didn’t see.

I’m not trying to punish Terry. I already forgave him. I just want him to be supportive of me, and I’m also trying to find a place to put my emotions from the fight.

That’s why when we are at SIP wine tasting I said “Let’s hit the pause button.” I was really glad that Terry pulled me aside to make sure I was OK. Clearly we love each other, but it’s not going to be resolved in one day and I want to enjoy my stint on Hot in Cleveland. Sometimes it’s OK to walk away from an argument.

The key to a healthy, strong relationship is communication — of which we had a breakdown. Our marriage is stronger because of this. I don’t regret it because of that, but its still hard to watch on-screen and share with the world.”

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4 Replies to “Heather Dubrow Discusses Her Marriage To Terry & Says They Are In A Much Better Place!”

  1. I think Heather said it best when she said that she knows her husband loves her,which is why it hurt so much more to have him say the D word. He said it to intentionally hurt her…like a slap. I know this isn’t a popular opinion on this forum, but I do like Heather. She is REAL to me.

  2. I have to laugh when this utterly clueless woman thinks she can school us on having a healthy, strong relationship. What’s missing from her account, and those that support it, is that a relationship is dynamic – each is responding to the other. I do think he makes his little comments to get her goat, but he lives with a woman that emasculates him constantly, at every turn speaks to him like he’s either a fool or a child, and acts like a shrew continuously. Forget that he provides her with a lifestyle that means she has plenty more help available to her, that she needn’t work for the money but has the benefit of working only when she wants to and in ways that stroke her ego. Every single thing she does as a mother and wife is part of being a mother and wife, and much less than most mothers and wives have to do because of the money he provides (not her) but she acts like a damn martyr and keeps bringing up all she does for him. What if he said the same to her? How hard would she come down on him? How would any wife or husband respond to the constant pick, pick, pick, whine whine, whine, and put down after put down?

  3. This woman is just unable to admit any fault what so EVER on her part! She is PERFECT in her own mind. “I want what I give” is just a gross statement; I cannot imagine Terry ever saying those words. Heather is unable to comprehend that EVERYTHING is about her. Martyr! She calls it “The Terry DuBrow Show”. Give me a break! Terry approaches her yet again, tail between his legs, asking sincerely what is wrong, “are you mad?” “what did I do?” etc.


    1. “I work incredibly hard from this family”.

    2. “Whatever You need” is what I need to hear. Terry responds sincerely, “What don’t I give you?” Silence. Heather: “Really?” with a deer in the headlights expression; Terry siezes the moment to do some personal grooming in the comfort of his own home, and Heather actually gets PISSED OFF that he has the nerve to clip his toenails, demands he stop, so he can devote his entire attention to her latest tyrade which continues on:

    3. “I am a Mother, a chauffer, a cook, a laundress, a coach, tutor, a party planner, a coach…” to which Terry responds after being commanded to cease the clipping “Did you say coach twice?” (lol)

    4. “You’re a JERK!” Heather marches out, slams the door in the cameraman’s face.

    Cut to Terry:

    “She’s like a finely tuned violin; if you pluck it a little too hard the strings are gonna break and snap in your face”. Amen Terry.

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