Heather Dubrow Clears Up Divorce Rumors


Heather Dubrow is taking to her Bravo Blog to clear up rumors about her marriage after the last episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County aired. Heather says her fight on-camera with Terry is a normal thing couples go through, and she loves her husband very much. Read why Heather says she got so upset below!

Heather writes, “This is a hard scene for me to watch for many reasons. Terry is a guy who likes to joke around a lot, which is great. Contrary to what you see on the show, I think he’s very funny and we laugh a lot. However, like in all relationships, we go through times where it’s not working. The jokes are repeatedly at my expense.

I freely admit I am overly sensitive and should allow more things to roll off my back. I’m just not built that way. As my partner in life, I would hope that Terry would lighten up on me if he knows it bothers me so much. Unfortunately, I had had enough at dinner that night. I was so excited about my guest star role, and I thought Terry would be in the “anything you need” mode. It’s only five days of helping out. Not a big deal. I just didn’t want to hear the jokes anymore. Also, involving the kids to me is a mistake.

I am a very hands-on mother. I am very busy raising my kids and taking care of husband and our home. Yes, I have help. But it’s called “help,” not “do.”

I don’t do very much for myself by way of alone time, girls’ trips, etc. except for what you’ve seen on the show.

I just wanted Terry to support me and be excited for me and make it about me for a change. Because it hasn’t been in a very long time.

I don’t regret my decision to stay home with my kids, but having an opportunity for five days to feel like my old self again and be creative is priceless.

I love my husband very much. We have been together for 16 and a half years. This is reality. We all have ebbs and flows in our relationships. You are seeing a piece of our lives this season. I wish you could see more of a complete picture. We are also loving and fun together. Silly, happy, thoughtful, and kind to each other.

Not as fun to watch as the bickering moments I suppose. However it’s all these moments that make up a relationship. They are not all pretty. This is one of those. .

P.S. I showed this to Terry before sending in to Bravotv.com and this was Terry’s text back when I asked him what he thought: “Brilliant, honest, real: exactly what I would expect from you. I love it. I love you.””

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Heather just shut up. To take your children – with help by the way – to the pumpkin patch and act like you entertained 30 kids all day is just pathetic. If you need a sympathetic reaction – it ain’t happening – you suck. As far as your marriage – whatever. We all know this is your “storyline” this season, WEAK. Your “acting career” is lacking and to put your family on reality tv is sad. You have 4 adorable kids. Do you even think that restarsunt scene was cool or entertaining – NO. First, help your damn kids with… Read more »

Heck yes!

It is a shame for everyone to become judge and jury on another couples lives. Those who are perfect, let them throw the first stone. Jesus said it best to those judging another … John 8:7 (KJV) “So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” All of you ladies bashing heather for being an ice queen need to look in the mirror. We all at times are unbearable. Heather I have a wonderful sermon I think you will enjoy… Read more »

No Heather needs to read the scripture about casting stones. There is also plenty of scripture about marriage. But I doubt that’s going to happen since Heather is Jewish.

Jenna. Heather is Jewish. As well intentioned as I’m sure you are, offering to share your Jesus message with her is not the right audience. And these HW shows are like sports for women that don’t like sports. The Monday morning quarterbacking is part of why these women can get the big bucks.


Sorry. I’m not buying it. But of course he responded that way. He knows one way to stay out of her cross hairs, and that’s to grovel.

WOW! People are so harsh! I think your response was perfect Heather. Everyone has “moments” your marriage is a lot like my marriage and my husband and I love eachother very much , it just works for us. Doesnt matter what anyone else says or thinks its only about you and your family.
You can notice this whole season that Bravo is focusing on the two of you arguging, its a story line that people can run with and thats it.

I completely agree! Love Heather, love their real moments, and I love her REAL responses. Terry is similar to my guy, and I would have reacted the same way. You can love a jokester…but sometimes, just sometimes, you need them to take you seriously, and make it about you, not about their jokes.

Some marriages are healthier than others. In my opinion, this was a letter directed to Terry, not to the audience. I don’t believe Heather and Terry have the healthiest way of communicating while I do believe they love eachother. The above which she “P.S.’d” Terry was too personal for us. Of course he agreed wholeheartedly that she post it. I doubt his disagreement wouldn’t be welcome and he’d pay the price. He also loves her and wants her happy. No we don’t know the whole story but cameras don’t lie. I’d be thrilled to see her fawn over Terry for… Read more »
Barb, I think your assessment of their dynamic is very insightful, although I don’t know whether anybody can know if they “love” each other or not. A lot of things hold marriages together that have nothing to do with love. But I think his comments about not being as hands-on with the kids aren’t necessarily true. He may be just making those flippantly, or it may be his way of pretending he has some control in that marriage. If you watch those kids with him they are more comfortable than they are with her. I’ve noticed a few times when… Read more »
I think I agree with you, speaking of insightful! Those are likely flippant comments to appear in control. She buys it and it creates more conflict. Yes the children certainly do seem to be close to dad; but I will say that since they are with mom all day, any moment with dad will be more special, any snippet of attention will be soaked up; that’s been my own personal experience. I really didn’t like the scene in the car when Heather was teasing her daughter; it was cruel! The little girl seemed so frustrated and Heather continued on, laughing,… Read more »

Pipe down Heather! You are way to critical of your husband. I feel sorry for a man that’s always apologizing. You are acting like a high school girl, getting all extra over nothing. Maybe you should get something to eat to calm your nerves…way too skinny.

IM SORRY BUT everyone leave her alone i know i may not like her as much but they are not getting a divorce they have a different marriage that at times i feel like is hard to watch cuz i cringe but at the end of the day tv amplifies so much of our issues u would be surprised. im sure their fine

“Everyone leave her alone?” We are all free to comment here and nobody is telling you to shut up. State your case freely and everybody else will too.

None of us truly know what the reality is of this marriage; time will tell. Heather isn’t stupid, but she is an actress. She knows she is on TV.

If she snatches up a plumb role though, I will venture a guess she is gone…..just a guess. Maybe that’s another fear of Terry’s.

did i ruffle your feathers?
i said everyone leave her alone in a way that i meant hey lets try to look at another side of this. i was not telling anyone to shut up? where did i say that? next time instead of speaking out of irritation you should maybe calm down take a look at the comment and then answer me. im sure your educated =)

If YOU’RE trying to talk about someone and use the term ‘YOU’RE educated’, you might want to use the right YOU’RE, nor YOUR. And maybe a smattering of capital letters to start a sentence. Just saying.

Thanks for the correction =]

Thank you, lol! Just what I thought. Plus I thought her comment was trying to shut down any commentary that fails to flatter. This forum in neither for fawning or to condemn – it’s to give opinions whatever they are! I think Terry is dumb like a fox. Remember his insisting over lunch to tell the group he had “used the d word?” Her discomfort and whispered stop were obvious. His big I’m so bad confession was contrived to serving up a sort of *don’t think I’m a foolish, powerless man in that marriage.* Heather can insist all she likes… Read more »
“did i ruffle your feathers?” What does that question mean? I don’t understand it. “i was not telling anyone to shut up?” Is a statement but appears in the form of a question and isn’t a correctly capitalized sentence. I am really not certain who is irritated here but I know it isn’t me. I will also tell you that I don’t need to answer you deonn. Yes, I am educated. Mostly, I feel amused at the personal direction certainly people take in their posts; I for one am very calm. “Everyone leave her alone” sounds like a command. I… Read more »

cool =)

as you said Heather, “A man is known by the company he keeps”. I look at Tamara and know what to expect from you.

Speaking of the company a man keeps, I think it’s a good idea to keep an idea on Eddie. I don’t feel comfortable with it.

Whoops. An “eye” on Eddie; not an idea. True colors are starting to show with both of them; blooms off the rose. Apparently they are still ok and perhaps they’ll make it but he seems tired of her negativity.

They’re another Paul and Adrienne. I like Terry, Heather is a b this year. Real moms and dads, in real working families, don’t make their kids take homework when they’re eating out. Are you kidding me? Shouldn’t have even discussed their business in front of the kids. They’re little too, just enjoy them. What a diva she is. You can tell she’s over Terry, and not in love with him anymore. Just like Adrienne, it shows in how they treat their husbands like children, the rotten looks they give them, and they’re soooo thin-skinned. He’s a damn surgeon not a… Read more »
Heather I really like you ……but you are a bit uptight. Im sorry I cannot except that you decide to stay home and raise your four kids and you don’t have any free time for yourself. You are so lucky to have the husband and family you have along with the financial stability. I raised my four kids by myself after my husband passed away they were all under 12. I had no choice but to go back to work but EVERY SINGLE MOMENT of my free time was spent with my kids. No girl trips no trips to dinner… Read more »

The “class” word is a bit over used, but ultimately WELL PUT Melodie. We don’t know what we have til it’s gone sometimes.

Heather’s son said “Mom did your parents argue alot” he was visibly upset. There is your red flag! I mean if your own son says that…something needs to change

Heather is the most vile and disgusting housewife I have ever seen. She desperately wants to be somebody when she is a NOBODY. Keep GLAZING and hopefully you will not last another season. You are two faced and mean just like the friends you keep “Tamra and Gretchen”.

I happened see an episode of this garbage while staying home, recuperating from a cold. This woman Heather Dubrow is a selfish, shallow hypocrite. She writes “I was so excited about my guest star role, and thought Terry would be in the anything-you- need-mode” REALLY? She expects her husband to LIVE in that mode, day in, and day out. Here is the other comment which shows her true colors: ” I don’t regret staying home with my children, but having an opportunity for five days to feel like my old self and be creative is priceless”. Let’s take a look… Read more »

Priceless is the very limited precious time Heather and all of us have with our children during their short sweet little childhoods. They need us much more than the world needs another former D list actress with a name nobody knows looking to relive her “glory days”.

Heather needs to treat her husband way better. There is no way she can afford that mansion of hers without her husband. I was disgusted when she had her outdoor dinner and had a huge queen chair for herself. Gross….husband sat with the others. Why are you so snooty Heather? You aint all that girl !!!!!!!

I agree with you about the queen chair. Somehow most of these women have missed the most rudimentary elements of being a good hostess. Tamra and her “special” glasses for only two of her guests was the same. I’ve noticed a comment that comes whining out of the mouths of most of these women (Heather included) at one time or another, and Heather’s done it now at least twice. It runs along the lines of “This was supposed to be MY time” or “MY party” or “about ME.”

Kindly asking…what is wrong with feeling that way at times?

Heather I was always taught growing up that you are to treat your guests like kings and queens. Not be pretentious and prove your special. Yes Tamara was wrong. We watch this show because we look at your lives with everything that you have -money, clothes, mansions, plastic surgery (ALL OF YOU) and our lives are wonderful. If that is what money does I sure many would give it all up just to have a normal happy family. your struggles and the average families struggles are like night and day.

In all sincerity, Lolaz963? When you have a party, even if it’s a celebration of something in your life, it’s about everyone having a good time, unless it’s a public hanging or a briss. (Just kidding). It’s the hosts and hostesses job to make sure everyone is comfortable and feels welcome – that’s it. We’re all supposed to learn that as small tots. You don’t single out a couple of people and give them a gift because you like them better than everyone else there, you don’t claim you’re “gracious” and treat a guest like crap, you don’t get that… Read more »
I had forgotten about the “special glasses” Tamara put out; she certainly does lack a lot of the basic social graces aside from the ugly behavior. Deborah I couldn’t have said it better (again); the bow eating incident was beyond ridiculously overly as well. There is nothing wrong with needing and wanting “me” time but certainly not while you are entertaining guests. The “big chair” was just plain gross. The woman desperately needs to feel better, more in control, smarter, wiser, even superior moment by moment. Vicki didn’t need Heather’s “advice” about sitting down with Tamara after the wine tasting… Read more »
Heather does not recognize what a wonderful husband she has. She constantly accuses him of making jokes at her expense, or joking when he should be serious etc.. What she calls joking, I call trying to express his views and ideas on a subject. At the clambake he wanted onion rings, they make enough money, why couldn’t he have onion rings too? Heather just dismisses everything he says as a joke because he couldn’t possibly be expressing an idea or response to something differently than she thinks that he should. If you don’t watch it Heather, Terry will find a… Read more »
We have to remember that prior to the plastic surgeries and mansion lifestyle, Heather D. was an average rated actress. In my opinion, she has brought this season’s “trouble in paradise” as a ruse to get more notice this season. Historically she has been seen as a backseat spectator of the usual RHOOC drama and I’m of the opinion she is merely creating fight scenes for the camera. I feel compassion for well rounded women who juggle marriage, kids, house, work or all four. I do not sympathize with women who are blessed beyond inagination with maids & nannies but… Read more »

I love Heather, I loved this blog entry. I agree, couples fight. I’m overly sensitive too, so I understand how every little thing directed at you can be taken to heart. I understand what she’s saying, and I also agree that some things should be left alone. Terry and Heather are a match made in heaven. 🙂

Being overly sensitive is something that is a challenge; being aware that one is overly sensitive is a step in the right direction but allowing it to excuse a person’s over reactions is like excusing one’s inappropriate behavior or reaction as a result of any other character flaw. Trying to help a person who is over sensitive is like a catch 22; it is a lose lose unless they recognize they are being unreasonable and unfair in their reactions. I also believe OVER SENSITIVE and DEFENSIVE can at times be used interchangeably, frequently in conjunction with “manipulative”. It is just… Read more »
Great point. Being overly sensitive is just another manifestation of it being “all about me.” I’ve noticed that people that the ‘sensitive’ trait is never about being sensitive to others, but is always about being sensitive about oneself. Heather is the most insensitive person I can think of at the moment. She makes comments that can only be read by her children that they are a burden, not a joy. Her constant comments about her husband make him look like a buffoon. And among the girls, too, she’s the first to arrogantly judge and give unsolicited advice.

Heather thinks she’s a good wife to her husband? Ha! Please…
She said she loves him very much? Why doesn’t she show it sometimes. She’s such a hypocrite. The way she throws her husband under the bus and tells everyone “ohhh, he pulled out the divorce card” how dare he. Poor schmuck had to apologize and do the “dirty laundry” in front of everyone in the group. I would never do that to my husband. Fight your personal battles IN PRIVACY and show some respect for your husband…

I think Heather has the kind of personality that demeans and castrates men, and then hates them for being weak. As much as she rides him for not having decent conversations, she doesn’t have conversations with him, either. She doesn’t converse, she dictates. It’s interesting that the woman that is sooo sensitive when anything is said to her is so insensitive when it comes to others.

Heather is a complete joke. She should be kissing Terry’s ass from the time she wakes up till she goes to sleep. I thought Tamra was a total C U next tuesday, but Heather blows that away.

Train wreck television at its finest. My guilty pleasure but I only allow myself to watch one of these shows. RHOC. These women are pathetic and everything that’s wrong with America: self-centered, materialistic, egomaniacs! I tune in solely to watch these bit@#s fail. They never let me down. Schadenfreude at its finest.

I agree with all you said, except I’m addicted to most of the franchises. It must be similar to what possessed the Romans, watching all this carnage.

Heather rocks!! She is intelligent, funny, beautiful and caring. What if they fight? It is what couples do.

Heather’s behavior toward her husband is wrong. Men who joke do that in uncomfortable situations , usually to get a Point across without hitting below the gut . Heather had a superior attitude to most of the ladies, and she does seem like a “whiner”. At any rate , that is who she is, she knows what is important and what is not , and perhaps her making mountains out of molehills is her way to draw attention to herself-perhaps showcase her acting ability? Perhaps she is bored and needs some excitement? Perhaps she doesn’t feel well? Perhaps the kids… Read more »
Well since most of the comments were from last year, I can’t really address the onscreen bickering between the two of them but what I think most people will agree with about Heather is she tries to portray herself as ‘wise and no nonsense’ when she’s really an insecure overly sensitive hypocritical person. She’ll constantly behave with arrogance and hautiness and then when a mirror is put up to her face she doesn’t like it and TWISTS everything around. She’s doing with Shannon this season and she did it with the one gal who was younger, very slender (forgot her… Read more »

Boy do I ever agree with you, Gia! Heather’s husband comes off as pretty dim and needy, which doesn’t make him seem very competent. She doesn’t help, but then he doesn’t need to buy into her chastising him all the time, either. And what I’ve seen of him this year he’s trying to be a gossipy girl with her. Not too attractive.