Gretchen Rossi is explaining why she was so upset about the allegations Lauri Peterson came forward with claiming Vicki Gunvalson cheated on Donn during their marriage. Gretchen says Vicki’s hypocrisy is infuriating and admits Vicki hasn’t like her since day one.
Gretchen writes, “Let’s start with the whole Lauri thing! Whoa! First of all, as many of you can imagine I was beyond flabbergasted when Lauri was telling me about all of Vicki’s extracurricular activities while being married to Donn. I had so many mixed emotions. I was confused, hurt, angry, and frustrated with this confirmation from such a close friend and confident of Vicki’s. The truth is I have heard about Vicki’s extramarital affairs around town for years, but I refused to address it with her because:
1. I really didn’t care because it didn’t affect my life.
2. It was none of my business.
3. I refused to do to her what she did to me.
However, once Lauri decided to bring it up and confirm all the things I had been hearing, I found myself in a very hard predicament. How do I not get angry and address the woman that was accusing me of cheating on my dying fiancé, all the while she was the one actually having multiple affairs? What’s worse is that I now know that she was projecting and deflecting her own actions onto me as a means of covering it up. I was disgusted by what Lauri was telling me; however I knew if this information was going to be made public, it was up to Lauri too address Vicki, not me, no matter how upset I was. So I tried to rise above it and not say anything to Vicki – even though she was giving me opportunity after opportunity in Mexico just by the things she was saying and doing.
Of course she claims I was a filthy human being and should be ashamed of myself for discussing her actions, but who is she kidding? I mean she says I should be ashamed, yet she’s the one deep throating a penis lollipop in the car and talking about how much she loves penis and is good at the gesture she was doing with that lollipop. What a joke. I simply did what all Housewives do, we have an opinion of each other’s actions. It’s not like Vicki has come up short in that department when it came to her opinion about me the last five years. In every interview I do, I’m just responding to what she was doing in that moment. It seems to me that Vicki can never take responsibility for her own actions, it’s always everyone else’s fault.
Here’s what I believe the truth is: she’s mad that she had no clue Lauri was telling me about all her affairs while being a married woman and in a desperate attempt to show she was more fun and the life of the party to Tamra, she did some pretty raunchy things that ended up validating Lauri’s comments about her and she’s mad she got busted. In the last two episodes, she basically ran herself over with a 9000 lbs bus, by HER OWN actions. I didn’t even have to say anything to her and she just kept proving Lauri’s point. I really hate to say it, but as the saying goes karma is quite the bitch right?
My biggest question for this woman has always been, why throw stones when you live in a gigantic glass house? But I guess Vicki never thought it would catch up with her. I believe she has become very accustom to just living the lie. Laurie is the third person to come forward. Vicki’s own daughter Brianna confirmed she was aware of the cheating, then Tamra spoke about the guy in Mexico last year on our reunion and now Lauri. Vicki has been caught lying and cheating and somehow it’s my fault? What a crock of bull-pucky! Laurie was sure right about one thing, Vicki likes to deflects everything about herself onto those around her!
Here’s the bottom line: I would not have had issues with Vicki’s behavior that weekend if she hadn’t been such a hypocrite for all these years while, accusing me of crazy things while she was the one doing them. As you can see I was having fun the whole weekend, with all the penis décor and the strippers etc. as well. The difference is I haven’t been trying to pretend I am this good Christian wife who reads my Bible every week and cries saying “God hates divorce” — all the while doing the exact thing God says is not OK in a marriage and trying to pull the wool over everyone’s eyes in the meantime.
This will be a nice segue into this week’s episode. It’s beyond obvious to me that Vicki was determined to put a wedge between Tamra and I. She was so full of joy that I was left behind that night that she even said “my plan worked,” which Tamra confirmed the next day. That Vicki made such an obvious premeditated comment like that even bothered Tamra. Vicki’s true intentions have become very clear.
It is sad Vicki gets so much enjoyment out of hurting me. It also was beyond eerie for me to see Vicki standing up there looking down at me and Tamra talking on the beach and coming up with some convoluted thought about how I was somehow sucking Tamra back in, which couldn’t have been further from the truth! Tamra was confiding in me about a lot of different things and it had nothing to do with me sucking her back into my trap or whatever Vicki’s delusional brain was telling herself. Tamra telling me she has never shared these thoughts and emotions with anyone, not even Vicki, just goes to show how Tamra and I just have a different relationship then what she is use to having with the people in her life. For Vicki to act like I did something wrong or evil because I was there for a friend during a vulnerable time goes to show how truly delusional she is.
Even Lydia called Vicki out about her insecurities and competitiveness with me, and thenHeather further confirmed that Vicki is extremely competitive when it comes to her friendship with Tamra versus mine. And Vicki still can’t see it? Well just for the record, there is no competition from my side! I don’t want to nor have I ever wanted to compete with her for Tamra’s friendship! I’m not that desperate for friends in my life. I already have many great friends in my life. She wins! I simply was being there for a friend during a vulnerable moment, that’s it! No secret mission, no plot as Vicki claimed to Lydia. Once again, a great example of Vicki deflecting what she did the night before onto me.
Vicki has had an issue with me from day one, which I could never quite figure out, and that brings me to our “talk” on the chairs by the pool. I was sincerely trying to have an adult conversation and try to relate to her and work through whatever issue she had with me, however she just turned into a five year old and claims that I’m so perfect and a princess. The truth is I’ve never made such an arrogant claim that I was perfect or acted as if I was a princess. If you think about it, while Vicki is always talking about how she has to work, I just do it, and the businesses I have created and the things I have designed are just evidence of my work ethic (just look back over the last five years). I’ve always worked my ass off for everything I have and that is the furthest thing from the definition a princess. It’s actually really sad in some ways because Vicki’s crazy comments are so unjustified that they continue to show her own insecurities. I actually feel bad for her.
However, that being said, I think the most mind-boggling part was when Vicki says I should look up to her as a “mentor” and respect her. Huh? Someone please explain to me, what in the world has she been a mentor to me about? And what has she done to earn my respect? She’s done nothing but shown hatred towards me from day one, she’s accused me and others of the improprieties she herself is doing, she has talked down and attempted to belittle me, she always claims nothing I do is legitimate, she says my companies are never going to make it, and she’s always trying to convince others I’m a bad person (especially Tamra). Yet somehow, despite all that, I’m supposed to respect her and look up to her as a mentor? What planet does this woman live on? Newsflash Vicki I learned my work ethic and how to live my life with integrity from my parents. They are my mentors, certainly not you.
I know this all sounds harsh and I’m not by any means saying I haven’t made mistakes or screwed up in my life (because God knows I have) but the difference between Vicki and I is that I can cop to my mistakes. I have no problem saying “Wow”, I should not have done that and I am sorry.” Vicki will always have a reason, excuse, or justification for her actions — no matter who it hurts or affects. I don’t think she will ever realize most of the issues in her life stem from her choices. In Vicki’s eyes, it’s always someone else’s fault. I can only hope and pray that one day she will stop hating me and we can try to just move forward, but until that day comes I will not allow her to mistreat, belittle, or project onto me anymore. Enough is enough!
I know that was a lot on that subject but it has been five years in the making due to the crap, pain, and ugliness she has spewed onto me, so as I said in the beginning it’s almost therapeutic to get all my emotions out about it.”