Eileen Davidson Shares How The Passing Of Her Mother Put Things Into Perspective For Her

Eileen Davidson is taking to her blog to talk about the premiere of this season of the RHOBH. Davidson talks about how the passing of her mother put things into perspective for her about how last season was handled and talks about how much fun Erika’s party was.

“It’s hard to believe it’s my third season as a Housewife! But I am entering the fray once again. I have to say, I’m so ready to put the drama of last season behind me. I’m not entirely sure how realistic “no drama” is, but I can dream!

A lot has been happening in my life since last season. Most profoundly was the loss of my mother. She wasn’t just my mom, but also my best friend. She passed away shortly before our reunion last spring, and yes, I did make a decision to keep it from the other women. I didn’t want my loss to color their ability to be honest with me. Unbelievably, my brother also passed away just weeks before my mother did. It’s been a difficult time, to say the least. It goes without saying that navigating through grief has been something I’ve been dealing with a lot.

Because of this, I empathize with Lisa R. even more. I know how close she was with her father, who has recently passed away as well. My heart goes out to her and her family. I think her motto of focusing on joy is wonderful. We’re also in the same place about the drama of last season: We’re ready to move on. We’ve both had major life events that have put the petty things into perspective.

Switching gears to Erika’s Studio 54 Birthday party. I love how Lisa R. and I both had outfits ready to go in our closets…it says a lot about us both, right? My only regret is I should have brought my roller skates with me. Next time. Fantastic party. Fantastic night. Fantastic getting to meet Erika’s mom Renee!

On a side note, I cannot believe Kyle was hanging out at the actual Studio 54 with Andy Warhol at 10 years old. Someone get this woman a television show! Oh wait…they did!

The new girl, Dorit, seems like a hoot. Her life looks like a lot of chaotic fun. Who wouldn’t want Boy George as their roomie?

I’m so happy Erika liked my birthday present. What do you get the girl who has everything? A part on a television show, obvi!

Everything seems so copacetic in the first episode, right? I’m taking bets on how long that lasts. But for now, I will enjoy it while I can!”

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  • GIGICAT

    Sorry Eileen, losing your mom should give you EMPATHY, not to make snarky comments comparing behavior to Vietnam. She hit rock bottom by saying that in the first ten minutes of the show, so she’s dead to me now. Obviously, she hasn’t spent time with Vets, or had Vets in her family or she would NEVER say anything as ignorant. Can’t be construed or spun any other way. She’s an uneducated idiot. Period.

    • Skeptic

      The Ice Queen, aka Resting Sneer Face has proven she has no empathy for anyone or anything. That remark about LVP caring more about animals than she does the witches on the sofa proved that. To say something like that after she lost her mother and brother proves she is made of ice.

  • Cin

    Always sad to hear someone has lost their Mom. It’s the worse. Something you never get over – just get used to living with it – it’s been five years since I held my Mom as she passed.

    • Suze☕️

      Sorry Cin! Xoxoxoxxox

    • Rain

      I’m sorry too Cin ❤️❤️❤️

    • Cin

      thanks …. still don’t know how you guys are doing the hearts, etc…. I’m on my computer – not my cell – so maybe that’s why.

      • Suze☕️

        I use an iPad, 3D might know she can do them and uses a laptop

    • What The

      I’m very sorry to hear about your loss, Cin. My beloved mom passed 14 years ago and it still hurts, but my heart has healed. Two events helped that. Two years after she passed, I went to an animal shelter with my cousin. The very first dog I saw, 5.5 yrs old, beautiful German Shepard/Lab, I just fell in love. I swear my mom brought that dog to me as only your mother and your dog can give you that unconditional love (no offense to dad’s, they love you too, a mom’s love is different). He did bring me so much comfort. The next event was a trip to Italy last year. I went to 13 different churches and lit 13 candles representing each year she was gone. I felt her with me each time. In one church, in Florence, as I was lighting a candle for her, in walked about 30 men, not in collars, but obviously, priests. One came up to me and said, please stay, sit. They were reciting the nightly prayer to the Virgin Mary. My mother named me after the Virgin Mary, as she prayed to her for another girl and she would name her Mary (that’s my name). I could feel my mother sitting right next to me. After the service (it was short) my husband and I left the church, he turned to me and said, I felt your mother there the whole time. I just burst into tears and in that moment, I felt my grief lift. Now, that’s me. Everyone’s grief is different. My advice, whenever you feel like you need to cry, do it. Cry, yell, scream, kick, get it out. Don’t hold it in because it will come out in inappropriate ways.

      I wish you much peace and joy in your life. Your mom will always be a part of you. Think of her everyday and you’ll keep her close in your heart.

      • Daisy

        Hi What The , my Mom passed 3 1/2 years ago . I’m having a very hard time still . Her birthday was a few days ago . I haven’t been on the blog lately because of all the nasty people . I decided to check in today . Your comment was the first that I came to . My Mom’s name was Mary . So in a way I do feel like my Mom wanted me to see this . Thank you from the deepest part of my heart

        • Rain

          I’m so sorry for you loss What The and Daisy ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Xoxoxo

          • Daisy

            Thanks Rain sweetheart . How are you ?

            • Rain

              I’m hanging in there daisy , what a blurb you?? I missed you . So nice to see you ❤️❤️❤️

              • Daisy

                Miss you too sweetie . I hope you feel better soon

          • What The

            Hi Rain, I know you are and thank you. I hope you are good today. Give Paisley hugs and kisses.

            • Rain

              ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Mary xoxo

              • Daisy

                Rain, I’m dying to see a picture of Paisley. Please email a picture to Suze that she can share with me

                • Suze☕️

                  Good idea, Paisley is beautiful I had a picture but as I have cleared my emails out it’s gone I’m afraid.

                  • Daisy

                    I love kitties. Before I became a dog mommy I had 7. But as that was years ago now I only have one

                    • Rain

                      Thank you ladies ❤️❤️❤️ Paisley is a mackerel tabby with gorgeous green eyes. I had in mind adopting an exotic cat but paisley adopted me I guess 🙂 she is like Velcro, never lets me out of her sight

        • Suze☕️

          Daisy, love you and thinking about you xoxoxoxxo

          • Daisy

            Thanks everyone. Suze, Sandy, what the. You know good days and bad. Suze you know how much I love you. I’m at the dentist then off to work. So enough going on today to keep my mind off things

            • Suze☕️

              I love you too Daisy! Yuck to the dentist! Just look after yourself sweetie and I am around for you any time! Xoxoxoxoxxo

              • Daisy

                Suze can you feel it? I just gave you the biggest Bear hug ever. I’m getting fit for my implants today and a cleaning so not so bad. Other than I hate the sound of the scraping

                • Rain

                  Good luck today Daisy ❤️❤️❤️

                  • Daisy

                    Thanks Rain love. Almost my time

                • Suze☕️

                  Implants are great when they are all done! I had a conversation with my neighbour today on the way up to Edinburgh as she had hers roughly at the same time as mine. Hope it goes well! Of course I felt the Bear hug! The whole house shuddered!xoxoxoxoxxo

        • What The

          Daisy…that warmed my heart. Yes, she did want you to see this post. I’m glad that my experience is able to help others. Isn’t that what life is all about. Pass on the lessons learned. I’m very sorry for your loss. Keep her in your thoughts. Much love and peace to you.

      • Real Sandy⛱

        What a beautiful story. I believe your mom was there.
        I lost my mom many years ago. She was just a couple years older than I am today. I was in my 20s still living at home, the youngest of 4 and the only one unmarried. I also lost my boyfriend…not gone that way, but he left me for a girl he got pregnant after we dated 5 years and were pre-engaged…almost engaged, really…just a few months before my mother’s very sudden passing.
        I get feelings she is with me too. I just do. I had from the first days after she was gone.
        I recently got a puppy (well over a year ago now)…and I was always allergic to dogs. I had allergy tests and cats, dogs, horses…you name it.
        My dog is just 2 now, born on Thanksgiving 2014, my favorite holiday. Something about him made me want him. Even though my mom was born on 1/27. He was born on 11/27. I felt she wanted me to have him. His eyes made me want him. There were more things too, like his name.
        I took allergy pills for a year, because, like my mom, I would become asthmatic around dogs. Then one day, I said…I don’t even come close to having breathing problems. I stopped the pills, and I don’t need them. I am surprised. Even hypoallergenic dogs make me wheeze. He is one of those breeds…but still. I am still amazed. This dog is the most lovable little being. I am home alone a lot of the time, and now my little companion is with me.
        Okay, it is many years later, but holidays always remind us of loved ones.
        I am sorry for your loss and Daisy too. I wish I had more time with my mom, but it was her time to go. She passed very suddenly (no warning but she was an asthmatic) on Palm Sunday. I was at work that day, an ER nurse and was not there for her. It was God’s plan. Her favorite holiday was Easter, and I felt she had to be celebrating Easter on the other side.
        I wrote so much. Sorry. I love your name, Mary. My niece is named Maria. It is a sweet name and biblical.
        Have happy holidays. Be there for your family. Keep the happy memories alive always, and your loved ones will always be with you.
        XOXO

        • Real Sandy⛱

          Oh, and I am sorry for your loss, Cin, What The, and Daisy and anyone else I may have missed. I hope you all have happy holidays and remember only the wonderful memories, keeping your loved ones alive always.

        • What The

          Sandy and Suze…I’m sorry for your loss. A mom is everything. That’s what makes woman so special. Sandy, I believe that your mom sent you that dog. She knew you needed that companionship and unconditional love. My mother also loved Easter. She had a hard time around the holidays because her mother died one week before JFK was shot. I wish I could live up to the name. I’m not perfect, but I do try to conduct myself with respect, charity, compassion and empathy. Much love to you all.

          Let’s enjoy BH this year. Chic, chic, chic, darling!!

          • Real Sandy

            I agree that moms are special. My mom held the family together. I also pretty much made her out to be a saint when I lost her years ago and for a long time. I do know, however, that none of us is perfect. We are all human. My mom was human too. Unless you are like Mother Teresa/Saint Theresa or someone like her, then you are not perfect. There is nothing wrong with that. Don’t worry about living up to your name. You are doing just fine! You are special, and your mom loves you still as you love her.
            Oh, and I do believe my mom sent this little dog to me somehow. He really is a miracle to me.

      • Suze☕️

        What The, that is a lovely story and I’m sure she was there! I lost my mother before I had children and they are 30 and 31 so many many years ago. So it’s not so bad for me!

  • bluebell

    ED, LR, & Ericka may want to move on from the drama last year. But I will never forget how they treated LVP. The 3 stooges make me sick. Do they really expect us to believe they just gloss over their hatred last season? The only reason I watch is because of LVP. She is & always will be my favorite housewife of all time.

    • Skeptic

      After watching the season premier, Bluebell, i can see their hatred is just simmering and sizzling below the surface. It won’t take long to boil over.

  • Starr

    It only took the passing of 2 very close immediate members of Eileen’s family to realize the important things of life? It struck her then how totally horrible the pettiness she displayed all of last season was just that—petty? The part hard to digest is the fact that she attended the reunion & acted so badly to & about LVP & she had just lost her mom. Shall I put her anger down to part of the grieving process? if I do, what can I put the whole season of pure anger on her part down to? Could it just plain be that she is a petty, silly, demented, cold turkey? I guess the latter is what I’ll go with. Both she & Rinna are two of a kind, warped humans.

    • Suze☕️

      Totally agree Starr, I’m not sure why they had her back! Xxoo⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

    • Geminigirl

      I agree!!! It’s easy to want to move on when you were the aggressor last season and people saw right through you. Oh no, hun… won’t be that easy to try to pretend to wipe the slate clean.

  • Ronnie

    Soapy and Sudsy really need to go!!!

  • Real Sandy

    Hard to see if Eileen changed for the better by the first episode. Now I have The Young and the Restless on…and don’t want to see her on this show either.
    I hope it gets better.

  • Danielle

    Regardless of her beef with LVP, I thought it was really sweet that she gave Erika a role on Y&R.