Controversy Surrounding Melissa Gorga’s Book, Advocating Marital Rape?


There is huge new controversy surrounding Melissa Gorga’s book, Love Italian Style. While Melissa is the author, it is a passage that Joe Gorga wrote that has sparked rumors the Gorgas are promoting marital rape. The website Jezebel shares the controversial paragraph. “Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while,” Joe writes. “If your wife says ‘no,’ turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated. Women don’t realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.”

“In the beginning, Joe wanted to have sex every single day, at least once, if not twice or three times…” Melissa writes. “If I didn’t give it to him once a day, he’d get upset. I can do something that pisses him off on a Monday, but if we had sex on Sunday night, it blows over more easily. But if we haven’t done it for two days and I give him attitude? It could be a huge fight.”

Melissa goes on to say in the book how women should strive to be sexy for their husbands and always make sure the housework is done. “A happy marriage is one in which a wife gives her husband everything he wants, regardless of its impact on her. And if he doesn’t get everything he wants, it will be no one’s fault but hers if he throws a violent temper tantrum or strays.”


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  • Gina

    Gross…. really this is what she wants to teach her daughter??? If you don’t do everthing your man says he will leave you, or cheat on you and it will be your own fault??? WOW….poor Antonia she is gonna have such a messed up idea of what a HEALTHY relationship should be.

  • Jen

    Eeew. Is this just a manual of how to be a submissive wife to your caveman husband?

  • Aunt Bee

    What century do these idiots live in????? Sounds like BC or Neanderthals. OMG
    I can’t believe this. Excuse me, I need to regurgitate.

  • DebBrenn

    Whoa. That’ s scary. If it works for them, fine. It’s not good advice for most people, and I worry about those woman who are abused and blaming themselves who might read her book.

  • chrissy

    Hey Melissa, in case your dumb “Italian Brain” wasnt taught what love really is. you should stop talk, writing singing, and reality tv. your not arole model for anyone and your peewee husband needs to learn now to make a women feel sensual not feeling like she HAS to give sex in order for him to be happy. you two are discusting. melissa you r being raped by your neandrathal hisband, you just r too stupid to recognize that. LOVE ITALIAN STYLE should be called How to get raped by your hisband so that you can have anything you want in life.

  • italian lover

    last week melissa was asking baby joey his name ,he said, joey gorga fart. somebody has to be calling him this, he really believes its his name

    • DebBrenn

      He does NOT think it’s his name. He’s just experimenting with potty words, and I just hope she corrects him and his older brother a little stronger for their smart mouths. She doesn’t yet, but she’s going to end up with brats like Teresa’s kids.

      • italian lover

        most 3 yr olds do not say the word fart, they have to hear it alot to repeat it

  • Leesa

    I feel sorry for her. Does she really thing that this is a great and healthy marriage? Joe knows no boundaries and really doesn’t honor or respect his wife. If Melissa thinks sex,cooking, and cleaning keeps a marriage in tact then she is in for a rude awakening.

  • Chloe

    Truly pathetic. Horrible message to the readers and her daughter.

  • Anonymous

    Sounds more like a plot to get higher book sales if you ask me…..

  • italian lover

    buy my book, its sexy, read about what my hubby says about sex. otherwise it won’t sell

  • tamara hope

    I am appalled at what she says-This girl is crazy! This is 2013 not the 50’s or 60’s. Woman do not have to bow down to a man we don’t have to give “sex on demand” that’s not love that’s not lovemaking. I’m shocked that she feels the way she does. I was married for almost 17 yrs to a demanding man who thought nothing of “taking it” from me if I said no.Oh & by the way Joe we don’t like to have our hair pulled or to be “roughed up” Melissa needs to take her blinder’s off, she does not have a normal healthy marriage. I know it took me along time to realize that in my marriage when I did I left! I am now in a healthy relationship & if I don’t want sex or if he doesn’t its fine it just makes it better when we do “make love”. I’m disappointed with them both & will not be buying her book! I just can’t support trash like the book sounds to me like it is! Sorry Melissa!

  • Wren

    She is Sick in the head! This is messed up!