Carole Radziwill is Tired of Passive Aggressive Insults


Carole Radziwill is taking to her blog to let everyone know she is tired of the passive aggressive insults from her RHONY co-stars and takes us down memory lane at some of the insults she’s let roll off her back.

“As Nietzsche once wrote… “She who stirs the sh–, should lick the spoon.”

Someone is talking behind everyone’s back and her name doesn’t start with a, B, C, or…wait a minute, it does start with a D! Who knew! The mother of all things nice is telling BS tales taller than a Dr. Seuss top hat. So apparently all it takes for Jules to scream like a toddler is a little second hand “she said/she said” gossip. Boo-hoo.

Over the past four years my integrity and character have been tested and questioned. I’ve let dozens of passive aggressive insults roll off my back. (Most recently, the mocking of my age and my earlier profession as a journalist by the two above.) I’ve been called a disgusting, pathetic, middle-aged horny woman by a woman I thought was my friend. I’ve been called a pedophile. I’ve endured insults hurled at people I love. I’ve listened to outright lies told by the Housewives about my business (remember the ghostwriter story! Whoo hoo!) and about me and my boyfriend (I broke up his relationship! Boo hoo!). And now…drum roll. Dorinda calls me “mean.” Uh, yeah, I’m good.

Wait until you see next week’s show…it’s amaaaaazing.”

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25 Replies to “Carole Radziwill is Tired of Passive Aggressive Insults”

  1. Truth hurt? If so, why not assess? No, you’re not a pedophile but you are a mean girl, and that is nurtured by Bethenny so take a note.

    1. What did Carole do that was mean? I really didn’t see it and I watched more then once. When Jules told her and Bethenny about her illness, she said she needed her friends to watch her, basically. “So I don’t get away with this shit” were her exact words. So, is taking Addarall “getting away with shit?” YES. JUST BECAUSE A DOCTOR PRESCRIBED IT! Come on. A group here where I live who own a huge car lot recently got busted, along with the DOCTOR, for selling oxy out of the car lot that the doctor wrote the Rx for. Thousands of them a week that the DOCTOR wrote. So this shit about Carole not being a doctor by Jules is just that, shit. We all have information available to us and it doesn’t take a doctor to see that your new friend is in trouble, taking Oxycodone and Adderall together, barely being able to complete a thought. Not having the ability to care for her children because of her illness. I feel bad for Jules, what a horrible illness that must be, always with you, feeling like food is poison inside yourself! But that doesn’t make Carole mean for telling Jules she believes the Adderall, speed IOW, to be harmful to her. The calzone thing wasn’t “funny.” I agree with Bethenny on that one. Like I said before, even places with pizza ovens have microwaves, if they had taken that out first for some reason, they might have decided to give it a few seconds of heat so it would come to the table hot. Have you ever seen what happens when a bunch of metal gets nuked? NOT FUNNY AT ALL. Even though that was not what wasn’t funny about it to Bethenny. She didn’t appreciate being given a piece without being told what was baked in it, that’s all. That measuring cup didn’t look too sturdy, what if the handle broke off from being baked and Bethenny, or anyone, got a piece of it in their mouth. Weird things happen EVERY DAY, that no one expects, & that no one “means to do.”
      And how about a little sympathy for Bethenny who is also on a bunch of meds, that a GOOD doctor gave her. She also has a child and responsibility. This isn’t a 4 year “journey” that everyone in the world has to see selfies of daily. It is reality after all, and that was really happening during filming.
      I don’t think Dorinda is saying anything inappropriate by stating her opinion, but I am looking forward to seeing just what it is she thinks was “mean.”

    1. Your post is exactly what I thought reading headline too!! She lives in a glass house, her “passive-aggressive” remarks to Jules @ pizza place don’t count?? Stop throwing stones Carole….

  2. Hey Carole? Nietzsche also wrote “Be careful when you stare into the abyss, because it is staring back at you” so maybe YOU are seeing what YOU are really like. And yes, you are acting like a juvenile. And yes, you are dressing like a juvenile. And yes, you are dating/sleeping with someone young enough to be your son or GRANDSON for God’s sake. And yes, you are Igor to Bethenny’s Frankenstein so deal with the truth or stop putting yourself out there for all the world to see.

    1. So true..!! I don’t when Carole started acting she was better than everyone else but she’s really annoying this season…get over yourself..! I know Jules can be a pain but she is so kind and has the best smile…I am totally in high school again watching Carole and Bethenny….mean mean girls…wait till they turn on each other…

  3. I think being on this show is the worst thing Carole has done. I’ve loved her since reading her first book WHAT REMAINS. I still like her but not what she has become on this show.

    1. Agreed. All money is not good money.I still appreciate Carole Radziwill the author and journalist, but this “new” Carole character on RHoNY? The Sidesaddle Sally look she has riding shotgun with Bethenny is definitely a stain and a terrible influence. She’s never made less sense than when she opens her mouth now: with sentences like ‘all friends talk about each other when the other is not there’ (um, no M’am, Sam), or her recent Twitter comment that a statement about another person “is not mean if it’s true” . It’s rather appalling given that we know she’s an intelligent and reflective person. Bethenny I expect to behave badly. Consistently. She is a mess. A successful, highly performing mess addicted to conflict. But Radziwill? I would expect her to be less of a follower, and display some sort of integrity and compassion towards Juliane, particularly as she herself managed to survive serious hazing in previous seasons from Luann and Aviva Drescher.

    2. I haven’t read her books. I had never heard of her or her books before this show. I have always simply thought she is boring. I understand she was one of those journalists who travel all over the world and report unusual happenings, and that she in fact did that with Anthony. I could Google it, but I don’t care enough.
      I did very much enjoy the episodes where her and Dorinda went to London, that was really a wonderful thing for them to share with us. I could give a rats ass who she sleeps with, I think she is beginning a journey of her own with realizing she has set up everything in her life to be temporary. Hey, I’m 62 and have had some serious clarity and life changing differences in my thoughts and soul recently. So, it is never too late, as long as we draw breath, to be better and do better. If she was mean, hopefully Dorinda will tell her exactly what it is she thought was mean, and Carole can look at herself through the eyes of a friend and see it herself. Maybe, maybe not. Either way these things happen in life.
      Aviva, with her ridiculous accusations and perceptions is one of those people who have a persecution complex. She went off on Carole for asking a question, and spread lies all over, went nuts at the reunion, and thank God is gone from the show. I almost couldn’t even stand to see her in the 100th episode special.
      I never could stand Heather, she annoyed me every time she spoke. I wish Kristen had stayed, though. She was pretty and interesting, even if a tad quiet. I think she would have been way, way better without Heather. I hope she doesn’t get botox, because she is one of the few that actually has an expression on her face, and I just liked her.
      Maybe I will get “What Remains” after I finish the Outlander series. I am in the middle of “Voyager” now! So, 5 to go.

      1. I can recommend What Remains. I re-read it this past winter while I seemed to be going through a terrible season of loss. Four deaths within 3 winter months, revisiting the memoir was a great comfort to me as I tried to navigate my own way with a similar experience of long term decay coupled with what felt like an onslaught of instantaneous deaths. It’s a heavy read, but a good one.

  4. For one the episode I watched was disgusting! I was shocked to see the antics of Betheny and Carole and they seriously owe Dorinda and LuAnne an apology. Gross behavior!

  5. So Carole is quoting Neitzsche. The one who thinks so highly of her intelligence quoted a man who wrote about WOMEN said “From the beginning, nothing has been more alien, repugnant, and hostile to woman than truth—her great art is the lie, her highest concern is mere appearance and beauty.” In section 6 in “Why I Write Such Excellent Books” and ” . . .the naiveté of her egoism, her uneducability and inner wildness, the incomprehensibility, scope, and movement of her desires and virtues.” (Beyond Good and Evil, section 239.) and let’s not forget that he claimed that “goodness” in women is a sign of “physiological degeneration”

    1. I’m not put off by that. Before I made the life altering decision to pursue a meaningless and superficial life in the world of fashion, I was a poli-sci major. Read plenty o’ Nietzsche. I disagree with some of his writings, agree with others -not much unlike how I feel about Machiavelli, Milton Friedman, and other philosophers. Writers quote other writers to best illustrate the point that they’re making in a precise moment. It’s not an unusual practice and should probably be taken at face value. What I am put off by, however, is the relentless tag teaming this season by Frankel and Rads to metaphorically snuff out cast members who are obviously weaker than they are as a unit. They’re behaving like piranhas , and I’m not interested in watching yet another Adult Hazing by Bravo on my tv screen this season.

      I don’t care how many of Bethenny’s bags I love or Carole’s shoes I adore ( and I’ve actually been a fan of the latter for her entire career before she came to this show )- they’re essentially snuffing out any of their own likable or redeeming qualities with their unapologetic display of non-stop arseholery: everything with this pair boils to bullying, gas lighting, and isolation tactics. Who sent them the memo that THIS is what makes a fun watch for a show? Moneybags or not, these two are obviously signed to the platform because they like the what additional opportunities it affords them: they’d be wise to review what’s happens to other Housewives when they go too “dark” and heads get too big. Audiences have been known to turn on a dime against former fan favorites hell-bent on being nasty.

  6. Yeah can’t wait till these two turn on each other, Bethenny may start it cause she can’t
    maintain female friendships for long.

    1. You have to be very cautious with Scorpios, and particularly those who are not emotionally/spiritually balanced: they are loyal, territorial friends who are strategic and patient for your best interests, and absolutely will defend you to the death against any perceived threat..but if Carole ever makes the misstep to cross Bethenny in any way, mark my words and watch Bethenny metaphorically stomp her into that lovely Gazellian neck of hers with a Gucci Brogue stiletto.

      1. Wow. I see nothing of what you see. I think all the girls need to act like they are Luann’s friend, though. I am not a fan, never was, but they call themselves that. So stop being mean, all of them, and rally behind your friend. If she is in fact making a mistake, big deal, it’s hers to make. They all need to be happy for her. I think Luann accepted Bethenny’s apology for her horrible behavior. I know B has said the same exact thing since the beginning to Luann, quit being a HYPOCRITE. And I believe Luann knows Bethenny loves her even tho she knows who Luann really is. I believe that is why she forgave her. And Carole needs to forgive too. We all behave badly at times, and our friends should forgive us if we apologize. I love the show this year, as always.

  7. I for one think that too much is being made about talking about people behind their backs. Carole is right, as females do talk about friends that are not around. It’s not a bad thing. If I am with one friend and bring up another it does not mean it is behind their back, it simply means that all of my friends are not there. So everyone has to be present at every conversation? I had a friend that was doing harmful things to herself and turned to another friend to ask how we could make a difference. By the way the friend I turned to was the other’s twin sister.

    1. For me, intention is everything. The scenario you just described actually intended to HELP your friend. Your conversations ended up being a blessing as they were positively intended to be an agent of change for them. Friends who are earnestly discussing another friend in their absence with legitimate concern, desire, and actual plan of action to help them in some way is an entirely different animal than what these women are doing on RHoNY.
      I am blessed to have a gaggle of good girlfriends in my life with whom I share my deepest intimacies and vice versa, and sorry, but no, we do not use each other’s private lives and difficulties as gossip fodder on the phone, in the car, or over lunch with one another. We hold one another in high enough esteem to respect each other’s trials and tribulations and handle them with discretion. Issues anyone may have with each other are adressed and settled by the parties involved without ticker tape parade, peanut gallery, or amen corner chiming in from behind anyone’s back nor 2 ft. from their faces during road trips. If there is a severe crisis in effect that could literally harm someone’s life, livelihood, or domestic relationships, then it is left to those girlfriends closest with the strongest ties to the situation to discern how to move forward with intervention if deemed necessary, and how much information to reveal to others in the circle strictly on a need to know basis.

      The scanarios above are how my “friends” and try to be rocks for each other. But I don’t think FranknRad are actually trying to be friends to Jules on this show; we saw that from jump street with disrespectful way they rebuffed her hospitality as she tried to host them in the Hamptons. Though I believe Julianne entered this group dynamic open to connecting with the women on a deeper level, I don’t think anyone outside of Dorinda really gives a true damn about her issues beyond how it serves their purposes for camera time or the complication phase of their individual story arcs for the season.. I see the Downtown Demolition Twins, going beyond Julianne’s food issue and choosing to attack her home, her speech…they employ gas lighting tactics with smug rebuttles and sneers on their faces as they alternate between recoiling in mock horror from her, outright snubbing her, or sitting comfortably and cavalierly in judgement of her- which tells me we are not witnessing “friends” looking out for each other and discussing someone to earnestly get to a point of resolution -or support and productive input for them: what we are watching is Bethenny and Carole starring in a television reenactment of the worst scenes from “Heathers” .

  8. Ironic that in addition to Jules the only other people obsessed over her eating disorder are two women that look like THEY have eating disorders – Carol & Bethenny. They are probably mean because they are so hungry! When I saw Carole’s thighs at the skating rink, I gasped. Like pipe cleaners!

  9. I really like Carole and I like reading her blogs. I feel like Carole was showing real concern for Jules. If Jules did not want her eating disorder talked about, she should never have brought it up. And, has Jules never watched a housewives show before? Everybody talks about everybody behind their backs. That’s what keep the drama coming. Grow up Jules, and grown some thicker skin.

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