Carole Radziwill: Aviva’s Lies Are Legally Actionable

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Carole Radziwill is taking to her Bravo Blog to talk about #BookGate with Aviva Drescher. Carole says she could take legal action against Aviva’s slanderous accusations and slams Drescher for bringing up her family “The Kennedys” during their fight.

Carole writes, “Three things about this episode:

1. Slandering a person’s career is legally actionable.

2. Age-shaming women is abhorrent.

3. Attacking someone’s family is, too.

Aviva claims this is the dumbest fight in Housewife history but I promise you, it’s not. She gets into even dumber fights later on, stay tuned.

So first, Slander. Aviva lied on the show and then to cover up her lies she slandered my career on national television. On a show where not showing up for a dinner can launch a three-episode throwdown this isn’t some dumb “reality” fight. It’s not a joke, and she knows it and her publisher knows it. The lies she is promoting in the press and social media, and of course her scenes on RHONY, are all legally actionable. You can call someone a lousy writer. You can say you hate their book. You can even call a person “white trash” but you can’t go on television and slander a person’s career. It’s illegal, even on reality shows.

Second, Family. Aviva says she “hates me” in press interviews and calls me “Satan” on Twitter, that’s fine. She casually slanders my career (how I make a living) and also that of my former editor, Bill Whitworth. But that’s not enough. She also speaks in a disparaging way toward my late husband’s family. Really? Okay, Vivs. I hope that made you feel good. This is a television show. How low does she need to stoop to stay relevant?

Aviva should fact-check, or ask her Village to. I didn’t marry into the Kennedy family, I married Anthony Radziwill. I’m proud of him and his family, the Radziwills. They exist, they’re real, and they are separate from the Kennedys. It’s a family with cousins, like most families, but my in-laws are the Radziwills, Aviva. Have some respect, and if you must name drop, get it right.

My husband passed away nearly 15 years ago, and I have a friendly relationship with his extended cousin family, the exact one I want to have. I am very close to my mother-in-law, Lee, we see each other often. We enjoyed a vacation this past winter together with family friends, and ironically, I went to a wedding the day after Aviva’s attack with some of the Kennedy family and we had a nice time catching up. Aviva couldn’t sink lower if you stuffed her leg with rocks.

Third, Age-Shaming. Guess what? I’m 50! I should be drawn and quartered, I should have it seared on my chest. Aviva’s derogatory attitude toward women is repulsive. Even her image consultant friend flinches. I’m happy with my age. I celebrate women of all ages. Isn’t it time to stop our ageist culture where women are meant to feel bad about a number? I don’t feel bad about mine. No woman should. Last season she tried to age-shame Ramona. I might understand a little better if Aviva was “young” and didn’t understand how incredibly offensive she sounds, but she’s 45. (She lies and says 40, of course).

What Aviva said under her breath just loud enough for me to hear, by the way was — “At least I’m not 50 years old, without a husband.”

Is all of this because I said she hired a ghostwriter? She did.

Aviva has been comparing her “process” to Hillary Clinton in the press, by the way. Hillary was the First Lady of the United States, a Senator, a presidential contender, and our Secretary of State. She wasn’t a woman on a reality show trying to create a storyline.

Wait, I buried the lede in this first scene — I finally met Harry! This gets my vote for funniest moment in the episode. Even after being attacked and insulted I still keep my sassy!

How many times do I remind Aviva that she has never worked outside the home? OK, yes, a few. But she hasn’t. Just like I’ve never done the work, or had the privilege, of raising a family. What I wanted to say but couldn’t because of the show, is that she turns up this season as a writer talking about how fun it is to write and it’s totally disingenuous. Also, it’s just dumb. Raising a family is work and an honor but it isn’t publishing. Or being a doctor or accountant or sous chef for that matter. Don’t lecture me on my job and I won’t lecture you on yours. That’s how that works. If I had kids I hope I’d be lucky enough to be a stay at home mom. I presume it would be equally difficult and rewarding.”

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8 Replies to “Carole Radziwill: Aviva’s Lies Are Legally Actionable”

  1. Right on!!! I considered her remark about age offensive. If we are lucky we all get old… or older. Some of us age and gain wisdom and then there is Aviva… Love you on the show Carole. Just bought your book and gave it as a present to my friend who lost her husband last year!!! Thanks for writing such a great book!!!

  2. Carole had a right to feel demeaned as she did and Aviva was out of bounds being so insensitive with her probing to the point of insult.

    But in my opinion, Carole could have avoided an embarrassing scene at the hostesses house warming by telling Aviva she’s all wrong and exiting out gracefully.

    She reduced herself to Aviva’s level by engaging far too long. Again, is this really her nature or an expected outcome spurred on by the producers. ?

    God I hope not. I held Carole above this kind of bs. I hope this isn’t the way the season is heading. What a downer it would be.

  3. Carole has totally won me over. She was so boring last year and now I like her. She should send Aviva a fruit basket for finally making her interesting. Gotta hand to the RHONY I still think it is the best. Boring Luann comes back next week. Let’s hope it stays interesting.

  4. Carole, you were my favorite of all the RHNY; I am bewildered. I guess I thought you were so comfortable in your own skin I really didn’t see this coming. Aviva is wrong. I don’t think you had a ghost writer, I doubt very many would believe it ; if any do. You just need to chill out! You’ve got a wonderful career and your book a best seller and now a television deal. You’re way up there! I’m no spring chicken, lol, but 50 isn’t a big deal and after all Viv’s will be there soon enough! Let it go! Don’t buy into all this stupid drama. Like I said you’re above all this. But, I just remembered, this show has already been filmed, correct? So, it’s too late to give any advise. As if anyone reads this, lol. Carole all this stress isn’t good for you body or soul. “Take a Xanax”! No one thinks you had a ghost writer.

  5. Carole either needs to sue Aviva/Bravo or STFU. The incessant whining has gone on long enough. Try watching her tweets during an episode of RHONY. Its exhausting.

  6. Carole is a class act all the way. As a FIFTY year old woman ( also a stay at home mother) I take offense at Aviva’s ignorant remarks. Guess what, sister, you, too will be 50 soon, and you should hope to be as fabulous, sexy, and relevant as Carole is! The sad fact is, Carole does not fit in with this group of women. She is far above them in morals, class, and intelligence, and it will be a disappointing day when she realizes this and leaves the show. For now, though I will go on enjoying her contributions to an otherwise outrageous ” reality show”!

  7. I realize this episode is a year old and so is this article, but I’m just now catching up and, as a writer, I feel I need to attempt to defend Carole in this fight (though she really doesn’t need little ol’ me defending her). Writing is not in any way an easy task. So many people want you to think that it is, but it isn’t. Writing a novel or memoir isn’t something you do in a week, a month, or even a year. Any writer who tells you otherwise is not a writer. Real writers spend months, if not years, just outlining and planning a story before they even put pen to paper. It may not be organized, it may not be tangible, but trust me, it takes more effort than most people are willing to acknowledge. Some writers can yank out a full first draft in less than a month (more power to them because that is in no way the norm) but that is just the first draft, that’s the crap draft that no one but the writer ever sees. The average manuscript goes through multiple drafts before it even crosses an editor’s desk. Then there are more drafts, more rewrites, more edits. Did you see that 5-10 minute clip of Carole with her editor, a ream and a half of paper in front of them, correcting two words on page, what was it, 50 or such? That’s not even a fraction of what the publishing process is like. And before a writer can even get to the beautiful, sacred point in their career of meeting with editors and publishers, they spend years, nay lifetimes, honing their voice, their technique. They learn what makes a story (and it is so much more than a beginning, middle, and end), they learn what makes a character, they absorb the written word like a plant absorbs sunlight all in the hopes of finding the secret formula that is hidden somewhere in that amalgamation of pulp and ink. Writing is a career just like any other, yet, for whatever reason, every person who has a story thinks they can sit at a computer and type out a #1 bestseller or puts them on the same level as Poe, Faulkner, or Hemingway. This is in no way the case. May I remind everyone that most people had never heard of the Song of Ice and Fire series until Game of Thrones premiered on HBO. It doesn’t matter how fast you wrote your book, how easy it was, or even how talented you are, there is zero guarantee that your book will be a success or that anyone will remember it in a few years. So I understand when people tell me that I’m insane for dedicating my life to this career with total lack of promise. But for us writers, this isn’t a career, this is a calling, a passion, it is the reason we get out of bed in the morning and the reason we continue living. I am in no way the first to compare writing a book to birthing a child (hell, Carole did it herself in season 5), but it’s the closest simile to the truth. We may not be mothers or fathers to human children, but we have conceived and carried and birthed literary children who are our everything. To insult, demean, or belittle a writer’s work is to insult, demean, or belittle their literary child. To tell a successful writer of more than a decade that writing your first book was like writing a long email, is to tell a mother of three+ that having your first child was a slow, relaxing stroll in the park and you can’t wait to do it again. It makes you sound stupid and she has every right to ask what the hell is wrong with you.

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