Carole Radziwill Felt Sad for LuAnn de Lesseps

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Carole Radziwill is comparing her trip to the Berkshires at Dorinda’s to prison in her latest blog post. Radziwill says in watching last week’s episode she felt sad for LuAnn de Lesseps. She says the Countess is a decent woman trapped in an idea of who she should be.

“Who are the guards? Who are the inmates? We may all be inmates.

As Dorinda and Jules play Twister in the Billiard Room, we are playing Twist-err the Facts in the Kitchen. Watching the episodes is harder than filming them. I don’t know how any of you do it. It’s like reality re-arranged. There are things the ladies say they said that they never said. Then there are the things said that I said, that I never said. And the things I say that you don’t see me say. Realty Re-Shuffleboard.

I wasn’t going to write a blog this week. I was hoping to get another cartoon but my attempt to guilt my niece and nephew into drawing something this time failed. So here I am….

I didn’t want to go to the Berkshires. I wasn’t sure who would be there and frankly I had only spoken to Luann once in the past eight months (at Bethenny’s BBQ), and it didn’t go very well. Never mind any sort of apology, she didn’t even appear sorry for anything she’d said and even repeated the same BS about Adam and I. Again, to my face. Some of which you didn’t see. That explains a little why I’d rather not bump into her.

In retrospect, I should have stayed in NY and gotten my vagina zapped with Sonja.

But my feelings about Luann, once hard-boiled are now soft-boiled. I have soft-boiled feelings for Luann – oh, by the way, Sonja I trademarked the phrase “soft-boiled feelings” in 27 categories including food and alcohol. Lol.

I feel a bit sad for Luann in this episode, because I can see in reality what I couldn’t see in real life. She’s a decent woman trapped in an idea of who she should be. A lady who does this. A woman who likes that….She is well practiced at ignoring and or denying information that conflicts with her existing belief about herself. I am a girls-girl, I live by a girls-code. I don’t date younger men. It’s how she can believe that she will teach Sonja to drink in moderation and be more selective with men while holding a gin and tonic in her right hand and parading men through the townhouse with her left.

She holds so many contradictory beliefs and values in her head that when she is confronted, she simply can’t reconcile them. I’m no shrink, but she appears to be suffering from severe cognitive dissonance disorder. When confronted about her own aggressive behavior with men she instead talks about Ramona’s behavior in Turks without mentioning her own -– she did bring home a married man. She did the same thing in St. Barts. When confronted with her own hypocrisy, she calls others hypocrites. It’s kind of amazing.

Which is why when you see Luann’s lips moving, more often than not, she is not telling the truth. For the life of me I don’t know why she does it. No one does. Maybe years of covering up behavior that contradicts “the idea of her” she no longer knows the difference between truth and dishonesty? She lies about things that don’t need lying about. If you believe your thoughts are the truth does that make them the truth? Maybe it does. The truth about Lu is that she believes the stories she creates in her head, some of which are simply not true, which is why her stories never track.

Most recently her dating history with that crazy drunk Reeeeyyyyy. Or whether or not she knew Ramona (and Sonja) had dated her new boyfriend (she did). She even lied about saying she never implied she had a hand in Skinnygirl brand even though she had implied that just an hour earlier. And remember last year she couldn’t quite tell a coherent story of why she was so upset with me after we returned from Turks? Was it because I stormed into her room? Or was she suddenly furious I was dating Adam six months after I told her? Nothing made sense. You can ask me the same question year after year, and I will have the same exact story. It’s so much easier to be truthful. Maybe I’m just too lazy to lie.

When she says many times over the course of several episodes, “I apologized to Carole many times,” that too is a lie. Rewind the tape –- every single frame of it. It has been now nearly 10 months since Luann called me a bunch of sh–ty names, leaked fake stories to the press about my family, tried to trash my business, age-shamed, and made up lies about Adam and I. (And yes, I replied to fans who tweeted in my defense –- kill me). In all that time, she never texted, called, or reached out. I was upset but more at myself for trusting her as a friend. You can believe whomever you want. I don’t care. But I’ve never told an untruth or lie on this show or off it — except if you count the time I told Sonja she showed talent at burlesque. That was a little lie.

Thing is, I don’t need Luann to apologize. I’ve already forgiven her, though I don’t want to spend much time with her. I quietly wanted her to accept that she said terrible things about a friend, learn the lesson, and try to be better. Like the rest of us try to do all the time. Why does she need Ramona to tell her what any eight year old would know?

You may think Bethenny over-reacted or was all “mean girl” (to use that eighth grade expression) and maybe she was, but she has the one thing Luann lacks –- self-awareness. It’s a very good quality. Bethenny knows immediately that she said something to Luann that she is ashamed of saying and she apologizes. She doesn’t need someone to coach her through an insincere apology 10 months later. She called Luann a terrible name and the very same night she said she was sorry. No lying about apologizing. She actually apologizes. That very same night. And she should have. Does anyone see the difference?

The mis-spelled text last week was the first time Luann even acknowledged, let alone apologized for calling me a pedophile, which is a pretty sh–ty thing to call a friend, right? Let’s hope it’s the last.”

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  • Great blog, Carole. I usually think you are boring, but that is not the same as not being a fan. I also don’t think it is entertaining to watch anyone cook BK for their kids or bathe them. The few parent-child encounters I have enjoyed are when Bethenny had Bryn on her spin-off, and seeing Kingsly run! Also seeing Brianna give birth to her first son. I thought Heather’s son, Jax’s, BD party last season was pretty cool, too. But thinking Jules or Carole are boring TV, is very different that not caring for them. I like Carole and Jules when they are with the other women. And I very much like the fact that Carole so successfully articulated what it is about Luann that is “off.”
    The countess should have apologized and been truthful about the cruel, hateful things she said about Carole and Adam, while she was at the same time shielding Sonja from those who see her do the same, only with different men and many men when she is blacked out drunk, which is simply terribly unsafe for Sonja. Sonja is getting a little old to think herself 40. She embarrasses herself and others who are with her when she is out, and she is completely and totally delusional about her life. Bethenny absolutely depicted Sonja’s attitude last year and the way she lives, correctly relating it to being on a hamster wheel.
    I hope Bethenny apologizes publicly and in spades to Dorinda and Luann. For some reason I think Luann could be a good person, if she could just get out of her own way. I might even become a grudging fan if she ever became honest.

  • For some reason I link Dorinda, but I cannot stand the man she is with, all he is doing is dragging her down. She has lost a lot of weight, and all her so called friends does not help her. You know with friends like them and a man friend like hers she does not need enemy’s. I hope she gets strong again.
    I never thought I would like Bethenny but I do, and I do not think she owes anyone a apologize. She is just blunt I can understand that.

  • Suze☕️

    I liked Carole last season but I really don’t like her this season. She is so far up B’s bottom she will get stuck soon.

    • Amy

      Isn’t that the truth Suze:)

  • Sharon Horizons

    Yipes. This is one of the nastiest/passive-aggressive/judgmental/bitter-party-of-one housewife cast blogs I’ve ever read.

  • GIGICAT

    Honestly Carole, I feel sad for you. Living alone in that little apartment with no sunlight. Dating a guy who could be your son. Dressing like a teenager. Yes Carole, I feel sad for you. Your first season you seemed much more put together. Now that the “real” you is out for all to see, it’s just a sad situation. Listening to you last night talking about how you keep love at a distance? You need to get into therapy. Please.

  • apple

    That scene last night at Adam’s starter apartment, with the “blender” cake and him showing off his guitar skills…?
    She is 50 years old, worth 50 million dollars, and a very talented writer.
    Why?

    • I wondered when he was playing the guitar and she kept speaking? That seemed like a different kind of vibe after something was said about him serenading her. Also, when he said he had already written his own intro into the cookbook her response was a little Mom/Son to me. That surprised me since I did think she had eliminated the generation gap in their partnership. It doesn’t bode well for long term bonding, IMO.

  • Shirley

    Carole, you were always my favorite but NOT any more. Bethenny has a bad influence on you. You were always funny, but not mean or judgemental. Now you expect everyone to apologize exactly the way you think they should and now dictate which events you want to go to, or not go to, depending on your every whim and mood. Reality check: the fans are here to see everyone at everything, not just you and Bethenny. If you don’t want to be around certain people, then quit the show and create your own reality TV show: Bethenny and Carole: Mean is the New Black

    • I agree… I am over both of them.

  • moriah

    Me too! Carole was always my favorite but not anymore. The true uppity Carole is coming out. She’s too good to let Luann off the hook and basically prevented Bethanny from inviting her on the Mexico trip because she refused to go if Luann was there. She and Bethany are opportunists. She said last night she met her husband when he already had cancer and I thought Bingo! Don’t even tell me she wasn’t thinking hey it won’t take long for me to get my hands on his fortune. If there were a prenup she would not have married him for sure.

    • starr

      Moriah, the way I heard it from Carole is that her husband was diagnosed with cancer just before they got married. She obviously loved him & wanted to be with him to the end. She did grieve for a long length of time. It’s nice to see that she has a companion now. I wish her all the best.

      • You know…that moment where she was talking to Bethenny about the foster cat…(and Beth shut up and actually let someone else talk) was pretty cool. She described really well how animals help us…and rescue us right back. I miss that Carole…and I hope she wakes up and comes back soon.

    • I am beyond angry for you to post such a cruel post to include Caroles husband who lived (with her) and died of such a horrible disease. She knew he had cancer before they married and she married him and took care if him until his death You didn’t need to make the comments you made about her husband. That was not your best moment! Have a happy day!

    • They were engaged when he was diagnosed, though. He found out not long before they married, and she loved him. It was obvious in every word she speaks and every photo and every look on her face when she is thinking ofhim.

  • Carole – “about Adam and I” should be “about Adam and ME”. Sorry, but you are a professional writer. Check it out.

  • Mia

    This season, you are acting like high school..just so tight with Bethany, you are now acting like her! ( which is not a complement) she is vile, expect more from yourself..be you own person…she will turn on you too, at some point, if it gives her a storyline,,she is out for herself, you should remember that.