Bethenny Frankel Speaks Out About Jason Hoppy’s Arrest and Her Relationship With Dennis Shields

Real Housewives of New York City star Bethenny Frankel is taking time away from her relationship with Dennis Shields and speaking out about how Jason Hoppy’s arrest has traumatized her.

“He’s still in my life,” she says. “I saw him last week for his birthday, but I’m not ready to settle down right now.”

Frankel tells People that the media made her relationship with Shields a much bigger deal than it was. “The truth is, the world made it into something more than either of us have.”

“I care about him but the bottom line is he’s still married,” she continued. (Shields is in the process of divorcing his wife of more than 20 years.) “And I don’t want to stop the music yet. I’m not ready to be linked to any one person.”

“I’ve known him for 27 years and I care about him, but I’m keeping my options open,” Frankel says. “I don’t know what the future holds.”

Still, she adds, “It’s not a heartbreak story, it’s a heart healing story.”

After her long divorce battle with her ex-husband Jason Hoppy, Bethenny says, “In the past, I’ve made some choices that were questionable in my opinion, for myself, and I’m looking at that. Given the circumstances of my previous relationship and the torment and difficulties I’ve had the last five years, I need to balance and rest and reflect. It’s very easy to rush something or turn something into a solution, but right now I feel the solution is me spending time with myself and my daughter, trying to regroup and not hurry to find the answer.”

Hoppy was arrested and charged with harassment in the first degree and stalking in the fourth degree earlier this month and Frankel explains she’s much more at ease now. “I’ve been having a difficult time for a long time, and I’ve kept that in,” she admits. “I was walking on eggshells. I felt hopeless. But now I feel calmer. You don’t know how imbalanced you are until you feel a little balance. Sometimes I feel a little numb like someone who’s watching someone else’s life. It’s better now but still, it’s not party time.”

“I feel traumatized and unsure why any of this happened,” she says. “I’m trying to make better choices.”

“I would like to be with someone,” she says. “I don’t want to be alone, but I’m not going to make choices based on that feeling. I’m ready to meet new people and I’m hopeful. But I’m not desperate and I’m not looking. I don’t think about things like marriage or having other kids. That’s above my pay grade right now.”

She laughed, “I’m even considering online dating.”

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