Bethenny Frankel Speaks Out About Jason Hoppy’s Arrest and Her Relationship With Dennis Shields

Real Housewives of New York City star Bethenny Frankel is taking time away from her relationship with Dennis Shields and speaking out about how Jason Hoppy’s arrest has traumatized her.

“He’s still in my life,” she says. “I saw him last week for his birthday, but I’m not ready to settle down right now.”

Frankel tells People that the media made her relationship with Shields a much bigger deal than it was. “The truth is, the world made it into something more than either of us have.”

“I care about him but the bottom line is he’s still married,” she continued. (Shields is in the process of divorcing his wife of more than 20 years.) “And I don’t want to stop the music yet. I’m not ready to be linked to any one person.”

“I’ve known him for 27 years and I care about him, but I’m keeping my options open,” Frankel says. “I don’t know what the future holds.”

Still, she adds, “It’s not a heartbreak story, it’s a heart healing story.”

After her long divorce battle with her ex-husband Jason Hoppy, Bethenny says, “In the past, I’ve made some choices that were questionable in my opinion, for myself, and I’m looking at that. Given the circumstances of my previous relationship and the torment and difficulties I’ve had the last five years, I need to balance and rest and reflect. It’s very easy to rush something or turn something into a solution, but right now I feel the solution is me spending time with myself and my daughter, trying to regroup and not hurry to find the answer.”

Hoppy was arrested and charged with harassment in the first degree and stalking in the fourth degree earlier this month and Frankel explains she’s much more at ease now. “I’ve been having a difficult time for a long time, and I’ve kept that in,” she admits. “I was walking on eggshells. I felt hopeless. But now I feel calmer. You don’t know how imbalanced you are until you feel a little balance. Sometimes I feel a little numb like someone who’s watching someone else’s life. It’s better now but still, it’s not party time.”

“I feel traumatized and unsure why any of this happened,” she says. “I’m trying to make better choices.”

“I would like to be with someone,” she says. “I don’t want to be alone, but I’m not going to make choices based on that feeling. I’m ready to meet new people and I’m hopeful. But I’m not desperate and I’m not looking. I don’t think about things like marriage or having other kids. That’s above my pay grade right now.”

She laughed, “I’m even considering online dating.”

Photo Credit: Bravo


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  • SilverGlambert

    Good luck Bethey you are such a self centered b*£ch your daughter will will never get the unconditional love and mindful guidance she needs to be a self actualized adult

    • Bethenny loves Bryn more than life. She is a well balanced, happy child. The divorce would have been over in the usual year had it not been for the Mama’s boy wanting what he wasn’t entitled to. Refusing to leave the apartment she paid for, while she not only paid the bills, all of them on the apartment, the mortgage, the electricity, EVERYTHING, PLUS $12,000 a month in spousal support for FOUR YEARS. He worked with her company for 1/ 40th of the time it took for HER to build it, and he left the marriage with 1/4th of her money. If anyone loves money more than Bryn, it’s that psycho Jason. I would leave immediately and find a country with no extradition until Bryn reaches majority, and run my business from there. Simply because she grew up with money being either none or overmuch, making her need to, for her own piece of mind, become successful on her own, without the need for a man doesn’t make her self centered. Her life revolves around her much loved daughter, she didn’t choose her upbringing, but she is choosing Bryn’s. She tried way, way, way harder than he did to keep that marriage together. On the WAY HOME from the hospital, with their newborn infant, he spoke OUT LOUD about their having their SECOND child, while his 3 day old infant was sleeping right there, apparently not enough for him already. Now THAT IS FUCKING SELF-CENTERED AND FREAKY. He often said that during special times with Bryn. I wondered if it was just me thinking that was chillingly freaky, so I showed my husband of 31 years, without telling him why. I said I wanted him to see the baby, as we both love them, naturally. He said “why is he saying he wants another baby when he hasn’t even put his newborn baby into her own bed yet” So, it’s not just me, or just women who believe him to be unbalanced. She raised herself and didn’t live with parents after 14. Maybe give her a fucking break. Her daughter means more to her than anything in the world.
      Do you know her or something, well enough to say with certainty that she doesn’t have unconditional love for her daughter? How cruel of you.

  • Michelle

    I feel for Bethenny. This divorce is really messy and it’s probably both their faults. We have choices and some bad ones have been made by them both. I can’t imagine getting to the point of having your ex arrested. I don’t believe for a minute that it was an easy decision for her. It sounds like it brought about a result that has brought this divorce back to the middle ground but in the end, I still say, it’s Bryan who’s going to know this has happened. It’s her that will be hurt. Back to those choices again.

    I am glad B is taking a break from men. She has so much to work through to be a better person before she can be the best person with a partner. She’s working her way back into my good books.

    • barbara

      That was one of the truest statements made about Bethenny and Jason. Well done Michelle. I agree completely. I don’t understand all the hate that seems to be thrown her way, cause I find her truly entertaining. There isn’t a housewife on any of these shows with a sharper, funnier, quicker wit then Bethenny.

      • Michelle

        I myself have ridden a roller coaster of feelings concerning Bethenny. I didn’t like her last season though it did take damn near the whole season before I would admit it. I’ve always been a fan of hers, but she has made it hard to hang on. I can only hope that this divorce might be back on track; she’s made the decision to not confuse it more with another man; and that the next season would be the lovable, funny, witty and the not so unkind and judgmental B. She’s a very complicated creature that I don’t always believe will find true happiness…….but I only wish the best for her.

        • barbara

          I have been on the same ride with Bethenny, but have come back around. If you mean by happiness a man, you may be right. There is nothing wrong with being single the rest of her life though. Some just don’t do well in that kind of relationship. But her happiness I think is in her love for Bryn. I like you, wish for her the best.

          • Michelle

            Re the happiness comment, yes as far as a man is concerned but I too don’t think you have to necessarily have to have a man to be happy. She has a daughter who can fill any void she might think is missing. I think happiness comes from within and it’s a decision we make.

  • Barb Jean

    Cannot stand this woman

  • One Rotten Egg

    Hope Bryn doesn’t become a basket case like her mom…poor little thing.

  • Apple

    Oh…the media made it into a big deal. Of course, you could have just said the relationship wasn’t that serious at the reunion, if that were true, instead of calling the man’s daughter while filming and having her testify on national TV that you are not an adulterer. You are still an adulterer. I don’t care, but you are, cause he is married and that’s how that works.
    But now we are having a “difficult time” and we are feeling “hopeless” and “tormented” and “walking on eggshells” again.
    Hey! I know! Let’s have your daughter’s father arrested and plastered all over the tabloids, sell the newly renovated condo which you claimed gave us such peace last month , write another book telling people how to “relationship”, and troll for our next victim.
    Girl…you so crazy.
    No. I mean for real…like freaking psychotic.

  • watching in ohio

    You will NEVER find happiness because the world revolves around you..lying little narcissist! You will die alone! I hope Shields found out how “vicious” and “awful” you are! I hope he moves on before you do to him what you do to all men who get involved with you! That poor little girl to have a mother like you! I feel sorry for her! It was JH misfortune to be trapped by you..you treated him like crap and now you are attempting to completely destroy him and ruin that little girl and screw her up like you are screwed up! You seek to remove the only stability your daughter has! Shame on you! There is a foul word for women like you! I pray God judges you for the evil you have done!

  • Frank Van Der Heijden

    Carole said a few seasons ago that she was considering anal sex….maybe that´s what Bethenny needs