Ashley Darby surprised some fans when she revealed during part two of the Real Housewives of Potomac reunion that she and husband Michael Darby have separated.
The couple married in May 2014 and dated for two years prior. Viewers saw that they have certainly had their share of tough times on the show… mainly surrounding running of their restaurant. With fights so explosive that Ashley threatened divorce.
They have not decided whether or not to dissolve their marriage, but Ashley is opening up about the difficult situation in a new interview.
â€œHeâ€™s my person,â€ she tells PEOPLE. â€œWeâ€™re taking the time to evaluate exactly what we expect from our relationship and if both of us can give each other what we need. We still really care about each other, so the foundation is there. Itâ€™s just a matter of repairing some of the faults in the foundation.â€
The couple hasn’t lived together since February, although they are still working together at the restaurant.
â€œWe are 50-50 partners,â€ she explains, adding that the business is a dream (and a big financial investment) she wouldnâ€™t just walk away from. â€œWe both share in everything that goes on there and thatâ€™s not going away, like a child. You canâ€™t just get rid of your child. Weâ€™re co-parenting!â€
They also spend time together socially. â€œIt is a very small town, so we have common friends and we go to the same events. The only difference now is we just retreat back to our separate quarters,â€ she says. â€œIt took me this long to talk about it because I wanted to deal with it in private, since it was something that I wasnâ€™t really comfortable with or sure how to explain at first.â€
So, why did the couple split? â€œSheâ€™s in her 20s,â€ Michael, 57, said on the reunion. â€œSheâ€™s feeling out who she is going into her evolving life and future. And Iâ€™m at my age, coming through the end of my career, looking to all kinds of things that are very different from some of the things I am looking for.â€
But the restaurant has been the main issue, even halting their plans to have kids. â€œIt was definitely an emotional roller coaster,â€ she tells the site. â€œAll the trials and tribulations one goes through with opening a new business? It was challenging. It took a toll on me personally and on our marriage. Being in business with your spouse is certainly not for the faint of heart.â€
â€œBusinesses, they come and go,â€ she says. â€œTheyâ€™re not permanent. So, like, maybe in five years if itâ€™s doing better or we decide to not have it anymore, then weâ€™d be sitting back thinking like, â€œOh my gosh, we let something so temporary affect the connection that we have with each other.â€™ Thatâ€™s the reason that I didnâ€™t put the gas pedal on getting the divorce immediately.â€
â€œItâ€™s really not good to keep it a trend just going downward. You have to stop at some point and think, â€˜Can we go upward?â€™ And thatâ€™s when we decided to separate,â€ she says. â€œWe just had to stop being in each otherâ€™s faces and constantly talk about the restaurant and get back to being our fun-loving selves individually.â€
â€œRelationships take a lot of work, especially when you have tribulation. And if you feel thereâ€™s an inkling of possibility, itâ€™s worth investing your time to see if you can make it work,â€ she continues. â€œI would much rather take the time to see if its possible for us both to be happy. I canâ€™t just throw it away because Iâ€™m connected to [Michael] in a way I canâ€™t explain or put into words or even fully understand myself.â€
But Ashley admits time apart from Michael has been difficult. â€œItâ€™s very hard for me,â€ she admits. â€œIâ€™m not used to this. Iâ€™m not used to not being with him and waking up and making him coffee in the morning. Itâ€™s been an adjustment. Thereâ€™s a little bit of a void because this is the person that I thought I was going to share the rest of my life with. For that to be unraveled feels very foreign.â€
â€œI do love him and I care about him so much,â€ she adds. â€œBut having love and admiration for someone â€” you realize that thatâ€™s really not all it takes in a relationship.â€
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