Alexia Echevarria is taking to her Bravo Blog this week to explain why she decided to open up about her ex-husband and the father of her sons. Alexia explains she tried to shelter her boys from the darkness of their father’s past, but she decided it was important to finally open up about it.
Alexia writes, “It’s really difficult to have to talk about something that happened 23 years ago. Something that stirs so many mixed emotions — happiness, sadness, fear, shame, guilt. Something that no matter how much I tried to hide it, erase it, and forget about it still haunts me today. At the same time, it’s uncomfortable to have to speak about my ex-husband, the biological father of my children, after we have been legally divorced for over 17 years. As you all know, I’ve been happily married to Herman for the last 13 years. Peter and Frankie have always lived with me and Herman. Basically my boys have been blessed with having two fathers in their lives.
I was 23 years old when I met my ex-husband and he was 25 . A nice, happy, sweet person with a huge heart and good looks. My father had recently passed away and my mom had just moved back full time to Spain. I was alone in Miami and had graduated from college. I had lost what I loved most in my life, my father, from a brain tumor. He was 52 when he passed away and my mother had moved so far away. Only recently do I realize that it’s important for me to talk about it, especially with Peter, because it seems to be bothering him quite a bit since he found out about it through other means, and it’s putting a deep burden in our relationship. Peter has been going through so much psychological trauma, and we need to get to the bottom of all of the things that are truly bothering him in order for us to heal.
I never talked about it with him because I felt ashamed. I never found the right moment in our lives. Furthermore, I wanted to protect him from that pain. I always wanted him to get to know his father as the loving person that he is and not pass judgment on him for the mistakes he made. Peter Jr. was only 3 months old when his father went into prison. His father was released 4 1/2 years later and returned home with us to be in Peter’s life again. A few months later I was pregnant with Frankie. This episode is just an introduction to my story… The story that I’ve wanted to shelter my boys from, but today I’m exposing and sharing it with all of you.
So Peter and Frankie are spending a lot more time together these days. They spend lots of hours in the studio listening to music. We made a studio for them, because we know how important and therapeutic music is for Frankie. Frankie loved to rap/freestyle before the accident. Rap/hip hop was his passion, and I know that God will bless him again one day with that ability. He had amazing talent that I didn’t even know about. Meanwhile, music seems to motivate him and his speech and language. Peter admits that his new found love for music is because of his brother. He also tells me that even though he was the older brother, he looked up to Frankie in so many ways. I’m hoping Peter will stick to this and turn it into a business. He needs to feel passionate about something to motivate him and get him out of the depression he’s feeling. I feel that seeing his brother making progress every day will motivate him to want to do the same with his life. I myself have become a fan of hip hop! Anything to bring my boys together and our family.
I’m so relieved that my mom is here with me to help with Peter. I’ve always relied and trusted in my mother. She is a very wise and experienced woman and gives me a lot of psychological and emotional stability. I have a very good relationship with my mom. She’s my best friend. I feel I can speak to her about anything, and I know Peter feels the same, which is important. I feel she has a solution to every problem and she doesn’t even get upset about it. She has a very open mind and is extremely cool and nonjudgmental. My mom has been in Madrid, Spain for the last 23 years, but our relationship is the same. My mom loves a lot of the things I love, and one of them is champagne. LOL!”
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